One of those 'wtf am I doing days'

but at the moment I’d like to have a decent pension to enjoy at the end.

If you live to get it you’ll be at an age when you are incapable of enjoying many of the things you dream of doing. I had a chat with a friend about how long he intended to keep on working to guarantee a comfortable retirement including exotic travel plans, a year later he died of brain cancer. My uncle was always talking about what he was going to do in retirement, he never made it either. How many people do you know who are poor in retirement? A lot less than are under 40 and struggling I bet. Society doesn’t let old people go cold or hungry, only young ones – old people vote.

I’ve only ever had one pension plan, an obligatory company thing. I cashed it in when I left. Oh the fun I had with a that cash, and the things I did taught me the skills to start a successful business.

Live for the moment, cross bridges when you come to them and burn them once you’ve crossed because life is a short one-way trip.

Sorry to hear about your mates NZCol – seriously unsettling.

Knowing what you do and where you do it you could easily go contracting for a while either work/break/work/break or 3 days a week – GDPR scrum is happening. And then you’ll need another campervan.

Ha i’ve just sold my campervanbut yes there’s lots of options. When you get to a certain age and people you know and love keel over you do tend to re-evaluate !!

Anyone else have moments when they just think that life is too short and precious to fanny around doing things they frankly hate ?

Every friggin day buddy, but bills need paying and kid needs feeding. I have come to the conclusion that unless you have loads of disposable cash the only way of getting off the hamster wheel is to accept a lifestyle outside of the materialistic & capatalist one that society is based around. Tricky.

Firstly – my sympathy is with you NZCol

Anyone else have moments when they just think that life is too short and precious to fanny around doing things they frankly hate ?

Yes. After my dramatic weekend (you can view it in my forum history if you are remotely interested) I find myself prescribed beta blockers and seeking counselling for overwhelming anxiety. I’m 44 and to paraphrase, WTF.

I’ve had yesterday and today off sick, saw a GP yesterday and phoned my employer offered Counselling service today. Just as background I have a stressful (in my eyes anyway) US Corp Sales job, and we’ve had 3 family members die over the past 2 months.

I’m genuinely sitting here wondering what its all for. I do have an opportunity to emulate mike smiths para above in Barbados, but the reality is as he says, I’d swap sun and less stressful living for many other aspects of my life including direction for the kids as he says – not “trapped” in my view but certainly indisposed to their growth.

I don’t hate my job either, but just feel I need to make changes to make life more bearable. Some of those I’ve started immediately, having coincidentally read Damon Hill autobiography recently and learned how he too became who he was in 1996 by social, media and pressure of expectation rather than being the real Damon Hill.

I’m certainly starting to re-evaluate at the moment, I’ve no idea where it’ll end up.

I think we should all gather in a circle and hold hands !

Interesting and not too far away from my post a few minutes ago about being successful. Because I too am one who KNOWS that having the most toys at the end counts for naught, but I seem powerless to be able to make that change at this moment. So – another day at the coalface………

Although – let’s not get too empowered, if we all decide to jack it in simultaneously who’s going to reboot the servers for the nation. And Audi will go out of business in a few weeks……

but at the moment I’d like to have a decent pension to enjoy at the end.

My father in law retired at 55 after a very well paid career, had great plans for retirement. Died of cancer 3 years later. My dad retired in September aged 66. In November he found out he has stage 4 oesphageal cancer.

I see my wife 3 days out of 7 as she works for “a large IT consultancy”.

I am spending a fair amount of time considering if I should be doing something else with my time… a 3 or 4 day week may be possible but ideally I’d like to find the job that makes it feel like I’m doing 0.

NZCol – sorry to hear about your friends.

ads678 – Member

I need to do something else. I just don’t know what else to do. Which is equally frustrating, maybe more.

This sounds like me. I keep thinking of something I’d like to do, that would really fulfil me & the only things I can think of I have no idea how to do at all.
It would require years of re-training which is possible at some point perhaps, but I don’t see how at the moment with a young daughter and me as the only source of income.

NZCol, Stumpy01, ads678;

While resting and preparing mentally to go back to work tomorrow I just watched a film called The Secret, which was recommended to me yesterday. It also exists as a book. Now, there’s enough content in there to have STW frothing for weeks, but there’s also enough thought provocation and insight to help maybe all of us commenting in here. Essentially its about not attributing any time to negatives, but actively engaging the mind on the positives whether real or desired – no tricks, no meditation just a shift in thought process.

FWIW, I can name several instances where I have (albeit accidentally to this point) used the methods within and they have worked. It could be the best 90 mins of mine, and perhaps your futures, worth a shot maybe. Available free to watch on YouTube, I found it quite powerful.

a job picking up and delivering cars right across the UK,

Bloke delivered my new car 18 months ago said he owned a business doing this. Also sounded like he was doing alright out of it – property, holidays etc. He had to do mine because they’d messed up and not had the delivery until a day later than promised so he just did it himself. Rocked up at mine, I said “Know hwere you’re going to get back?” Not really, he said… Didn’t care – was just going to pay whoever whatever to get himself home (100 miles away). Dropped him off at the train station. Point is, I thought – that’d be OK for a job.

And otherwise, I’ve just gone down to a 4 day week to spend an extra day with my daughter (18 months). Spent last year trying to get a promotion & payrise but that would have involved 5 days, more stress. ***k that, its way more fun hanging out with my girl.

Kryton57 – Member

NZCol, Stumpy01, ads678;

While resting and preparing mentally to go back to work tomorrow I just watched a film called The Secret,

Cheers for the recommendation – I might dig that out….!

It seems there are more young folk are getting cancer these days. Someone i know has been diagnosed with a brain tumour. Can’t operate so its terminal, they are young and married. Its just horrible.

It does make you sit up and think where are are going, daft things we spends our time on. Make the most of it, spend time with family and friends, speak to that person you’ve been meaning to.

Do not spend more time at work than you have to, you will not get thanked for it.