- My turn to help someone in need :)
Just wanted to share the news with you all, after all the help you have given us.
Happened to see by chance a gofundme page for a man that lives about a mile away from me. I have seen him around town and said hello to him a few times, but not for a while. This is why. https://www.gofundme.com/help-to-buy-medical-equipment
Just spoke to him on the phone, his situation and everything him and his family are going through is scarily similar to our situation.
I explained to him unfortunately I am not in a position to financially help, but I can help them. I forwarded my blog address to him so he could see I do understand. Lyanda’s wheelchair, walking frames, bath seats and other items are all being given to him by me so he can have a better quality of life.
Also, he has alienated himself, much the same as Lyanda did, from the outside world. I have made it perfectly clear that some mornings I will pop down to see them. Have already discussed taking him for coffee so his wife can have a break and also for his self confidence building.
Like we agreed, until someone experiences these life changing circumstances they cannot fully understand or offer any words of wisdom. I understand too well from each of their points of view what they are all going through. He said all he wants, apart from needing the equipment, is some emotional support and a friend he didn’t need to constantly explain himself too. So hopefully this new found possible friendship will benefit us both.
That is all. Finally, my turn to be able to help, hopefully in a major way.Posted 2 months agotheotherjonvSubscriber
this is why people on here helping you when you need(ed) it isn’t charity. It’s because they know when you can, you pay it forward, and in turn hopefully the person you help can do the same. And little by little, ‘things’ get better and the world is a bit of a nicer place for those that can help and who get the help.
And if everyone benefits a little bit, we all benefit a lot.Posted 2 months ago
This morning, I carried the electric wheelchair out of the house and down the 14 steps for the last time. Really mixed emotions in doing so, and the half hour journey over to Brian’s house. Shed a few tears on the way and fond memories were overflowing. I know Lyanda would have wanted me to do this as much as i wanted to. It will now benefit someone else in need and hopefully give him the same sense of independence and freedom Lyanda experienced, all thanks to all of you.
Brian is a really nice bloke. Had a cuppa with him and chatted for an hour before I had to go and get the little one from nursery. He said he really wanted to keep in touch and hopefully meet up now and again. He said it was nice, in a strange way, to be able to talk about things without worrying of the response he would get. He asked what it was like from the carers side of things. I tried explaining from my point of view what his wife was likely to be thinking. He seemed pleased about this and I hope gave him a rough look at things from her perspective.
All in all, another very emotional day. Sadness and upsetting, but happy too, knowing this will benefit him and help him live his life the best way he can from now on.Posted 2 months agofreeagentMember
Well done for getting through another tough day.
I’m pretty sure you’ll get as much out of this situation as Brian will.. i’ve taken a bit of comfort in passing some of my late brothers things onto worthy recipients over the last couple of years.
Just a thought – you might find that yours/Brians kids could find it useful to talk about the difficult time they’re going through..?Posted 2 months ago
That is one thing we discussed, getting all the kids together. It turns out that their kids went to the school ours goes to until about 2 years ago, when his problems got worse and they had to move. That would explain how we sort of knew each other before. There is a possibility they know each other already, which would be nice.Posted 2 months ago
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