Yeah video games definitely trump films in their ability to actively scare you.
I had to stop playing “Silent Hill” at one point as it just got too scary and weird
There’s probably something there about how films are portraying (a) reality, but video games rely on your filling in the gaps yourself (because of the graphics, the controls etc), and so can get inside your head more.
I couldn’t stand Funny Games – it just annoyed me more than anything. The Vanishing I remember Kermode saying was the most terrifying film he’d ever seen that isn’t the Exorcist; having read a quick precis of the plot I definitely won’t be watching it. It sounds like it really does that thing of generating dread and horror through seemingly mundane and everyday scenes, almost the exact opposite of gore.