Just had the police around, I've been accused of racism

For sure. I’ll admit here as a very mild mannered person I am inclined to approach these situations in a very even handed way, and if the other person is confrontational about it I’m extremely unlikely to escalate and more likely to shrug and walk away – either they’re the sort of person that’ll never see reason, or they’re the sort that will in hindsight think ‘yeah, he’s right. I might not do it again’. Either way, at least you’ve given the latter a chance to happen.

And if he’s a giant with a clear bad attitude then yes, discretion and valour maybe comes into play.

In which case why the OP’s strong desire on this occasion to use the parent and child space anyway?

He didn’t. He parked in another part of the car park. He did say all the P&C’s were taken but didn’t say he wanted one. He was being extremely public spirited in trying to ensure they stayed free for people who did need them.

presumably left in the car with his wife

Wife was carrying child, op was too lazy, plus he couldn’t carry as he was looking for a fight 🙂

I do think there’s a bit more to this than the op has told us though.

I have a story for most of these situtaions. Some very recent. I am not big but when I was younger and played football I did used to get in quite a few arguments, so being punched in the face and punching back doesn’t really scare me tbh.

Anyhow

1) Doing my rehab from a major knee injury which basically made it difficult to walk for 18mths. I was riding my doad bike and a guy overtook me as I was indicating to turn right on a mini roundabout. He came so close he brushed past my outstretched arm.

I stopped and mouthed what the **** and he slammed the brakes on. I gave him both barrels for putting my life in danger. What looked like a giant got out of the car and his loudmouth woman got out too. I ended up in a bit of a scuffle with him (He was the physical aggressor). I was in full lycra, spds and off the bike wasn’t really very stable at all even without my stupid shoes on. After a nurse came over, said she witnessed everything and offered her details. She also sorted all the blood from my bust nose which I didn’t even realise I had. In the end I decided that it was a week before Christmas, my wife didn’t like me riding on the roads anyhow and I just couldn’t be arsed. I also though the guy was probably going to be waiting for the knock which can be as bad as the knock itself.

2) My daughter queues for the school bus. She gets there early and likes to get her seat. About 2wks went by when the same mother would arrive just before setoff, walk her daughter past my girl (And others) and just join the queue at the front. My daughter mentioned it so I pointed it out to the woman and said we were all queing and she was welcome to join the back. Some bloke started shouting at me that he had his daughter at the front and she was just joining her. To which I said he was also welcome to join her at the back of the queue. He then looked at everyone else (Mothers) and asked if anyone else had an issue and I was just being a knob to which the lilly livered mothers all said it wasn’t a problem. Funnily enough she has never done it again. The guy, well he was old enough to be my father so I wasn’t interested in physical stuff, especially in front of my daughter.

3) My son has been dealing with bullies for a few months now. Old friends who have matured quicker and have been making his life hell at his school and out of school at football. He made the mistake of telling a girl ‘friend’ what he thought of them on snapchat and funnily enough she screen shotted it and showed it to all these boys. My lad ends up with 7 boys around him at lunch time threatening to beat him up. Big lesson learnt regarding girls, messages and friendships for my boy. Anyhow it gets dealt with at school and I cant complain too much. But it continues at football whichi used to manage and would have cracked some heads together. However the coaches now are pathetic and by turning a blind eye, encourage the environment. On Saturday we had to drop my son off at football and then park up. When we got back, he wasn’t right, he wasn’t right through the game and at the end we waited for him to come over. One of the coaches who I dislike comes bounding over and tells me my son told him to eff off. No explaination, just said it and went off. So I ask my son whats going on and he tells me they were doing wrestling for a warm up (WTF), he got thrown to the floor by one of the bullies and another lad (Not a bully) accidentally kicked him in the head with his studs. My son is on the floor almost in tears with the bullies laughing at him and the coach just tells him to get up, to which my son told him where to go (Ie standing up for himself in the only way he can, a bit like the phone message). It was made worse by the fact the other coach noticed my son in pain and upset, came over and then the original coach then started showing fake concern. So I make my son apologise to the coach and the coach just grunted back which got my back up. It was time to sort things out (I had been instructed not to go around all the parents houses when I found out about this in the first place). I ended up right in the coaches face, told him if I ever see him condoning bullying, ignoring a kid in pain at football or tbh being nasty to my son I would deal with it and I wouldn’t waste my time swearing at him. He tried to be a big man about it but every time asked him to do something about it he wouldn’t. That’s the things with bullies, they prey on people being quiet about things. When people are noisy and stand up for themselves they quickly back down.

Final part to the story is most of the bullies were stood watching with their dads (Most of them all play for the same team). I turned around and pointed every single one of them out and told them if I heard another mention of bullying either at football or school I would be turning up at their houses to discuss it with their dads in the same manner. All the dads did an about turn and dragged their little turds away with them as quick as they could.

Wow, that was like therapy getting that out. Its been quite stressfull dealing with bullying

I was in full lycra, spds

SPD’s on a road bike, I’d have punched you too.

The guy, well he was old enough to be my father so I wasn’t interested in physical stuff

I should hope not in a bus queue you perv. Ageist

Got bored, didn’t read the rest 🙂

That was a good read; I was right there with you, man…!

🙂

Sorry gary, not sure of the correct term on road bikes.

Teasel, I could feel you there.

In which case why the OP’s strong desire on this occasion to use the parent and child space anyway?

He didn’t. He parked in another part of the car park. He did say all the P+C’s were taken but didn’t say he wanted one. He was being extremely public spirited in trying to ensure they stayed free for people who did need them.

No the OP’s post was fairly clear in the way that it was written that when he arrived all the P+T spaces were taken so he parked elsewhere.

The likelyhood is that if a P+T space was free then he’d have parked in it, despite because of sleeping child and wife remaining in car then not really needing to use the space as intended i.e. to unload single or multiple children from a car.

Sounds like his own worse hypocrite!

Civilized men are more discourteous than savages because they know they can be impolite without having their skulls split, as a general thing. Robert E. Howard.

despite because of sleeping child and wife remaining in car

Where did you read that bit, or have you just made it up?

Local supermarket child and dont give a shit parent area, next to staff smoking area and unlit due to broken light, more like the local dogging area than somewhere safe to unload children

I do challenge antisocial behaviour but my mantra is pick and chose your battles. Not much point challenging a ned – thats going to go nowhere and chose the issues that really matter to call folk out on.

Agent007 I think you’ve just exposed yourself as the delightful chap you really are.

Gary_M – Member
presumably left in the car with his wife
Wife was carrying child, op was too lazy, plus he couldn’t carry as he was looking for a fight
I do think there’s a bit more to this than the op has told us though.

Gary_M, I’m puzzled by you thinking there is more to it, I might see if my wife will post to verify I’ve been accurate in my description of events. I’m currently on crutches after a bad ankle break in the Alps at the Megavalanche, and numerous operations and early removal of metalwork due to infection, which means I can’t walk unaided at the moment, I wasn’t being lazy!

Agent 007, my wife and child were with me, which makes me even more embarrassed by my actions.

which makes me even more embarrassed by my actions.

Don’t be too hard on yourself chap. You had the balls to stand up to selfish behaviour.

Let it go and move on 🙂

…or admit the truth that you called him a p*k* 😀

Are you Ronnie Pickering?

So when the OP pointed out he wasn’t racist did the officers put the recruitment form away?