[Closed] Just had the police around, I've been accused of racism

So he made a complaint about you based on your skin colour. That makes him the racist.

I agree, but there's a deeper social issue here, in that there are vast portions of society who belive they are more important than others, and will try anything when confronted with their bad behaviour, sometimes it's pulling the race card, sometimes it's drivers saying cyclists shouldn't be on the road, etc. Etc. It's simply their way of justifying thier inconsiderate behaviour in their own minds.

I don't think I deserve the police around and accusations of racism.

So even though the guy is being a dick and lying about it, and making it racist, you don't want the police to investigate? That's their job, they don't know he's lying.

mikey74 - Member

He's being an idiot for playing the race card in a non racial situation, but you're being an idiot for expecting preferential treatment be given to people just because they choose to have kids. IMO disabled spaces should be enforceable, but family spaces? No, screw that. Family spaces should be done away with completely.

+potato

He carried a small carrier back to his Porsche 911

Aha, perhaps it was simply the 911 that made the OP see red. Guys a prick clearly 🙄

agent007 - Member
Perhaps his kids were in the store with their mum. Perhaps he has mobility issues or chronic pain but is not yet in receipt of a disability badge.

In which case he ought to have mentioned them but seemingly didn't. We can all jump to incorrect conclusions and maybe the OP did but the odds are he didn't based on his post.
I get that you're of the view you can use these spaces when YOU decide, hence the supposition in defence of the other party, but my moral compass points towards more consideration for others.

but my moral compass points towards more consideration for others.

What like not calling a random stranger you don't even know 'a prick'?

you're being an idiot for expecting preferential treatment be given to people just because they choose to have kids

Park where you like though, for me - just allow people to think what they like of you while you do it 🙂

This has been brought up in a couple of threads recently, I've done the same as the op on multiple occasions but find myself biting my tongue more and more because I figure on a long enough time scale it'll end in violence.

Those spaces are a god send if you're on your own with small children. Especially if you have more than one. And it saves you having to worry about dinging someone else's car.

If you anyone thinks it's acceptable to take these spaces when you don't need them perhaps next time imagine your wife, sister, mother etc struggling to carry a baby in a car seat while walking hand in hand with a toddler through the car park. Maybe in the rain.

agent007

But how do we or the OP know? Perhaps his kids were in the store with their mum. Perhaps he has mobility issues or chronic pain but is not yet in receipt of a disability badge. Did the OP ask this before shouting 'prick' at him?

In my experience everyone doing this has an excuse on the tip of their tongue. Usually obvious improbable bullshit.

but you're being an idiot for expecting preferential treatment be given to people just because they choose to have kids.

I'd like you to remember that when our kids, which we raised, are paying for your pension.

Those spaces are a god send if you're on your own with small children. Especially if you have more than one. And it saves you having to worry about dinging someone else's car.

They are but you'd have to have had kids to understand that (along with just how hard it is).

Getting young kids in and out of cars, with seats and paraphernalia, can be difficult.

Which is why I park in a remote corner of the car park. Plenty of room away from the lazier members of society.

but you're being an idiot for expecting preferential treatment be given to people just because they choose to have kids

It's entirely sensible for supermarkets to give parents with young kids preferential treatment

They buy shed loads more stuff, especially high margin items, than single people.

Talking about car park restrictions and race is kind of a diversion. The core issues here are people who think they can do what they want knowingly to the detriment to others.

That all sound a bit peace and love, but it's a real global social issue, and it's mainly because some think that they should never even be slightly inconvenienced by others, which is a pretty destructive way of thinking.

God forbid you inconvenience me, how very dare you, you've caused me so much disruption it made me 32 seconds late to my unimportant shopping trip.

Those wider parent/child bays are a godsend with three kids under five with or without the bulky items you've just bought.

They are but you'd have to have had kids to understand that (along with just how hard it is).

Just how hard, really? When my two were young most supermarkets didn't even have these parent and child spaces. Yet we seemed to manage perfectly fine despite having a 3 door Peugeot. Don't remember it ever being that much of a hasstle!

Bloody foreigners, coming over here and taking our parent and child spaces

Just how hard, really? When my two were young most supermarkets didn't even have these parent and child spaces. Yet we seemed to manage perfectly fine despite having a 3 door Peugeot. Don't remember it ever being that much of a hasstle!

But enough of a hasstle for you to have to park there to get bulky items in to your car these days.....

Just how hard, really? When my two were young most supermarkets didn't even have these parent and child spaces. Yet we seemed to manage perfectly fine despite having a 3 door Peugeot. Don't remember it ever being that much of a hasstle!

Half an hour ago you were saying how you feel entitled to park in these spaces when you have "bulky items".

It sounds to me like you view your own needs as important, but tend to minimise or show disdain for the needs of others.

Isn't the core issue people who can't control themselves and verbally abuse strangers?

Piss off nob'ead.

Just how hard, really? When my two were young most supermarkets didn't even have these parent and child spaces. Yet we seemed to manage perfectly fine despite having a 3 door Peugeot. Don't remember it ever being that much of a hasstle!

Twodogs
Isn't the core issue people who can't control themselves and verbally abuse strangers?

No the core issue is inconsiderate dick heads who have no sympathy for others relying on people to ignore them, turn a blind eye or maybe tut while they blatantly act like a ****.

On the how hard is it that you need a special parking place side of the argument and not calling strangers a prick for making you walk an extra 50m and have to be considerate opening your doors like the rest of us.

On the how hard is it that you need a special parking place side of the argument and not calling strangers a prick for making you walk an extra 50m and have to be considerate opening your doors like the rest of us.

Sorry mate - read it 3 times - still no idea what you're on about

I've parked in these spaces plenty of times when I've had to load something heavy and bulky (that's not a child) into the side doors meaning that they need to be fully opened.

You need to read the OP again, rather than just making stuff up to try and excuse [s]this person's[/s] your selfishness:

FTFY

Still waiting to hear about these bulky items you regularly buy too?

I've only read the OP, just very surprised you're devastated at the police at the door but you're quite happy acting up and calling a stranger a prick in front of the kid.

Just calm down all round.

There's always going to be dicks who do selfish things but if you get to the point where you're losing control in front of your kid....

Only read OP but what pees me off is that if you'd had £000's worth of bikes nicked they wouldn't have even come round...'hate crime' is a priority...nicked bikes isn't!

agent007 - Member
What like not calling a random stranger you don't even know 'a prick'?

I don't know any random strangers but those parking selfishly are pricks. Don't act like one if you don't wanna be regarded as one. #thetruthhurtssometimes

PS family spaces are free reign. There's nothing illegal about parking in them no matter who you are.

I think the point is it's not really that hard, and it's probably technically unenforceable in a legal sense, however, and it's a big however...

Why can't we all just stop being so bloody inconsiderate in every day social interactions?

Those spaces are a god send if you're on your own with small children. Especially if you have more than one. And it saves you having to worry about dinging someone else's car.

If you anyone thinks it's acceptable to take these spaces when you don't need them perhaps next time imagine your wife, sister, mother etc struggling to carry a baby in a car seat while walking hand in hand with a toddler through the car park. Maybe in the rain.

Really though?, I've never had a car and only ever walked or used the bus when my children were small, it's hard to imagine walking a few yards across a car park is an ordeal. Fully able people at my work moan if they can't park within 20 yards of the door and any sign of rain has them in a panic. It is incredible how the comforts and convenience of driving lead drivers to feel so entitled to an easy life.

Why can't we all just stop being so bloody inconsiderate in every day social interactions?

Cars innit.

There's nothing illegal about parking in them no matter who you are.

Most people's morals operate on a higher level than "is it illegal or not?"

I've only read the OP, just very surprised you're devastated at the police at the door but you're quite happy acting up and calling a stranger a prick in front of the kid.

My daughter was asleep, but it doesn't take away from the fact that I have (as referenced numerous times) acknowledged by improper behaviour in the matter.

Cars innit.

No. It isn't.

It's just dicks. Their chosen mode of transport is irrelevant. They're just dicks.

As gauss says...walking and getting places with kids really is no big deal. Would my heart bleed thinking of my wife walking 40 yards with baby seat and toddler in the rain instead of 20 yards? Absolutely not! Perspective, cars have indeed turned many people into everyday wendyballers.

I like the spaces keeps the kids away from my car which I park further away 🙂

PS family spaces are free reign. There's nothing illegal about parking in them no matter who you are

Loads of things aren't illegal, but not doing them/doing them makes you a bit of a knob. It's not difficult to not park in parent and baby spaces, nor park straight in a bay It's not hard to stand up if a pregnant woman on a train asks for your seat (or offer it). Not to barge people out of the way when walking. Queuing. Talking on your phone in the cinema. Etc etc.

gauss1777

Really though?, I've never had a car and only ever walked or used the bus when my children were small, it's hard to imagine walking a few yards across a car park is an ordeal. Fully able people at my work moan if they can't park within 20 yards of the door and any sign of rain has them in a panic. It is incredible how the comforts and convenience of driving lead drivers to feel so entitled to an easy life.

I had no car for months at a time with my two. When you walk, you put them in the buggy then walk onto the bus or walk into the shop. if one is slightly older they can go on the buggy board or walk alongside.

When in a car you either have to remove the car seat and place it on the trolley or remove the baby from the car seat and place them in the trolley. more room is helpful here. If one or both is older they may well be keen to jump out and have little understanding of the value of property or why it's wrong to dent a strangers car.

I always, and I stress ALWAYS, park at the arse end of the car park when I'm on my own. Regardless of the weather.

I sometimes park my van in family spaces, plenty space for it after all

Guy acts like a prick.... gets called a prick..... continues to act like a prick.

I'm all for challenging anti-social behavior - but a person who is inclined to act like that in the first place is unlikely to change their behavior based on your feedback (constructive or otherwise).

This chap went even further to prove you right buy calling the police and falsely reporting a racist incident, just because somebody called him a prick (because he was acting like a prick).

You have been mildly inconvenienced by having the rozzers round..... but at least you're not a prick.

I wouldn't mind if the child spaces were the furthermost point from the store, If it stopped the mouth-breathing, self righteous ****s from taking them because they feel entitled and can't heave their fat arses out of their badly parked shit machines then I'd be all for it.

I had a to-do with a guy in a car park when I asked him where his kid was......"in the house" was his response. I just gave up trying after that. Still boils my piss when I see it, kinda like this behaviour

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Mattyfez +1

I sometimes park my van in family spaces...

I sometimes park my car in parent child spaces, if it's 10pm and the car park is 99% empty, I don't consider that bad, I wouldn't however do that at peak shopping times, because I'm not a dick. It's all about having a bit of consideration and awareness. You can't legislate everything, at some point people have to actually make decisions, hopefully they are considered decisions.