Ben, stiffness is what you could consider. A light steel frame is rarely a very stiff one. And I’d agree, why have a very stiff steel road frame unless you’re super-strong? Dario Pegoretti knows more than I do though… I like a bit of spring but it depends how hard you want to push it to feel that spring. Going from 28.6 top and 31.8mm down tubes to 31.8 top and 34.9 down makes quite a difference imo, but doesn’t add enough weight for me to really care about it.
If you then want a lighter or equal weight bike with those larger tubes, 853 lets you go thinner wall and keep the durability up.
‘its neither here nor there’
I’d agree, but I’d also expect a builder to give some idea, or be able to work it out and give me guidance on the options on stiffness vs weight compared to a stock (or customer’s existing) frame. I got a frame from a builder who was a bit vague once – it wasn’t what I was after so for the second one I figured it out and did the numbers myself )