[Closed] WTF Nosy neighbour content

Depends on what sort of neighbour he generally is.

Generally a good bloke, he's just trying to be a good bloke. Generally a nobber....

I hate that sort of busybody-ism.

I remember when I first moved to the UK, and there was one old guy that used to inform me when my tax disc was only a couple of weeks away from expiring. But he wasn't telling me in a nice way. He was lecturing me.

Those are the sort of people that get mad at children for 'walking through the daffodils' in the local park, or climbing trees, or whatever.

Your neighbour should sod off.

Yeah you have issues.

He's alright but constantly parks his car ON THE PAVEMENT across the back of our drive and is generally quite inconsiderate,

Yeah you have issues.

Yawn, only with you. And you need to get over it.

what if you ran over a paedophile with your bald death trap tyres?

what if you ran over a paedophile with your bald death trap tyres?

...whilst drinking a diet coke, in Aberdeen...

Or a kids face

In fairness, you could get a fine, and they've spotted it and been good enough to tell you in case you hadn't realised... I'd agree with your wife unless they were generally nobby neighbours.

My neighbour knocked on my door the other night and told me I had a flat tyre. She said sorry she hadn't mentioned it earlier as she saw it the night before, but I'd been out in the car when she got back from work. I'd driven 40 miles on it on a dual carriageway and not noticed... it was flat enough to knacker a rim on a pothole so they're not all knobs.

Your reaction does sound unacceptable, I think your wife was right 🙂

Seems like a nice thing for the neighbour to do.

The other day I was riding home on the motorbike when I came to a mini roundabout I know well. A car coming the other way wasn't indicating so I kept going and he turned right in front of me causing me to brake. I thought he was an arse at that point.
As I went round behind him I noticed his rear indicator WAS flashing but very quickly, which I know means there's a bulb out. So I flipped round and followed him for a mile or so until he stopped at some lights. I pulled alongside and motioned for him to wind the window down. Not everyone will do this for a motorcyclist as they think we're all dicks, but he did.
I pointed out that his indicator wasn't working and that's why I'd pulled in front of him and then I'd noticed he must have a bulb out. He said, yes, I know, it's just happened today and I'm off to get a bulb on my way home. We apologised to each other, waved and went on our ways.
Either of us could have been an arse. But neither were.
I suggest you give your neighbour the benefit of the doubt and chill out a bit. He sounds like a decent bloke to me......
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In fairness, you could get a fine, and they've spotted it and been good enough to tell you in case you hadn't realised... I'd agree with your wife unless they were generally nobby neighbours.

A fine for what exactly?

Hoof.....

Slats

Turn the volume to 11 and play...

Oh, nosy, not noisy. 😳

How could he see it was worn from the other side of the road ? Surely he must have come across and had a good look at it at some stage, which is a bit odd....

No idea Iain. Said he noticed as he was PARKING HIS CAR ON THE PAVEMENT opposite our driveway.

Surely he must have come across and had a good look at it at some stage, which is a bit odd....

Maybe his telescope slipped out of alignment?

A fine for what exactly?

Tyre below minimum legal tread depth is up to £2500 fine and 3 points. Might not have been illegal but you may not have noticed and it could have gone on to be, they wouldn't know you'd seen it and planned to change it.

Does he know who you are?

he was PARKING HIS CAR ON THE PAVEMENT opposite our driveway.

Probably to make it easier to load up your wife's suitcase when they run away together. 😉

Take a pic of his car parked on the pavement and drop it in his letter box.

You'd probably be grateful if Mr Nosy Neighbour saw someone breaking into your house and called the police.

'Aye, I'm getting it done on Saturday but cheers for letting me know' would have been the correct response. Don't you have better things to worry about than people keeping an eye out around the 'hood, even if you don't want it?

Maybe his telescope slipped out of alignment?

spotting bald tires wasnt his primary goal imo.

Probably to make it easier to load up your wife's suitcase when they run away together.

Don't think his male partner would be happy about that.

'Aye, I'm getting it done on Saturday but cheers for letting me know' would have been the correct response.

but I wasn't there.

And the tyre isn't illegal in any way.

I've been away the past 5 weekends, home this one and away the next 3 so that's why I'm getting it done on Saturday.

Seems like a nice thing for the neighbour to do.

Same here. Don't really understand the OP's issue to be honest. If my neighbour said that to me I'd probably just say "yeah thanks. It's booked in this weekend"

Take a pic of his car parked on the pavement and [s]drop it [/s] shit in his letter box

Edited to reflect escalation requirement asked of by the op.

Bloody cheek if you ask me. I had a similar incident a few years ago. It was 3am in the morning and my nosy neighbour was banging my door down and shouting at the top of his voice. Turns out my house was on fire and yeah I guess technically his actions saved me and my family from burning to death but bloody cheek. Who do these busy bodies think they are taking the trouble to bring things to our attention that may cause death, injury or financial loss. Where do these people get off? He clearly knew somehow that you had spotted it already.

I think in the olden days, neighbours probably did things like this. They may have been slightly nosey but you accepted that the things were often meant in a kind spirited way.

It's not the olden days now though so you are right to kick off, ask for advice on the internet, be suspicious of him and wee in his shoes or something. 😉

I've mentioned worn tyres to mates a few times over the years, they haven't always known so it's saved them a potential fine. But I wouldn't do it to someone I didn't know well.

Saying that you may want to keep the neighbour on side if he's good at spotting unusual stuff in the street. Think of him as your quirky foot patrol!

I'd take a belt sander and sand the tread off all four tyres till they're as smooth as a baby's bottom. That'll show him.

Tyres at the legal minimum tread depth can still cause serious aquaplaning on motorways.

Legal minimum doesn't mean safe.

Could be a bit of a busy body or could be trying to be genuinely a good neighbour, who knows.

What we do know is you need new tyres.

Or do we, what's your tread depth op?

Yawn, only with you. And you need to get over it.

Ermmmm! Ok. 🙄

I bet your wife and the neighbour are at it.
You'd best confront her now before she leaves you.
He's probably posting a similar thread somewhere called "Noisy Neighbours WTF"

Seems like a nice thing to do in my opinion. Just to be safe though you should throw bricks through his windows. The nosy bastard.

Without knowing him, it's hard to know if he was being a knob or not.

Sounds to me like he was just trying to be helpful & your reaction does sound a bit OTT. But, it all depends on his attitude etc.

FWIW, I fairly regularly see cars with bonnets open on the latch - perhaps two per month. If I am in a position to do so, I will tell the driver that their bonnet is open.
The response is either 50% grateful that I've pointed it out or 50% 'no it isn't (you knobber).....oh, erm....'.

From the sounds of your reaction to hearing what this bloke had done, I suspect you'd react in the second manner....?

OP,

I suppose it is better to have a nosy neighbour than a neighbour from hell.

🙂

Youve raised this with the right people. Who cares about stopping distances impaired by illegal car tyres? Anyone would think we're a bunch of bloody cyclists.

We've got neighbours who would do that. One of them let us know when our brake light was out. I thanked him.

Your reaction seems very weird to me.

Apart from being annoyed at his parking, is there any previous between you and him?

I'm pleased we have 'nosey' neighbours. 3 weeks ago someone knocked on our door at 10.45pm, She said she was from over the road at no 1 ( there's so many people in that house I can't keep up) & she said she just seen someone slip down the side of our caravan in the drive then back out again & going back out of the street, I said thanks a lot & said I'd have a look. Transpired that it was my stepson dropping off a birthday present for me from Mrs Egf (who's been too ill to get out for something)

Birthday surprise ruined, 'nosey' neighbour thanked very much for being so vigilant! 😆

Your reaction seems very weird to me.

This! You're angry as your neighbor was trying to be helpful?

What we do know is you need new tyres.

No I don't, 1 on the rear could do with being replaced. I got 2 new fronts 6 weeks ago, my tyre man said rears were fine with one close to needing replacement. I'll be doing over a thousand miles in the next few weeks so best to replace now. My neighbour isn't aware of this, well not as far as I know.

This has got sod all to do with the state of your tyres.

Tyre man? I live a sheltered life

One of the rear tyres on my car is just about on the wear limit

So it's knackered.

1 on the rear could do with being replaced.

About 6 months ago by the sound of it.

My neighbour isn't aware of this,

So the neighbour saw you had a borderline bald tyre, wasn't sure if you were aware so thought it would be worth a mention.

So the neighbour saw you had a borderline bald tyre, wasn't sure if you were aware so thought it would be worth a mention.

So borderline it's not bald in the slightest.

Just get a new tyre dude.
Preferably two as it's also bad practice to run mis matched tyres on the same end. It can lead to 'interesting cornering characteristics'.

I don't think you'll get much sympathy on a bike forum if you have mismatched boaderline illegal tyres.

You'll certainly get non from me.

He's a treadophile, tell EVERYONE

There's not much difference between 2mm and 1.6mm, the legal limit, and having driven a BMW with little more than 1.6mm on the rears in heavy rain on the M4, and had the back-end fishtail going uphill towards the Tormarton junction, which was bloody scary, it's not something I would want to be too casual about.

I find your reaction utterly perplexing. A person offers you some friendly advice that could save you a fine or worse and you 'flipped out'?

Would you not tell someone something to help them?

I've knocked on a few car windows whilst riding to work to tell them they had flat or deflating tyres. I had not considered the possibility that I may get this reaction.

she found my reaction unacceptable

She's totally correct.

Hth.

🙄

It does seem a bit odd that your neighbour is taking such a great interest in your car tyres, but it wouldn't be something that would make me "flip out".

Life's too short, etc.

So borderline it's not bald in the slightest.

1 on the rear could do with being replaced.

You cannot have it both ways

Clearly it is just legal but requires replacing

As for the neighbour, without knowing them, either being helpful or they have to much time on their hands
Either way I dont think I would have reacted as you did

She told me I flipped in a '* nosey bastard who the * does the prick think he is', she found my reaction unacceptable

She told you what your reaction was?

Didn't you know? 😯

You could pop over, thank him for the tip-off and alert him to possible penalties if his car's accidentally obstructing the pavement 😀

She told you what your reaction was?
Didn't you know?

I've knocked on a few car windows whilst riding to work to tell them they had flat or deflating tyres. I had not considered the possibility that I may get this reaction.

Yea, me too. Kind of thought people would be glad to know, before they ruin tyre/rim by running it totally flat. Usually they were not aware of the issue.

Do people really get angry being told about stuff like this?

Thoughts on your neighbour: he's a good neighbour for pointing out your near defective tyre, he's a knob for parking on the pavement.
Your wife is right.

Massive over reaction OP ... I think there must be underlying issues

It's not just your tires that are bald ... Is it slap head ??

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I'll spot stuff like worn tyres just walking through a car park...if you are the attentive type you notice details like that without kneeling down and inspecting each tyre on the way to return your trolley!

On the other hand, some people never give it a second thought, and therefore overreact and get angry when their oversight is pointed out to them. (or, they just say thanks for the heads up)

I think there is a difference between spotting a deflating tyre or a brake light that's out as that would be obvious to any member of the public and pointing out someone's tyre thread is getting low.

If someone pointed it out it me, I'd just think nosey so and so and forget about it but how does the nosey neighbour know that the guy is not getting rid of the car soon, planning to get new tyres etc.

I like my next door neighbour. Our other neighbours said they were "nosey and always watching out and knew everyone's business".

I have found out that this translates to:
1)They look out for suspicious characters,
2) putting our bins out wheb we forget
3) helping to look after our garden before we moved in (house was empty for a while beforehand)
4) knowing a lot of history about the street and who lived there
5) advising is what the original windows looked like so we could get new ones that matched
6) helping us with what plants to put in the garden and offering us free ones from theirs
7) offering use of their bathroom when we were renovating our house
8) sorting out a window cleaner for us
9) making sure tradesmen didn't block our drive

So I'll gladly live next to the so-called (by others) "nosey neighbour".

I'll spot stuff like worn tyres just walking through a car park...if you are the attentive type you notice details like that without kneeling down and inspecting each tyre on the way to return your trolley!

This is a very bizarre thread. A couple of years ago, one of my neighbours noticed from her bedroom window that our roof skylight had been smashed in a recent storm. She came to the door and let us know. Should I have punched her in the face? Should I go home and do it now just to be sure?

You're weird and maybe need to chill out a bit mate. 🙄

If someone pointed it out it me, I'd just think nosey so and so and forget about it

Yeah, don't actually replace it whatever you do. That's just giving in. 🙄

but how does the nosey neighbour know that the guy is not getting rid of the car soon, planning to get new tyres etc.

So what if he is? You just says "thanks for the heads up, if booked in at the weekend" or whatever.

Wtf is wrong with people.

Photographs of your tyres please, so you can be judged fairly.

Last winter I noticed that the felt on the roof of my neighbour's shed had ripped off in a storm (it's at the side of his house and it had ripped away at the side that backs onto our house so not really visible to him). So I told him, he thanked me and repaired it that weekend.

He would have reason to be pissed with me if I hadn't told him then months later when he came to get his lawnmower out in the spring he found it knackered.

Does kind of depend on your relationship with the neighbour;
If he's a general busy body/Victor Meldrew just stirring up shit over nothing all the time then I can see it might be a bit of a wind up (although flipping out over it sounds like you have issues).
If he's not like that and only rarely mentions stuff then sounds like he's just trying to be helpful so your reaction is indeed uncalled for.

It does seem a bit odd to point out tyre wear that's not even at the legal minimum. I would only do it (to a neighbour I didn't have a friendship with) if there was carcass showing.

Wtf is wrong with people.

Very valid point Neal, coming on here makes me wonder that.

OP sounds like he has anger issues. I also love the fact that he comes on here asking for opinions then gets all defensive

If he's a general busy body/Victor Meldrew just stirring up shit

Someone sounds like a Victor Meldrew type but I don't think it's the neighbour..

OP is probably the sort that laments the lack of community spirit and social cohesion and then shuts the door on anyone who dares to actually do something about it. Just as his neighbour tried to do. 🙄

Someone sounds like a Victor Meldrew type but I don't think it's the neighbour..

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Here's the tyre, as you can see plenty of life left on most of it. I was going to get it replaced tomorrow but I'll leave it another few weeks now just to annoy nosey neighbour further

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Give him a good hiding, like the good old days. When men were men.

Well let's hope the OP is trolling us with a picture of another tyre - otherwise the OP is an idiot for ignoring that lack of tread.

Yeah of course that's not his.

Well let's hope the OP is trolling us with a picture of another tyre - otherwise the OP is an idiot for ignoring that lack of tread.

It's a rear tyre, doesn't really need tread

I've warmed to the OP now. 8)