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being somewhat sensitivity challenged, I thought I'd throw this to you lot and see if this would be considered insensitive.
I've been with this woman for a couple of years now, and we're happy (well, i am, i assume she is). She has a dog and me and the dog get along fine. I've never kept a pet, too much commitment and pita tbh. Anyway, dog is getting on and may not be around much longer. Had an op for a growth a few years ago and another lump has been found in the same area. Vet says he wouldn't be prepared to operate again because of the dog's age.
With partner's birthday coming up, I thought a puppy might be a good idea. We both know the dog's nearly done, but would getting the replacement now be insensitive? Or is it like a car, wait it fails the MoT before getting the next one?
I'd say that it might be a bit. Well-meaning, but probably slightly missing the intended target.
My thoughts would be as the puppy is going to last 10-15 years it's something you should discuss with her rather than just provide as a spontaneous present.
And a new puppy might be tiring work for a very old dog.
Could you seriously be arsed with two dogs one that'll be shitting and pissing everywhere while its being trained and one that barely moves? Wait till the dog 'fails its MOT' then wait a little bit, you never know she may not want another one.
We had a similar situation recently. Cats rather than dogs. Wondered how the fat lazy (but not ill) moggy would take to a new fresh-faced, and quite frankly mental kitten arrival.
Not very keen to say the least. This is pretty close to the reaction
I'd be wary of introducing what will be a lively animal into the frame if your old dog is ill. It won't cope well, I'd imagine
Maybe best to wait. I'm sure once the old one has shuffled off his mortal coil, your new addition would be better appreciated
LOL oh good lord! Definite commendations for being self aware enough to ask for help but your references did make me chuckle just a little.
We're all different and none of us are perfect 😉
The dog needs to die first and your partner (you that person whom you so sensitively and lovingly refer to as 'this woman') will need to grieve first before you go any where near getting her a replacement.
What she needs is you to be sensitive to how she's feeling. Come on you know you can do it. I bet you're really as sensitive as a flower!
As above, maybe she thinks the dog is a PITA too and whilst unhappy at it's demise, would rather not have another.
Why not test the water with a hamster?
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An opposite POV. I'd check with the SO, but a former partner of mine who had a veritable menagerie always got the new dog before the old one died.
Her reasoning was that the old one would teach the new one how to behave et c. making training much easier.
APF
OP are you me?
Kill the dog when you get home tonight to save a load of hassle, and then tell the woman she can have another that will last a few years more than said dead one would, but it will be a PITA to train etc?
Support it with music?
Actually - a puppy totally invigorates old dogs. Obviously it doesn't cure cancer or anything like that, but it seems like it gives them a role. We've had old dogs that reach a point where they pretty much become a rug that farts, beyond routine things like being fed, a walk, a crap, they would happily do nothing for the rest of the day. Introducing a puppy just gave them more to do, they became livelier and more involved, mentally speaking, even if they weren't any more mobile. Even though the puppy can run rings around them the old dog has the authority and quite enjoys exercising it. It can seem like the puppy is constantly bothering the old one until you realise its the old one that instigating all the slapstick, and with the right growl can just as make it all stop when hes had enough
I'm with Ian M on this, he is atlking sense, on both points.
We've had old dogs that reach a point where they pretty much become a rug that farts
Quality 😆
No disrespect intended but she might not want another dog now she's got you.
that person whom you so sensitively and lovingly refer to as 'this woman')
Oh FFS "new man sensitive approach" FAIL - again
never mind dear, have a drink, you'll feel better
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The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
No disrespect intended but she might not want another dog now she's got you.
good point, maybe I'm just filling the gap until the time's right for a puppy
This issue was investigated quite sensitively on BBC1 last night. Apparently it's quite commonplace for even the best of motives to be mis-interpreted, leading to confusion and upset.
Mrs Brown's Boys was the programme.
I was watching alone and LOLd about 6 times.
The g/f keep mentioning about a puppy, but as [s]our[/s] her old dog is struggling on his legs as it is, I can't see it being a good thing for him. Also we've dog-sat a cute puppy before now and he did not like that in the least.
That and I've implement a 1 out & 1 in policy, 1 dog and three cats is enough, oh and a horse but at least that at the stable. Unfortunately with 4 odd bikes already, she taken the same policy out on any more bike purchases!