Been having a week just filled with all sorts of BS and just to top it off got a rather helpful email earlier tonight from a friend directing me to a match.com profile of my missis (we are not married btw)
had a look (setup a profile in my name) and she describes herself as happily seperated and two years younger than she actually is.
i'm not angry that will prob come later but i just sent her a message saying you are a lying moo as you are 43 not 41. (best i could come up with)
awaiting response to my message do you think i'll get a date out of it 🙁
and no you can't have her details before anyone asks.
effing bastitch of a week 😥
doh. Jesus that's crap. Can't imagine how that must feel.
Take care dude!
J
Was it an active profile though?
If you don't delete an account from yonks ago the profile can still be found I think.
Could be old - I cannae remember where mine is, passwords etc and neither can my other half. It must still be there.
^what they said about it possibly being an old account.
There is a way of determining when they were last online and if its many months ago then you almost certainly have nothing to worry about. It is a bit stalkerish though.
If you get told by a mate then have a look, that's not really stalkerish - how many of us wouldn't look in those circumstances?
Having a look isn't stalkerish. Setting up your own account, having a look and sending a message is a bit stalkerish.
There's always the possibility that she's into a wee bit of (relatively) harmless flirting? I know a girl with some serious insecurity issues and she tends to frequent the dating sites without actually going on any dates. Still not exactly the qualities you want in a partner, but might signify an issue other than her just doing the dirty.
That said, if I was in your shoes, I'd probably be making use of that profile you've just set up.
It is a bit stalkerish though.
Are you having a laugh ?!
When was her profile last active? If you do a search using her criteria and select 'last logged in' it should bring up the latest top.
How long have you been together?
To put yourself WITH a picture on a dating site is very risky. Everyone knows someone, its sods law. I wouldn't jump in just yet.
IF though she 'goes out for a night with the girls' - out of character etc or sounds shady. Then I'd have it out but STAY CALM.
Relationship test and hora hasn't advised an STD test yet?
...and you haven't suggested the 'bizzy's' are somewhere? 😀
This requires a face to face conversation, the fact you sent a message is rather telling, you don't sound like you have much communication. You need to get to the bottom of this. It could be an old profile but how long have you been together, it could be she was active on the site before you were together, it could have been whilst you were together.
If its time to move on just move on.
Best of luck.
BTW lying by a few years is standard practice as are old photos. A friend of mine was on it and I actually didn't recognise him when he showed me his profile, I've known him 10 years and it was an older photo than that
+1 a girl I know used pics from 5yrs+ ago. I said why?! 'I wanted to use my best one etc'. Its false-advertising though. You'd be pissed off expecting a 20 something female and getting a thirtysomething 'changed' person.
Does she like cozy nights in with a DVD?
what's the DVD Dez ? I'm free Friday
As above it could be an old profile - if not 😕
Old photos - been a "victim" of that - nice girl,fit etc - I didn't recognise her when we met as she'd aged 15yrs and put on 6 stone in a week - didn't have a 2nd date 😆
Best talk face-to-face.
But if she likes 'going out but also cozy nights in on the sofa' then you're best off out of it. 😉
[i]But if she likes 'going out but also cozy nights in on the sofa' then you're best off out of it.[/i]
Oi! That's my number one selection criteria 😕
"Nights out and cosy nights in". You might as well write "my interests include breathing".
You'd be pissed off expecting a 20 something female and getting a thirtysomething 'changed' person.
Yes but you still would wouldn't you Hora 😉
As others note is it a new or an old profile
[i]As others note is it a new or an old profile[/i]
Or, what I like to call, a 'light the blue touch paper' thread..?
You might as well write "my interests include breathing".
I'm not that interested in breathing. I just tend to take it for granted I suppose.
The mistake was to message her revealing who she is. You should have attempted to arrange a date.
What he said ^
doesn't matter about the breathing bit - so long as their still warm.
You should have attempted to arrange a date.
If you like Pina Colada . . . . .
The messaging may have been a stroke of genius.
It may well determine whether it's an old account. If it is an old account it might be an old email address attached to it. And hopefully she never get the message, this is good for two reason
1) the obviously good news that she isn't a ... choose your own four letter word.
and 2) In not picking up the message to an old email account... she will not flip this on its head and accuse our OP of being a untrusting whatever.... possibly opening up another different can of worms ??
Hope I'm right.... no matter how much conjecture there is in my argument
So she posted that two years ago, which is why she appears two years younger than she is. Was she with you then?
I think you need to intitiate very rough intercourse ASAP. Just to re-establish your dominance and position as an ultra-alpha male.
You'd be pissed off expecting a 20 something female and getting a thirtysomething 'changed' person.
Transvestites/sexuals? Very niche, 😉 .
^ 😆 @ Mrs Toast -I was reading through the thread and thinking just the same thing. 😀
[i]So she posted that two years ago, which is why she appears two years younger than she is. Was she with you then?[/i]
Doesn't your age update on a dating site? Damn! I knew I shoulda joined one 10 years ago (just in case, like).
Did you not stop to ask your mate how he came across your 'missus' (if you pardon the expression) on the site? Does your OH meet his criteria for his ideal woman??
I'd be worried.
very rough intercourse ASAP
you mean an argument?
[i]you mean an argument? [/i]
It's very popular.
There's several Rowing Clubs near me.
Did you not stop to ask your mate how he came across your 'missus' (if you pardon the expression) on the site? Does your OH meet his criteria for his ideal woman??I'd be worried.
Really?
Presumably the OP, the OP's mate and the OP's gf are all of vaguely similar ages so the OP's gf probably fits the OP's mate's likely search criteria of:
-lives within 30 miles of me
-within 10 years of my age
-female
Did your mate also send her a message!
Should just talk it over, probably old profile.
Unless your mate and your OH are trying to break it to you gently!
You should have set up a fake profile in another name, few years younger than your girlfriend, and asked her out on a date.
probably fits the OP's mate's likely search criteria of:
-lives within 30 miles of me
-within 10 years of my age
-female
-likes going out
-likes cozy nights in with a DVD
Literal lol
So she posted that two years ago, which is why she appears two years younger than she is.
I doubt here date of birth has changed in the last few years though 😉
Seriously this is probably causing the OP abit of anxiety. Personally I think I wouldn't wait. I'd just say the truth and in a level way and ask for the truth.
Better now that sitting there in fear wondering or losing your rag and getting arrested.
this is by far the best thread today
hold on a minute wasnt there a another thread where the female party was hankering for kiddiwinks right sharpish
wonder if they are connected.........hmmmm strokes chin
ps who would travel 30 miles for a date...the mountain comes to mohammed not tother way round
If she has pictures of cats on her profile, probably best to just break up with her, by text, from another country, somewhere hard to get to where it would be difficult to track you down.
Sorry to have found such amusement in another's predicament but my uncontrollable giggling in the office has caused this thread to be the best lunchtime entertainment in ages. 😀
Seems like a shit or bust moment, you'll either both laugh about it or you may need that new account on match.com
Seems like a shit or bust moment, you'll either both laugh about it or you may need that new account on [s]match.com[/s]BENAUGHTY.COM
General advice to stw'ers:
If you do two night (or evening) rides a week and do a long weekend (or 2) every week boy you are going to store a lot of hidden resentment/shit in your relationship.
"If you do two night (or evening) rides a week and do a long weekend (or 2) every week boy you are going to store a lot of hidden resentment/shit in your relationship. "
#clueless
maybe just not the right girl hora.
General advice to stw'ers:If you do two night (or evening) rides a week and do a long weekend (or 2) every week boy you are going to store a lot of hidden resentment/shit in your relationship.
Not in my relationship. She openly hates me.
- Likes cuddling up with a bottle of chianti and a galaxy bar.
If you do two night (or evening) rides a week and do a long weekend (or 2) every week boy you are going to store a lot of hidden resentment/shit in your relationship
To be fair, if you're trying to get two long weekends out of one week, she probably thinks you're a bit of an idiot anyway 🙂
[i]you'll either both laugh about it or you may need that new account on [s]match.com[/s]BENAUGHTY.COM[/i]
*Opens new tab*
Thats what you keep telling yourself. In reality, she can't wait to see the back of you 😀
best thing here would be to meet her via match.com and have an affair with her.
You get get dirty time in a hotel or car without the need for cuddles afterwards and none of the bother that comes with actually cheating on her or her cheating on you. She is happy, you are happy, no-one is hurt, everybody is a winner.
What a funny thread, always cracks me up this sort of thread, makes me wonder about Humans and the whole 150million years we've had to grasp..
Komunikation... init. 😆
Too much hora. 😐
No wonder the other frank Sinatra was in news today!
Sometimes when life seems bad, at least you can sit back and say to yourself, "at least I am not as ****** up as Hora"....
Hora 😆 bit blue.
good work hora, keep it up
Well when you realise how [s]some[/s] most of the females think out there, you'll take your glasses off and rub your face slow and hard.
Just like most fellas there are some real dioty females out there. The difference is those men are brash with it, the girls feint innocence or keep their mouths shut...
The square looking girls who like rambling, abit of running, liberal stuff etc are by far the worse................
Don't think we're doubting that (well i'm not) but just made me laugh.
keep their mouths shut...
*Coughs*
Too much hora. 😐
That's what she said!
good work hora, keep it up
+1. Down with censorship!
And where is the OP in the middle of this thread?
Hopefully in the middle of a misunderstanding.
Hopefully in the middle of a misunderstanding.
I read something entirely different.
Girls that like rambling, and liberal stuff.
The man is a genius.
I read something entirely different.
Well, at least he didn't find out she was on a naughty site. With those you could guess she had been dabbling carnally for a while.
re: muddymatches
I live in a pretty rural area, and have been a member of the local young farmers club for a looong time (too long in fact), in young farmers, there's a lot of sh*****g goes on, but inevitably some people end up on the side lines either as a result of too much, or too little of the above, so muddymatches appeared to offer a solution......
Until they realised the search function is open to anyone, and full profiles are available, including photo's - cue lots of p**s taking and screenshots of profiles, at one time I knew dozens of people on there.
Hence, I wouldn't ever contemplate it!
[i]With those you could guess she had been dabbling carnally for a while. [/i]
Only hora could type that sentence.
im no more likely to click a 'muddymatches' link at work than..... well.
old colleague of mine got in trouble for visiting the choccylovers site from a work machine. Ive never had the nerve to see if it exists.
[i]And where is the OP in the middle of this thread?[/i]
As I said - it's a [i]light blue touchpaper[/i]..
good work hora, keep it up+1. Down with censorship!
+2