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Go!....
it's a lot cheaper.
they didn't outweigh the disadvantages for me...
Going out is suddenly fun again.
No more stupid arguments.
You can eat exactly what you want, ride when you want, sleep on whatever side of the bed you want...
Does get a bit boring after a while but good in the meantime!!
muddy bike left in the kitchen whilst you drink beer in the living room at dinner time whilst watching us beat city at the weekend CHECK
The rest of the day you can just waste away as you see fit then repeat
iirc [ unless you were married] there is less sex though
try going to Florence with your ex of a week (hangs head in shame) to cook your head !!
No more Danger****s.
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Do the washing up when you want
Porn obviously
Watch what you want
Being spontaneous
Doing what you want when you want with who you want
Enjoy it, i do
do what YOU want, when YOU want to do it
tidy up, or not, when YOU want
<edit> beaten to it!</edit>
go out with the lads & not be afraid to crash on someone's couch instead of going home before you turn into a pumpkin
fettle the bike inside the house
what is this "sex" of which you speak?
etc
Spending all the time you want on STW.
Having 'naked day' everday of the week.
Going biking whenever you want.
Sleeping on both sides of the bed.
No more danger winks. Unless you count looking into next doors window (XXX danger wink)
Loads of dating.
An end to housework.
I've got literally hundereds of ways of justifying my miserable existance...
your wrists will be stronger
Porn obviously
Watch what you want
Being spontaneous
Doing what you want when you want with who you want
Aren't they all the same thing...?
Having a house to myself after having shared for far too many years.
I can play my music whenever I want.
I can have bike/s in lounge, wheels and tyres in kitchen, chain in sink, 5:10's by lounge radiator.
Maps strewn on the floor and nobody to trample over them.
No putting up with badly aimed splashes in the loo.
Cooking when and what I want.
Eating sweets in bed.
Nakedness. š
Edit: if you are considering becoming single, then be absolutely sure that your relationship is beyond repair.
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Not considering it CG. The decision has been made for me. I'm looking for the upside. Which doesn't seem apparent right now. Hey ho.
Porn and w*nking seem to figure highly on the advantages advice. It'll be like being 15 again. I suspect that may not be a good thing.
I think I need to MTFU
cinnamon girl - you sound pretty much perfect (assuming you are female obviously)
The best thing about being single was going out on a Friday night and wondering who I would go home with. 99 times out of a hundred it was myself.
Binners, no need to MTFU, just rely on your mates, you'll get to know who the true ones are, email in profile if you want an independant shoulder to moan/cry whatever on. been there and done it myself, deffo light on the other side of the break up tunnel
1 word:
periods
Mister P - 99 Fridays on your own is a LOT of Fridays!!!
[edit] - ph wait - it's only two years. I'll take that back. it's not so long! š³
Oh, that doesn't sound good binners. š
Small steps and, for me, the most important thing I learned was to like myself. Particularly when everyone around me (ie family) didn't cos I was the one that made a decision to leave. Look upon it as a learning curve, take stock, be reflective, feel comfortable with yourself.
There's plenty of support on here and feel free to e-mail me. It will be tough but it will get better.
Good luck.
binners - spring is just around the corner, the trails will dry out, united will win the premier league, you may even win an mtb event š
Just do all the things you want, 'cos someone somewhere is just around the corner.
Bunnyhop x
binners knows we all like him. That'll help him to like himself.
You do know that don't you binners?
Don't you?
No?
i like binners 8)
Mister P - no, I am far from perfect! I honestly believe that not everyone is suited to a relationship but I was in a marriage for several decades.
I've always been a bit of a loner and, actually, you can feel lonely in a marriage.
As people we are constantly evolving and sometimes people just go in different directions.
welcome to the club. Listen to the music you like, watch what you want, go out when you want, eat what you want.
Being happy at last
Binners - happened to me some 27 months ago after 9yrs together.
Won't say it was easy, had some dark days and some very disturbing thoughts about self destruction but guess what?
I'm happier now than i thought possible. I have a wonderful partner but live alone (our choice) more bikes, more money and a partner who rides bikes rather than a fat, lazy fiancee only interested in masturbating over david tennant!
I binnersliker.
I like binners.
a fat, lazy fiancee only interested in masturbating over david tennant!
Sometimes I find out wayyyy more than I want to ever know here.
I binnersliker.I like binners
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You get to hug me with out anyone getting jealous.
(Don't tell mitch, or tazzy)
*wonders where tazzy is?*
If it wasn't meant to be, it's better to be able to do what you want, when you want! No point in holding onto something for the sake of it...
Though of course it may not seem all that great for a bit. You get used to it after a while, and funnily enough, usually about the time you've become happy with being single, you probably meet someone else again! Well... That's what happened to me anyway...
nickc - sorry to read your post as I had wondered what had happened to you. Is the Chilterns open yet?
Boots, chaps and cowboy hats. Nothing else matters (as long as hora's wearing them). He's probably got wood at the thought of you being in need of relief.
Don't worry CG, all is (sort off) OK really, came to a natural end, been off line sorting out new place to live, new job etc etc. Haven't been to the Chilts in ages now (the weekend IT happened) it was frozen then. Less so now I suspect. š
I've turned into a body nazi, for fun...
Boots, chaps and cowboy hats
That's got sexyparty written all over it... Whose turn is it to bring the rubber fist?
as long as hora's wearing them
oh so i see, cos i'm stuck with teh wohmanz i don't get to join in the sexy party?!
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Sometimes I find out wayyyy more than I want to ever know here
I had to put up with his bloody face looking out of calendars, posters, the bloody pc etc.
She was obsessed(probably still is) with him, when he appeared in Hamlet she suddenly found an interest in Shakespeare despite never mentioning the Bard before.
She even started buying the kids-toy-dolls of him as Dr WHO!!!!
did she let you watch though....
sorry IGMC š
TSY- he's probably banned again for spontaneous effing and jeffing!
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nick - I do hope you are getting your life sorted. It's a horrible experience, it really is. Moving to a different area can certainly help though. Good luck.
LOLcats?
whats happened to this place? cant see any posts from TJ or SFB? where they go
CG it was, but really we found we're both happier, it's cool.
Eh you can clean your bike in the bath and well ...er ....thats about it really
Where's hora these days?
Tell me all about the advantages of being single again?
As many bikes as you like.
A campervan.
etc etc etc š
Thanks very much you lot. Group hug?
Bunnyhop - as my life coach i may be calling on you. Be prepared for some serious moaning. And I always like listening to Hora's advice so i can do the complete opposite
Seriously, thanks for the words of wisdom. And, as i suspected, its degenerated into utter perversity. I would expect nothing less.
I'm feeling very sorry for myself but can't fault the rather beautiful and wonderful girl for calling it a day. I wouldn't put up with me, quite frankly. I'm rubbish!
I binnerslicker
Ah, chin up mate. Hope things start looking up soon. Just keep in touch with mates. Look after yourself and keep your dignity.
Andy - you forgot to mention your hound!
Friends really do become incredibly important, we all tend not to ask for help, but opening up and admitting that you're finding it tough - it's OK to do that.
People are amazing, I've been pretty choked up with e-mails and texts received following my recent bereavement.
phil and TSY - just keep those lolcats coming! They really are entertaining. š
Advantages mostly covered ^^ but what I find amazing is how much time I appear to have now, whereas before there was [b]always[/b] something to be done ie. grass cutting, shopping, decorating etc.etc.etc.
I still do all these things but they seem to take me a fraction of the time they used to, leaving lots (and I mean lots) of time to do the things I actually want to do.
It's bloody brilliant.
keep your dignity
Pah, come ride with me. Leave your dignity oop north... bring the chaps...
For C_G...
Binners, now you're free, don't go getting a kitteh..
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You will miss Deb's norks though?
Doing a lot of riding is number one on the agenda. My brain goes numb when i have to concentrate on pedelling. Its quite complicated.
A trip darn sarf would be good
Is that your new name then hora? Dear god! You manage to distill all this down to norks? Remind me again why I'm now single and you're not š
MrOvershoot = hora?
hora on the naughty step?
Dear god are you accusing me of being Hora!!!!
I can be slightly rude when I've had a few but not that bad š
Lets just say we have a mutual acquaintance, Double Top ring any bells?
you cant get caught shagging fit birds?
A-ha. All becomes clear. Good to hear from you fella. When we going out riding then? You'll have to ride behind me on your weird 29er nonsense
binners - towards the end of last year, I was griping about the shittiness of being depressed, and you offered me out, so to speak, for a ride (so to speak. ahem).
Well, the pills have made me fat and slow, but sounds like you need the same chief.
And I still owe you a pint from forever ago.
Let's sort something out - given I'm moving towards Wiganshire out of the too-cool-for-school delights of West Didsbury, I shan't be too far from Rivi to break myself on one of your night rides.
Or we could just go for a pint. Please don't let bingo bring hora, though... š
binners - MemberA-ha. All becomes clear. Good to hear from you fella. When we going out riding then? You'll have to ride behind me on your weird 29er nonsense
Only because I might have had a curry/beer the night before
awww sh1t.. sorry to hear that Adam, you really are being dragged through the grinder. I have no advise to impart as I am just climbing aboard the single boat meself.
I know your in a dark place mate, just dont take up too much room as I'll be parking my arse next to you very soon.
Thanks for the article as well, sorry not replied. Will deffo be up for a ride soon with ya, but not next week. Helping the wife move out and sorting me mums funeral.
lowey - horrible when things happen so close together. It's hard enough making funeral arrangements let alone coping with marriage breakdown. Be strong.
lowey that's awful. I can't imagine. Don't know what to say other than I really feel for you having to go through that.
Single - was that half a second glance back from the person you judged to be the most attractive in the room (pub, obviously and equally appraised in half a second) because you are, of course handsome and appealing or because she's concerned about the desperate looking individual who doesn't realise he's been staring.
Oh and keeping dignity is good advice. I can only see that in retrospect.
Jesus lowey, didn't realise there were marital problems too š Despite (still) never meeting, you're considered a chum so if you ever want to chat, come visit the Pentlands ( š ) or what-have-you, drop me a line! Really hope you can keep head above water. All the best š
Lowey. Give us a shout when your ready fella. Stay strong brother.
Binners - similar situation myself, but a couple months further down the line. Slowly getting used to being single again. It does get easier with time. I'm giving myself a target, something to focus on. Keeps my mind off other things. So I've booked myself in for 3 of them gravity enduros and at least a weeks riding in the Alps, possibly even the Mega. Least now I can go bugger off for a week or so in the Alps riding bikes and not feel guilty about leaving someone behind.
IF you can't do all the stuff you guys have been mentioning as key "single" things, while in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship.
A trip darn sarf would be good
Do it! We will unleash our motormouthed complete softy secret weapon aka Elf
Ah yes and c_g is right get a dog as well. Doesn't quite lick you in the same way but does make you laugh (except when the bitch took 1/2 a pound of cheese off the table tonight and yes she is still in the naughty corner grrrr š” )
Yes, I can do as I like. Advantages of being single? It's all in the mind really. I rather not but I have not choice as I wear Clark shoes.
Andy; your dogs a mere amateur compared to my mate Adam's pointer, Fitz
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Ā£50 in a single sitting, and destined for a Knight of the Realm.
Sorry to all the newly single. But can we have 'I binnersliker' t-shirts.
Another one for the 'learning to enjoy the single life' brigade. Some bits are great - I can get up when I like, put stuff wherever I like (3 bikes currently in the dining room) go on holiday when I want ... Some parts are still pretty hard - I miss sharing meals, catching up with each others day, and really miss having someone you trust to give you a hug when you're down.
But the pluses of being single are increasing - and I'm getting into new things. I've made a pledge to not say no to anything and try new things at least once. Most have been great (alley cat races are fab!), some I wouldn't repeat, but have been 'interesting' to do once.
No intention of returning to the world of relationships in the foreseeable future!
Chins up, Binners and Lowey. Never met you but putting some STW support on here.
As someone said above, the best bits are learning to like yourself - gets you ready for a proper relationship sometime in the future, if that's what you want - and bikes in the house of course.
If you come south to the Chilterns put something up on here and will happily act as a (crap) guide.
It's dreadful. If you want to be single, I'm sure times are great, but if you don't, they're awful.
Had a split a couple of years back, luckily we managed to rescue it (and now do more things together - things are hugely better), but the few months of singleness were rubbish. Probably the most miserable I've ever been, and the first (and only) time I seriously considered not going on.
Sorry to hear of those with relationship difficulties, btw, I feel for you.
If you come south to the Chilterns put something up on here and will happily act as a (crap) guide.
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Had a ride round there a couple of years ago... Loved it and I'll grudgingly admit the beer was ok too. Might take you up on that soon! Cheers for the support guys...
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lowey YGM - e-mail and text
Lowey - Maybe we need to organise a northern monkeys trip daaaaaaaarn saaaaaaaaarf to see these slaaaaaaaaaaaaaaags eh? š In the meantime Rivi will Suffice
Tom. We'll have to get out local before you leave the protective bosom of leafy South Manchester. There is talk of a local/hangover Mersey Valley ride on Sunday at some point. Its my birthday bash and the Derby tomorrow. So Sundays hangovers are likely to be the mother of all....
The decision was taken out of my hands to be single so got to make own decisions for me now which in itself is an advantage. She tried to take kids with her but she didnt ask them first (14 and 17yrs old) and they wanted to stay put with me so having a much better relationship with my two daughters (who I do persuade to see their mum, i'm not bitter at all).
Dart board indoors. Room for pool table., More space for my clothes. No arguements. No explaining myself or asking for explanations. Riding when I want (although never a problem). Bikes now indoors understairs all warm and cosy. The dog's allowed in front room now. I'm much more house proud now. Whole bed to self. No make up in batroom sink. Looking at all the nice ladies without 'guilt'. Flirting. Dating. Better cook.
Was a dark place beginning of november last year.......got to laugh about that now as tables turned and loving life.
Reading all the above perhaps we weren't ever meant to be?
If its yuor decision to become single make sure you are 110% sure about splitting up.
Happy days!
binners, ive had the same happen recently after 11 years. you dont say if you have kids.thats the hard part for me seeing my kids on a drip feed. if you dont...be happy!! you can know rewrite your life to be better than before.
"Won't say it was easy, had some dark days and some very disturbing thoughts about self destruction but guess what?
I'm happier now than i thought possible. I have a wonderful partner but live alone (our choice) more bikes, more money and a partner who rides bikes rather than a fat, lazy fiancee only interested in masturbating over david tennant! "
ditto. better off without the old munter!! š
(still sharing the house with ex-wife, which is surprisingly ok)
pro: I've got the big bedroom to myself.
pro: coming home from an evening speed-dating to find ex-wife's new BF has dumped her š
pro: been out for more beers with my mates this year than the previous ten
pro: No more tiptoeing around unexploded PMT
con: going to have to sell the house eventually and live in a rented shack
undecided: wasn't getting much sex anyway, but nowadays there's possibilities...