[Closed] Tell me all about the advantages of being single again

Tell me all about the advantages of being single again?

As many bikes as you like.
A campervan.

etc etc etc 😛

Thanks very much you lot. Group hug?

Bunnyhop - as my life coach i may be calling on you. Be prepared for some serious moaning. And I always like listening to Hora's advice so i can do the complete opposite

Seriously, thanks for the words of wisdom. And, as i suspected, its degenerated into utter perversity. I would expect nothing less.

I'm feeling very sorry for myself but can't fault the rather beautiful and wonderful girl for calling it a day. I wouldn't put up with me, quite frankly. I'm rubbish!

I binnerslicker

Ah, chin up mate. Hope things start looking up soon. Just keep in touch with mates. Look after yourself and keep your dignity.

Andy - you forgot to mention your hound!

Friends really do become incredibly important, we all tend not to ask for help, but opening up and admitting that you're finding it tough - it's OK to do that.

People are amazing, I've been pretty choked up with e-mails and texts received following my recent bereavement.

phil and TSY - just keep those lolcats coming! They really are entertaining. 😀

Advantages mostly covered ^^ but what I find amazing is how much time I appear to have now, whereas before there was [b]always[/b] something to be done ie. grass cutting, shopping, decorating etc.etc.etc.

I still do all these things but they seem to take me a fraction of the time they used to, leaving lots (and I mean lots) of time to do the things I actually want to do.

It's bloody brilliant.

keep your dignity

Pah, come ride with me. Leave your dignity oop north... bring the chaps...

For C_G...

Binners, now you're free, don't go getting a kitteh..

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You will miss Deb's norks though?

Doing a lot of riding is number one on the agenda. My brain goes numb when i have to concentrate on pedelling. Its quite complicated.

A trip darn sarf would be good

Is that your new name then hora? Dear god! You manage to distill all this down to norks? Remind me again why I'm now single and you're not 🙄

MrOvershoot = hora?

hora on the naughty step?

Dear god are you accusing me of being Hora!!!!

I can be slightly rude when I've had a few but not that bad 😉

Lets just say we have a mutual acquaintance, Double Top ring any bells?

you cant get caught shagging fit birds?

A-ha. All becomes clear. Good to hear from you fella. When we going out riding then? You'll have to ride behind me on your weird 29er nonsense

binners - towards the end of last year, I was griping about the shittiness of being depressed, and you offered me out, so to speak, for a ride (so to speak. ahem).

Well, the pills have made me fat and slow, but sounds like you need the same chief.

And I still owe you a pint from forever ago.

Let's sort something out - given I'm moving towards Wiganshire out of the too-cool-for-school delights of West Didsbury, I shan't be too far from Rivi to break myself on one of your night rides.

Or we could just go for a pint. Please don't let bingo bring hora, though... 😉

binners - Member

A-ha. All becomes clear. Good to hear from you fella. When we going out riding then? You'll have to ride behind me on your weird 29er nonsense

awww sh1t.. sorry to hear that Adam, you really are being dragged through the grinder. I have no advise to impart as I am just climbing aboard the single boat meself.

I know your in a dark place mate, just dont take up too much room as I'll be parking my arse next to you very soon.

Thanks for the article as well, sorry not replied. Will deffo be up for a ride soon with ya, but not next week. Helping the wife move out and sorting me mums funeral.

lowey - horrible when things happen so close together. It's hard enough making funeral arrangements let alone coping with marriage breakdown. Be strong.

lowey that's awful. I can't imagine. Don't know what to say other than I really feel for you having to go through that.

Single - was that half a second glance back from the person you judged to be the most attractive in the room (pub, obviously and equally appraised in half a second) because you are, of course handsome and appealing or because she's concerned about the desperate looking individual who doesn't realise he's been staring.

Oh and keeping dignity is good advice. I can only see that in retrospect.

Jesus lowey, didn't realise there were marital problems too 🙁 Despite (still) never meeting, you're considered a chum so if you ever want to chat, come visit the Pentlands ( 😉 ) or what-have-you, drop me a line! Really hope you can keep head above water. All the best 🙂

Lowey. Give us a shout when your ready fella. Stay strong brother.

Binners - similar situation myself, but a couple months further down the line. Slowly getting used to being single again. It does get easier with time. I'm giving myself a target, something to focus on. Keeps my mind off other things. So I've booked myself in for 3 of them gravity enduros and at least a weeks riding in the Alps, possibly even the Mega. Least now I can go bugger off for a week or so in the Alps riding bikes and not feel guilty about leaving someone behind.

IF you can't do all the stuff you guys have been mentioning as key "single" things, while in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship.

A trip darn sarf would be good

Do it! We will unleash our motormouthed complete softy secret weapon aka Elf

Ah yes and c_g is right get a dog as well. Doesn't quite lick you in the same way but does make you laugh (except when the bitch took 1/2 a pound of cheese off the table tonight and yes she is still in the naughty corner grrrr 😡 )

Yes, I can do as I like. Advantages of being single? It's all in the mind really. I rather not but I have not choice as I wear Clark shoes.

Andy; your dogs a mere amateur compared to my mate Adam's pointer, Fitz

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£50 in a single sitting, and destined for a Knight of the Realm.

Sorry to all the newly single. But can we have 'I binnersliker' t-shirts.

Another one for the 'learning to enjoy the single life' brigade. Some bits are great - I can get up when I like, put stuff wherever I like (3 bikes currently in the dining room) go on holiday when I want ... Some parts are still pretty hard - I miss sharing meals, catching up with each others day, and really miss having someone you trust to give you a hug when you're down.

But the pluses of being single are increasing - and I'm getting into new things. I've made a pledge to not say no to anything and try new things at least once. Most have been great (alley cat races are fab!), some I wouldn't repeat, but have been 'interesting' to do once.

No intention of returning to the world of relationships in the foreseeable future!

Chins up, Binners and Lowey. Never met you but putting some STW support on here.

As someone said above, the best bits are learning to like yourself - gets you ready for a proper relationship sometime in the future, if that's what you want - and bikes in the house of course.

If you come south to the Chilterns put something up on here and will happily act as a (crap) guide.

It's dreadful. If you want to be single, I'm sure times are great, but if you don't, they're awful.

Had a split a couple of years back, luckily we managed to rescue it (and now do more things together - things are hugely better), but the few months of singleness were rubbish. Probably the most miserable I've ever been, and the first (and only) time I seriously considered not going on.

Sorry to hear of those with relationship difficulties, btw, I feel for you.

If you come south to the Chilterns put something up on here and will happily act as a (crap) guide.

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Had a ride round there a couple of years ago... Loved it and I'll grudgingly admit the beer was ok too. Might take you up on that soon! Cheers for the support guys...

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lowey YGM - e-mail and text

Lowey - Maybe we need to organise a northern monkeys trip daaaaaaaarn saaaaaaaaarf to see these slaaaaaaaaaaaaaaags eh? 🙂 In the meantime Rivi will Suffice

Tom. We'll have to get out local before you leave the protective bosom of leafy South Manchester. There is talk of a local/hangover Mersey Valley ride on Sunday at some point. Its my birthday bash and the Derby tomorrow. So Sundays hangovers are likely to be the mother of all....

The decision was taken out of my hands to be single so got to make own decisions for me now which in itself is an advantage. She tried to take kids with her but she didnt ask them first (14 and 17yrs old) and they wanted to stay put with me so having a much better relationship with my two daughters (who I do persuade to see their mum, i'm not bitter at all).

Dart board indoors. Room for pool table., More space for my clothes. No arguements. No explaining myself or asking for explanations. Riding when I want (although never a problem). Bikes now indoors understairs all warm and cosy. The dog's allowed in front room now. I'm much more house proud now. Whole bed to self. No make up in batroom sink. Looking at all the nice ladies without 'guilt'. Flirting. Dating. Better cook.

Was a dark place beginning of november last year.......got to laugh about that now as tables turned and loving life.

Reading all the above perhaps we weren't ever meant to be?

If its yuor decision to become single make sure you are 110% sure about splitting up.
Happy days!

binners, ive had the same happen recently after 11 years. you dont say if you have kids.thats the hard part for me seeing my kids on a drip feed. if you dont...be happy!! you can know rewrite your life to be better than before.

"Won't say it was easy, had some dark days and some very disturbing thoughts about self destruction but guess what?
I'm happier now than i thought possible. I have a wonderful partner but live alone (our choice) more bikes, more money and a partner who rides bikes rather than a fat, lazy fiancee only interested in masturbating over david tennant! "

ditto. better off without the old munter!! 😆

(still sharing the house with ex-wife, which is surprisingly ok)
pro: I've got the big bedroom to myself.
pro: coming home from an evening speed-dating to find ex-wife's new BF has dumped her 😈
pro: been out for more beers with my mates this year than the previous ten
pro: No more tiptoeing around unexploded PMT
con: going to have to sell the house eventually and live in a rented shack
undecided: wasn't getting much sex anyway, but nowadays there's possibilities...

people keep talking about maturbating over david tennant as if it's a bad thing... 😕

I've been single again for just over 5 months now, slowly starting to settle in to the single life again, the first couple of months were really hard on me, but thankfully I have some fantastic friends and family around me (with the exception of my dad who is an utterly useless arse at times).

It does get easier, I'm really happy now, and refer to my canceled wedding as 'the lucky escape'.

Maybe we should arrange a ride somewhere central (peaks??) for all the recently single STWers.

You don't forget to post a present for Valentine's Day until today and end up being stung £14 for Special Delivery of a small box.

move abroad and pretend to be Hugh Grant.

The best piece of advice i heard was to say 'yes' to everything

theotherjonv - Member
Andy; your dogs a mere amateur compared to my mate Adam's pointer, Fitz

Oi I'll have you know it was a full on climb onto the worktop, grab cheese and open packet manoevre. And it was dead posh cheddar too 😥

[i]All you who sleep tonight
Far from the ones you love,
No hand to left or right
And emptiness above -

Know that you aren't alone
The whole world shares your tears,
Some for two nights or one,
And some for all their years.[/i]

Vikram Seth.

That said... I spend what I like on bike kit. 😀

Hmm.. epic trip to some continent on which you don't live. For a long time.

Bunnyhop - as my life coach i may be calling on you.

No problems old friend. Just remember 'norks' aren't everything, you did miss out that Debs had a brain too.
I think you should drag those little northern legs out to our Peaks pootle next weekend.

P.S. Do not go on the re-bound
bunnyhop x

pro: No more tiptoeing around unexploded PMT

😀

people keep talking about maturbating over david tennant as if it's a bad thing.

It's only bad if you don't ask him first.