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Interesting; I think my ex demonstrates many of those NPD traits. She'd argue black was white until you doubted yourself. She'd destroyed my self confidence and got me doubting my sanity. Two years later and I'm still a mess but can recognise it now.
She was very convincing; sadly she still is to what were mutual friends and many have turned their backs on me as a consequence.
She hasn't got my bikes tho'!
Illusions massage parlour.
End of Lever Street next to the chippy.
£50, you don't have to get them drunk, pretend to like them or listen to them whine and vice versa, it can be polished pushed bitten or stroked and inserted to your hearts content.
What's not to love?
Think yourself lucky. I met someone as I was coming out of a marriage with an alcoholic wife, thought she was amazing. I knew she wanted kids when we got together (so did I) and so was really happy when we got pregnant about three months after we officially started seeing each other. I thought she was 'the one', we got on that well and I was looking forward to a life together.
She's now about 17/18 weeks pregnant and we split up four weeks ago.
The relationship is over and I do not believe that there is any way that we can get back together. I just have to concentrate on trying to be involved with the pregnancy and the birth of a child that I will likely see once a month for the next 18 years, assuming that I'm allowed to. I'm absolutely devastated.
willard - How can it go from "She's the one", pregnant and then completely over in 6 months? Surely you can try something to fix it?
and so was really happy when we got pregnant about three months after we officially started seeing each other
3 months!!! what? I've been dating for 6 months now and we're still comparing notes on about what we like and don't like, how in the world do you know some-one well enough in the 3 months to think "I know a baby would be ace"
willard - How can it go from "She's the one", pregnant and then completely over in 6 months? Surely you can try something to fix it?
Unfortunately the mother to your child will be incapable of loving your child like she was incapable of loving you (because their minds are immature and they don't develop emotion like love and empathy) and she will use your child as a tool to control you. Their behaviour is sickening.
What's ever worse is that narcissistic parents raise narcissistic children.
It's stories like this which are behind the Sexodus.
What I've noticed is that when a relationship breaks down, the nastier person (irrespective of gender) wins.
Nice guys and girls finish last. It's heartbreaking to watch.
Word of warning, do not accuse her of being a narcissist or else she will make your life a mysery.
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What I've noticed is that when a relationship breaks down, the nastier person (irrespective of gender) wins.
Wins what?
Only the lawyers win. Utter vultures.
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willard - How can it go from "She's the one", pregnant and then completely over in 6 months? Surely you can try something to fix it?
I've been put in a difficult position. I could change, could choose to become what she wants in a person, but it would be a lot of hard work and would mean changing my personality. It would also be changing for her. She's said she wants me to change because I want to, so I'm in rather a catch-22. It just seems that there would be a lot of compromise on my part and relatively little on hers.
Nickc, we'd been courting for a long while before we got together. II told her a lot about me, but because I have never really pried into people's pasts (figuring they'll tell me if/when they feel they want to) never really found out much about her. The trouble is, she wanted me to ask so that she felt I was interested in her. I just never picked up on that.
Yes, I know that the kid will be a hook into me. But, it's going to be a person and I need to support it.
You can't change your personality :/
What with the obsession with narcissists Ed? There are plenty of other disorders that cause people to behave horribly/weirdly.
What's ever worse is that narcissistic parents raise narcissistic children.
As well as co-dependents and real screwed-up messes.
Not to the extent that I think she wants. I've not asked her to change in that way, so it's an odd compromise to make.
The Hot Crazy Matrix reminded me of this:
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Crickey, very worrying. I'm going through a divorce at the moment and when I read things like this I start to think that perhaps buying a boat and going sailing would be a much better idea than trying to get back on the dating scene again.
What with the obsession with narcissists Ed? There are plenty of other disorders that cause people to behave horribly/weirdly.
There's no obsession. The umbrella term to encompass these toxic personality disorders is 'Cluster B'
Crickey, very worrying. I'm going through a divorce at the moment and when I read things like this I start to think that perhaps buying a boat and going sailing would be a much better idea than trying to get back on the dating scene again.
Learn the red flags. Lack of empathy, grandiose and entitled attitude, extreme charm and (superficial) confidence. They're easy to spot when you know what to look for.
The umbrella term to encompass these toxic personality disorders is 'Cluster B'
Is that where the term 'cluster****' comes from?
@edward2000 thanks, some good reading in the link above. Definitely some common traits.
@willard Chin up dude.
Learn the red flags. Lack of empathy, grandiose and entitled attitude, extreme charm and (superficial) confidence. They're easy to spot when you know what to look for.
Well that's put the dampers on that lady on fitness-singles that has just agreed to meet me !
Can the type and number of selfies they take be used for diagnosis of disorders ??? Plus categorising yourself as "very attractive".
There are a lot of women with seemingly huge levels of confidence on these dating sites, judging by the way they describe themselves.
That Hot Crazy Matrix reminds me of Archer...
Lack of empathy, grandiose and entitled attitude, extreme charm and (superficial) confidence.
Ohhh, you've met my soon to be ex wife then.
Problem is they suck you in and you only start to see their true side after you are well and truly caught up in it all....then you spend years wondering how this happened and how you can survive it....
^ abdolutely. And nobody can really empathise about the emotional damage they cause unless they have experienced it themselves. It does get better through, the key is knowledge as knowledge is power and with the benefit of hindsight it's the best thing that's happened to me.
Lack of empathy, grandiose and entitled attitude, extreme charm and (superficial) confidence.
That's CFH down to a tee, isn't it...
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