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Chap at work had his car paint sprayed with obscenities by an ex, or soon to be ex, half the office had a view of what was going on. Bullet dodged.
baby rabies
Being STW, I initially read that as baby robins.
Equalled only be being a leftie
Keep it for one of the many political threads?
That's a very subjective statement. She appears sane and attractive to you.
You subscribe to the Daily Telegraph.
@gobuchal 🙂 you could have been meaner and said anyone with me could not be sane ! No Telegragph subscription fyi
No Telegragph subscription fyi
Really?
How did you read the article you quoted on the Corbyn thread? About Corbyn not being a pacifist because he supported the IRA? 🙂
Child after just 12 months?!.....sod that.
You just don't know anyone well enough, particularly in this situation where there'd be half sisters involved too.
There must be some push over men on STW if this is normal, I've split up with two nutters after a few years each as they seemed to view me as a source of sperm and money because they had the extraordinarily special features of having girl parts instead of boy parts like mine.....50% of the world have vaginas, I'm sick of every other woman thinking it makes them a princess or special case because they have one.
You got out relatively unscathed, me being an antagonistic tit would have fun with her on Facebook, via text etc until she had a proper meltdown....but I'm not very nice so you should probably rule that out.
@deviant, seems to me there's many more men that are a push over and controlled by access to lady parts than not.
Boggles my mind that so many put up with being told what they are allowed to do and when. And then they have kids and that's it, life over, never allowed to do anything for themselves or spend any money on themselves ever again.
Count yourself lucky that it ended before you'd sold houses and bought one together. Walk, no run away and thank your lucky stars.
Mad as a box of frogs, women. Married to Mrs Z for 36 years and I still have very little idea of what goes on in her head.
Heard of golf-clubs, cars etc being done but randomly came across this earlier on eBay -
[url= http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Ralph-Lauren-Purple-Label-Aynders-Edward-Green-Shannon-/201855514687?hash=item2eff86b83f:g:BlYAAOSw2gxYyptl ]not seen this one before[/url]
(read the description. I'm not sure what I admire most - his optimism in thinking he can sell it, or his ex-girlfriends style...)
And anyway.... if she hadn't discussed the baby thing with you and she dumped you by text the relationship wasn't really going anywhere, was it? I mean, it doesn't sound as if you'd found your soulmate.
When my brother moved to the USA he fell straight into bed with a woman, half Lebanese, half native American, divorced from a woman-beater with two delinquent teenage sons, who is a first class raving nutjob. She and all her pals see therapists every week and live in medications. She absolutely controlled him, drove him nuts then when he exploded, made him see an anger management therapist, came three times to the UK with him and each time had a breakdown, cried all the way back to Detroit then left him and went to stay with her poisonous sister for a month, tried to make him have the snip, which I managed to convince him was a bad idea, and so on. When he married her, her Dad, a psychotherapist who set fire to his house when he put logs on the gas fire, told my Mum: "When we met your son we told our Cindy: 'You do anything it takes girl, just GET that man'"
My brother is in it, right up to the maker's label.
Have you checked your bunnie cage?
Stick a line on the lottery, it's your lucky day! She sounds like a bit of a pyscho and you got out alive. Don't look back.
and another captain of a ship avoids the ice berg, and sails onto cleaner/calmer waters to find a new island to land on and populate.
OP - give up trying to understand or work it out. I don't mean that in a ''all women are nuts" fashion (lots are, but so are lots of men), but in a you'll save yourself a lot of stress and brain ache by not trying to work out irrational behaviour which the person committing probably doesn't really understand either.
If it helps, I had a worryingly similar experience at the start of the year (she wasn't called lindsey was she
sofaboy73 - Member... (she wasn't called lindsey was she
Its Louise!!! 😡
A lot of men will put up with a lot of BS from their partner[s] if they are very attractive[/s],
FTFY
But if its unfathomable BS in the first year of what is supposed to be a serious relationship, and your kids have a stake, then yep, bullet dodged. You'll never know what's going on in her head, but "self-sabotage" is a factor in at least 2 40+ singleton ladies that I know of.
sofaboy73 - Member
... (she wasn't called lindsey was sheIts Louise!!!
For some reason only half of what I wrote posted - never fear her middle name was Louise so the STW rule of crazy is still intact!
Cheers for the replies folks. Reading this last night with copious amounts of red wine helped me bottom things out. This ship is ready to sail again. Fail we may, sail we must!
PS. She isn't Louise. Louise is my sister's name!
Glad to hear you've found some closure.
So, can I have your sister's number?
666.
never fear her middle name was Louise so the STW rule of crazy is still intact!
Mrs RBIT's middle name is Louise. Should I be worried?
OP well done!
Should have gone with my gut instincts 20 years ago and I'd have been in a much better place since. I do have two fantastic sons which I'm eternally grateful for.
Onwards and upwards!!
...find a new island to land on and populate
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Sounds a bit like narcissistic personality disorder to me. If you read about the attributes and it sounds it then you have to go 'no contact'
Google is full of info on this. My email is in my profile also, i spent all of last year reading about NPD as I dated one - an absolute mind f***, so I may be able to offer some words of advice.
Word of warning, do not accuse her of being a narcissist or else she will make your life a mysery.
Sounds a bit like narcissistic personality disorder to me
If we're doing armchair psych then I've got 10p on BPD*
*Not Boogie Down Productions
^ BPD is characterised by extreme mood swings which the OP doesn't refer to
Got to love the humorous sexisim on STW . . . I have gone from laughing to wondering which 2 out of the 3 I am
Single, yes, attractive, so I've been told, sane . . . Well I thought I was?!
Luckily we have Junkyard to bring a bit of sense to that debate.
But OP it does sound like you've had a very lucky escape - crazy partners are available in various genders, and you definitely sound like you're better off without that one
[quote=adjustablewench ]Single, yes, attractive, so I've been told, sane . . . Well I thought I was?!
Form an orderly queue chaps!
(I hope that isn't humourous sexism - at least not the latter - mods feel free to delete if it is)
weeksy - Member
Send her round, I'll taint her for you. You'll never look at her in the same way again
#iheartweeksy
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Form an orderly queue chaps!
Three queues surely?
One for the unattractive guys, one for the attached guys and a big long one for the rest of us.
I might need a few goes at choosing which line to join.
And one more for those who are just too old.
Cougar - Moderator
Incidentally,I've had screenshots of four year old Facebook pics sent to me in the company of other women, telling me to delete them as they are "disrespectful to her". They aren't even on my page!
This rings huge alarm bells to me in the bullet-dodging stakes. It's either a massive insecurity complex, jealousy, or she's a control freak. None of these are good things.From bitter experience I'd hazard that this sort of behaviour is the thin end of a very large wedge. Fast forward another twelve months, you'd not be allowed to see any friends, be accused of having an affair every time you breathe near another woman, been coerced into handing over all your email and phone passwords, get the third degree every time you're five minutes late home from work, have absolutely no free time to yourself - and will be living together and married with a new-born.
Jealous and a control freak is my take, a very unhealthy combination, and one that you're well away from.
A very close friend of mine phoned me out of the blue late one evening, with the words "I'm in trouble"
I turned cold, not expecting that; it seemed that the bloke she'd been seeing after her marriage broke up really wasn't a very nice person at all, he'd started checking her movements, convincing her, or trying to, that her friends really weren't her friends, they were sneaking behind her back, etc.
She was smart enough to see through him and get a locksmith in to change all the locks one day, as he had a key to her house.
His job was a psychologist...
We had a very long conversation and as soon as she started to tell me what had been going on I knew what this bloke was about, and I can see the same sort of manipulating personality here.
I've had no training, but I have a knack for being able to see this sort of personality, which is possibly why I've never found myself in a relationship with anyone like this.
It has meant very, very few relationships over the years, but my sanity is, at least, intact!
Three queues surely?One for the unattractive guys, one for the attached guys and a big long one for the rest of us.
What about the queue for the unattractive, unattached guys?
Or is that the 'rest of us' queue?
Just checking, like...
I've had no training, but I have a knack for being able to see this sort of personality, which is possibly why I've never found myself in a relationship with anyone like this.
I always thought the same thing. But with respect, I expect this is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your 'knack for being able to see this' is because you've never been in that sort of relationship, and the reason you've never been in that sort of relationship is probably blind luck.
Manipulative people are manipulative by definition, you don't realise when you're in it, you don't acknowledge till you've left. I had 20/20 too, till it happened to me. Think again: your friend was a psychologist and didn't see it, what you brought to the table was impartial eyes. Looking out from within is incredibly challenging.
Jealousy, controlling, manipulation, blame shifting, mirroring, gas lighting - all the characteristics of a narcissist. A 'relationship' with one is nothing more than emotional abuse.
So many posts in this thread describe narcissists. Seriously people read up on narcissistic personality disorder because knowledge really is power.
CZ's does sound like NPD; a fried of mine went through similar, but didn't manage to escape for years. Horrific situation to be in.
The OP's fine lady doesn't sound to be trying to control the situation in anything like the same way. Splitting came to mind, though.
Interesting; I think my ex demonstrates many of those NPD traits. She'd argue black was white until you doubted yourself. She'd destroyed my self confidence and got me doubting my sanity. Two years later and I'm still a mess but can recognise it now.
She was very convincing; sadly she still is to what were mutual friends and many have turned their backs on me as a consequence.
She hasn't got my bikes tho'!
Illusions massage parlour.
End of Lever Street next to the chippy.
£50, you don't have to get them drunk, pretend to like them or listen to them whine and vice versa, it can be polished pushed bitten or stroked and inserted to your hearts content.
What's not to love?
Think yourself lucky. I met someone as I was coming out of a marriage with an alcoholic wife, thought she was amazing. I knew she wanted kids when we got together (so did I) and so was really happy when we got pregnant about three months after we officially started seeing each other. I thought she was 'the one', we got on that well and I was looking forward to a life together.
She's now about 17/18 weeks pregnant and we split up four weeks ago.
The relationship is over and I do not believe that there is any way that we can get back together. I just have to concentrate on trying to be involved with the pregnancy and the birth of a child that I will likely see once a month for the next 18 years, assuming that I'm allowed to. I'm absolutely devastated.
willard - How can it go from "She's the one", pregnant and then completely over in 6 months? Surely you can try something to fix it?
and so was really happy when we got pregnant about three months after we officially started seeing each other
3 months!!! what? I've been dating for 6 months now and we're still comparing notes on about what we like and don't like, how in the world do you know some-one well enough in the 3 months to think "I know a baby would be ace"
willard - How can it go from "She's the one", pregnant and then completely over in 6 months? Surely you can try something to fix it?
Unfortunately the mother to your child will be incapable of loving your child like she was incapable of loving you (because their minds are immature and they don't develop emotion like love and empathy) and she will use your child as a tool to control you. Their behaviour is sickening.
What's ever worse is that narcissistic parents raise narcissistic children.
It's stories like this which are behind the Sexodus.
What I've noticed is that when a relationship breaks down, the nastier person (irrespective of gender) wins.
Nice guys and girls finish last. It's heartbreaking to watch.
Word of warning, do not accuse her of being a narcissist or else she will make your life a mysery.
I read mystery
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What I've noticed is that when a relationship breaks down, the nastier person (irrespective of gender) wins.
Wins what?
Only the lawyers win. Utter vultures.
