Had our Mondeo keyed again over the weekend.We have a drive. Probably could squeeze two cars on but we are talking a Mondeo & a Galaxy here, so not the smallest cars.
Had a party for my youngest weekend before last, so I parked the Mondeo in the communual area at the end of the street so that family could park on the drive & outside our house. The comunual area has room for about 5 cars, but the bays are not marked.
A chap who uses the communual area because its right outside his front window takes offence to me using it. He has his owne drive at the back of his house. Probably annoys him that I have space for 2/3 cars so shouldnt be parking there. But its a public area. Its not assigned to anyone, but this chap honeslty thinks he has a right to it becasue he has parked there for so many years.
I'm not too fussed. Couldnt care less about the car. Its got half a dozen key lines on it anyway. We are talking 11yr old Mondeo here, with 170k on the clock. I honestly dont care, but by god i'd love to catch him doing it. I've tried befriending him. Tried reasoning with him. Tried everything. I just take the stance that its a bit of inconvenience to me sometimes, but at least I'm not annoying him.
But after this latest incident all attempts to reason with him are abandoned, & I shall be doing everything in my power to annoy the hell out of him.
Go buy a pig of a car for £200, preferably a big one, that blocks light from his window, park it there permanently and let it rot.
Similar here. When we moved in the neighbour who thought they had rights and the other one who had an informal previous agreement were fighting over our spaces!! First I heard was a solicitors letter from next door grassing the other up!!! Why not come and chat??? Anyway I had great pleasure getting the deeds out and politely asking them both to jog on. Neither talk to me now! I just get bitchy things like they cut my part of the hedge(on shared private road that I've cut twice this season) and left the cuttings on the floor for me when I got home!
Yep, keep it washed and cleaned though. buy it with some tax left to run so minimal outlay in a private sale. It'll pick up alot of keymarks but then you might spot him doing this. Imagine the satisfaction of him paying for a respray and/or prosecution on what really is a scrapper.
A chap I know bought some land and put up a couple of small barns to store cars and equipment in, They were nice tasteful wooden structures, landscaped drive and flower beds around them. The neighbours complained to the council it went to court and because he didn't have planning permission, he's had to take the barns down. The court said the land could only be used for it's original purpose, a scrap yard. He now has a small crane in there, a load of old cars piled up and a low loader. He's rich enough not to give a monkeys and the neighbours now have a scrap yard next door, not a landscaped garden, with some storage.
This is totally OT...sorry, just reminded me of it.
I dont see why the OP needs to pussy foot around its his land tell them to sod off neighbours are just that .They are not your friends just the people you have the misfortune to live next to
Just chain it off, that's not rude or confrontational, you're just reserving your own parking space, on your own land.
The people that pi55 me off are the ones who put cones out in the public road outsie their house.
I live in a small cul-de-sac with a communal car park..
We were shown a space that was generally regarded to be for use by our householf and for the first three months or so that was fine.. Everyone stuck to their regular spaces and there were no arguments..
After we came back from a holiday though, the boyfriend of a neighbour was using our space..
The first time I ignored it.. the next time I knocked on his door and in a blokey friendly manner I told him he was a cheeky **** and that he needed to move his car..
job done.. although he parked in a neighbour's space recently who responded by parking sideways on across every space that the boyfriend, girlfriend and her parents use..
oh how we laughed
They are not your friends just the people you have the misfortune to live next to
They're the people who feed my cats when I'm away on holiday, lend me tools, help with odd-jobs every now and again, collect post for me, put my bins out if I'm not around, baby-sit my kids sometimes etc. One of them even stopped my house burning down once. Yes they may not be my best mates but they fill a role that if it wasn't there would make life a hell of a lot more difficult. I only hope I'm as useful to them as they are to me sometimes.
listen here daz, obviously in the eyes of STW you're common as muck:
1) you spell your username with a 'Z' so you must be poor
2) poor people have lower standards and are obviously too dumb to realise other people are horrid filth that one must avoid at all costs
3) its not proper to engage with ones neighbours unless employing their teenage kids to muck out your stables in the summer holidays
this is STW son, your type aint welcome 'round here!
bloody neighbour loving hippies.
If you've a single solitary ounce of common sense, then the people who you live next door too shouldn't ever feature on the 'people I've needlessly pissed off today' list.
If you've a single solitary ounce of common sense, then the people who you live next door too shouldn't ever feature on the 'people I've needlessly pissed off today' list.
Presumably that works the other way round then, ie not parking in other peoples parking spaces when they have asked you not too...
Just a thought 😉
you're obviously poor binners, or is it binnerZ?!
Philly - i'm common as muck! hence getting on well with all my neighbours. 😉
They're just doing what they've been doing every day for a decade, so the situation needs a bit of diplomacy. One of the many things noticeable by its absence in this thread.
Sometimes you just have to look at the bigger picture, and take on the chin what is ultimately a pretty trifling matter.
Choose your battles.
Park a tank in the spaces and at the weekend start it up and take it for a spin. Either that or a monster truck.
Its not a trifling matter if its happening to you though. Its thoroughly annoying and makes people visiting hard work and unenjoyable if you have to go out and essentially inform your neighbours that you have visitors and could they move out of the way for them. I sympathise with the OP no end.
One of my other neighbours has 4 cars, 2 large (E class merc's) and 2 small (a mini and a 2 seater merc). He has managed to get all 4 cars on his one car drive by replacing his front lawn with stones. Now none of his cars are even on the public part of the close, blocking no-one in. One day he was moving them round and had left his (engine running) in the road as I was going out, he nearly tripped over himself to move it for me. To me, this is normal behaviour. I offer him the use of our drive when Im on holiday as its beneficial to both parties but he doesnt park there the rest of the time.
Sorry for ranting but when you arent having the problem its easy to look at it and say, oh you are making a big deal out of it, but it is a big deal if you are involved. The OP could well have bought the house for the additional parking, exactly what I did. Two spaces with the intention of two cars. But now I only have one space and no where for a second car.
But all this actually means (in reality, rather than your more imaginative scenario) is that occasionally one of your mates may not be able to park up directly outside your house, and may have to walk 50 yards from their car instead when they pop round. In the 'isn't modern life hellish' stakes, it doesn't really make it onto the radar IMHO
Having just moved in somewhere, would I choose to make it an issue, and risk winding up my new neighbours. Well, personally I wouldn't, no.
I seem to be in the minority though. I'm glad I don't live next door to some of you lot. Compromise isn't a word that seems to figure very prominently
Its not really all that imaginative, I'm curious which bit you think isn't factual. I have two cars. I bought a house with two spaces. One of the spaces is permanently filled by some lowlife's piece of junk. I don't think its unreasonable to expect to be able to use my parking without having to ask permission from other people. Perhaps you are willing to pay more for a property that suits you needs only to have some it made unavailable due to selfishness? I do not.
Why do you not have driveway with suitable garaging for your fleet of motorcars? Surely this should be a problem for your staff rather than you?
Are you a peasant?
Are you sure? You were fairly ambiguous in your earlier posts. 😉
Your situation sounds considerably worse than the OP's though. Can you not channel all this angst, and subsequent ranting into more direct threats of physical violence? I think it'd do you a lot of good personally. It'd be cathartic! 😀
Photo copy the deeds ( after double checking the area is yours )
Then write a simple letter in plain English explaining how a right of way over your drive does not give everyone parking rights.
Tell them the standing arrangement with Mr ABC who owned the house before no longer exists.
Invite all your bikey mates/ friends/ family round over the next few weekends so the existing residents can see the hardstanding is being used regulaly.
So what if they get huffy , boo hoo. Tell them to go and buy their own house with adequate parking for their needs , not to think they are entitled to something that they are not, that then requires them to put one foot in front of the other for 1min extra.
Your house = your rules
You are Paul Dacre and I claim my £30,000 in border-dispute legal fees! 😆
Singltrackmind in one.
You need a
'Polite Notice'
I always feel better being told what to do if the notice I'm reading also has to make the point that it is being 'Polite' I get a warm fuzzy feeling as I subserviently observe an comply with the notice that has just been so beautifully passive aggressive.
If I owned that many parking spaces surplus to my normal requirements, I'd be converting them to something more attractive like garden, or more useful like a shed!
Ahhhh "polite notices" - they make me laugh. Two homes near us are defaced with great big blue metal Polite Notices in the style of road signs, stuck to the house front, all because they don't want people parking in front of the house.
. I'm glad I don't live next door to some of you lot. Compromise isn't a word that seems to figure very prominently
As I understand it compromise involves give & take. As far as I can see your advice to the OP is that they get to park on your land & you get to let them. Where is the compromise there?
If I were the OP I would pop round to the neighbours, invite myself in, switch on the TV and ask them to make a cuppa. After all, isn't that what sharing is all about? Treat thier living room as if it were your own.
I always think the word polite, when applied to notices, could be replaced with 'passive/aggressive' or 'self important' or maybe 'terminally lacking in either empathy or self-awareness'. Or prefixed with 'anything but....'
These threads always make me giggle though. They remind me of the classic Eddie Murphy quote from Beverley Hills Cop. "I've never seen a white guy in more desperate need of a ...... "
Don't know why 😆
ahh I just remembered something that happened last year to one of our cars when it was parked round the corner (legally, taxed and insured on a quiet side street).
We had an pissy neighbour stick a big yellow "police aware" sticker on the driver window of the OHs car just because it had not been used for a few weeks (she was cycling to uni and had been away on rotations).
I cleaned it off and put the car back but I really wanted them to do it again as I was going to knock door to door until I found out which one did it and then make them clean it off.
Compromise is a two-way street.
Appeasement is a one-street with double yellow lines.
Appeasement?
In my hand I have a piece of paper.....
It is a photocopy of the deeds
😆
Appeasement =
I'm fine with it if you use some lubrication 😯
My old house had a private driveway which we owned but the other 5 houses had a RoW across it (and also a 5th share in upkeep). To get to the other houses you had to either come straight and then reverse up to them or turn around. Our place had a double garage and also spaceoutside to park but the general area needed to be clear to give enough access. The house next door had a new bloke move in who insisted on parking his car on our property so that he could fill his garage with sh1t. It destroyed my grass and smashed the sewage cover. I had a chat with him and pointed out that he was parking on my property and that it would be appreciated if he would not do that. He was obstructive, rude and generally quite arrogant. I did a quick check and his garage had no planning permission so i shopped him and he had to have it removed....he wasn't happy. To be fair though it was completely in the way and i would come back to find his vehicles parked in front of my garage "becuase it was easier to leave them there", the straw that broke the camels back was getting a SAR callout and opening the garage at 3am to find his funkin cars blocking me in, i shifted them into the middle of the drive and stood on the horn until he appeared, he was a bit upset about that as well but was insistent that even though it was my driveway he was parking in he thought that I should be more 'understanding'. He was a knobjockey of epic proportions.
EDIT: parking is one of those things though that really divides. I am making a mental note to make sure we buy a house with parking !!
i shifted them into the middle of the drive and stood on the horn until he appeared,
was his doorbell broken then or did you just feel like waking everyone else up?
Going back to the OP.
You purchased a house knowing there is informal parking agreements because its a close. Now you wonder what to do because you don't want your neighbors parking at various places.
How did you not expect problems... I just wouldn't have bothered buying that house.
I think your in for years of hassle!
I feel this pain - for 13 years I had a house at the end of a narrow owner-maintained lane shared with 19 other houses, over which I had right of vehicular access. By the end I could feel my stress levels and tension rising everytime I neared the house in expectation of not being able to get to our parking space. Same thing everytime I left - wondering if someone had blocked exit (like the time I was rushing to get to the train station and someone was having a big delivery made).
Just moved to a house with its own drive, garage and plenty of 'occasionsal' space in the cul-de-sac and it is bliss.
i shifted them into the middle of the drive and stood on the horn until he appeared,was his doorbell broken then or did you just feel like waking everyone else up?
Ooh get you. It would only wake him up as the other houses are miles away, and yes he has no doorbell and wasn't answering his phone either.
EDIT: parking is one of those things though that really divides. I am making a mental note to make sure we buy a house with parking !!
Then let your neighbours use it because they didn't buy a house with enough parking 😆
Philly - i'm common as muck! hence getting on well with all my neighbours.
Well I suppose you would rather build up quite a rapport over all those hours spent sitting on the front step in pinnies, smoking cheroots and watching the barefoot urchins play, hmm?
Now you wonder what to do because you don't want your neighbors parking at various places.
.. on his property.
I don't think anyone's said this so far, but why don't you put up a small fence and some gates? Car out, close gates. Perfectly ok and expected you should fence off your own land. Tasteful chain link or rope affair should be enough to keep costs down.
Is this a troll? OP seems to,have disappeared. But a pic of the layout would really help
Parking makes for neighbourly fun sometimes.....We've got friends in a mews block. 20 odd years ago they were built with 11 normal mews houses and one with a chunk out of it at ground level acting as sort of bridge over the entrance to car park behind the houses with a space for every house. 6 months in matey with the odd house discovers the way the legal bobbins was written he was the owner of all the parking spaces. Residents to the other 11 houses came home one day to find a large metal gate across the car park entrance and a letter inviting them to enter a leasehold agreement with the new owner on condition that they all bought in or no one got one. He set the leasehold at one eleventh of what he paid for his house each (i.e. he would end up with a house for free). Consensus was never reached and no one has parked there since. The car park now has trees growing through the tarmac and all the houses have dug up their little front gardens and squeezed a car onto them. Place looks shit - can safely say that everyone lost that day!
No idea if anyone has suggested it (can't be arsed to read 6 pages of angst) but surely if you use the spaces on the opposite side that only leaves the ones outside your garage? Surely nobody is going to park in front of them?
If anyone asks why you park on the other side "I can park where I like on my land"
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(or was that somebody else ? 😳 )
