[Closed] Drinking on your own

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Solo drinking and itunes = miserable playlists.

Och, I do it all the time - it's nowhere near as dangerous as they'd have you believe. It's nice to sit down the pub, enjoying some good craic, but, equally, there are times when you just want to get quietly sozzled without the noise and bother*

*disclaimer - last week I had five days off the booze, just to make sure I still could!*

Even I know well enough to stay away from itunes.

there are times when you just want to get quietly sozzled without the noise and bother*

times when you should be very worried 🙁

i felt bad enough drinking(given im not a drinker by all accounts)in a bar on my own in a town where i know no one ......

- ended up with a group of folk who were all in the same boat at a night club and then a house party

one of the best nights out ive had for a while !

All the best writers, poets,musicians and thinkers liked a drink. All the crap ones were sober. This is a universal truth.

Getting pished on your own can be quite cathartic but I'd avoid doing it too regularly.

Alcohol has many uses - gateway, prop, escape etc. Some people don't understand this.

In moderation alcoholic beverages can be very pleasant, I don't see why enjoying said refreshment on your own is a problem. If however you see alcohol just as a means "to get wrecked" (as I often hear some proclaim) then that's a different kettle of fish IMO.

I may have slipped into some dangerous territory. Possibly, quite a long way into it. Anybody else had a revelation?

I have been in the habbit of drinking too much was convinced that I didn't really have a problem as I could stop if I wished ... and could stop for a number of days at a time if required.

Underneath it all I secretly knew that I was drinking too much ... as I suspect you do.

When I stopped drinking it took three weeks until I felt a lot better.

Try giving up alcohol for a month... I don't mean cutting down ... total and absolute abtainance.... I mean total ... no sherry trifle etc.

At the end of the month you WILL know if you have a problem. I did.

All the very best

David

why is it considered dangerous to drink on your own ? Is this some kind of new health and safety thing, where's the danger ?

Kev

It's not about the company .... It's about the habit.

Depends how much you drink and why.
If you just have a beer or 2 because you like taste its fine. If you're doing it with the intention of getting sozzled, or because you feel you need the alcohol, then less fine.*

Although if you think you have a problem, the fact you've realised is probably a good thing!

*this is my view as someone that is almost (but not quite) tea total!

*disclaimer - last week I had five days off the booze, just to make sure I still could!*

That's meant to be one of the signs of having a problem. Giving up drink for a short period to prove to yourself you don't have a problem.

You'll be fine soldier!

I drink on my own and I'm still here. Did leave the hob on the other night... but I wasn't drinking that night so don't think it's related.

As Christopher Hitchens said; [i]"It's not true that you shouldn't drink alone: these can be the happiest glasses you ever drain..."[/i]

As long as its not in the morning, what's the problem?

It isn't in the morning, is it? 😉

Sometimes it's fine. Plus, it means you don't have to share 18yr old malts. That stuff costs money don't you know. 😉

A few beers here and there on your tod in theory is ok.

If it is a regular part of your day and you are drinking to excess then probably not so good.

That fact you are thinking it may not be good is a good sign.

There are plenty of people who can help with stuff like this, it's dead common.

If you need numbers or anything then give me a shout, the lass works as an OT and has specialised in alchohol problems. (this isn't me telling you you have a prob btw as i have no idea etc)

All the best writers, poets,musicians and thinkers liked a drink. All the crap ones were sober. This is a universal truth.

As Eyepic I would take time off and not just a few days as most problem drinkers can do that. A month or more is good and that will give you time to level off a bit too and start to view your drinking with a different head on. Not many people need a drink but there can always be reasons or excuses why you deserve one.
Good luck with finding out about it, it's probably worth doing if you have a problem or not.

It's an abnegation of the creative spirit to suggest that a drug ever revealed any useful insight, though iot may be the case that creative people are also inclined to reckless or selfdestructive behaviour such as drug taking

As a tee totaller who lives in Lancaster, I think it's you sfb, and not the OP who has a problem.

There are far too many good pubs in that city.

It's an abnegation of the creative spirit to suggest that a drug ever revealed any useful insight

Have you not read Alice in Wonderland? Wordsworth's poetry isn't bad either.

Smacked off their tits the whole time, the pair of 'em 😉

What is the definition of 'drinking on your own'?

I have a couple of bottles of beer most nights or perhaps a glass of wine. Normally this is whilst cooking dinner and subsequently relaxing in front of the telly. My wife is sat with me but she doesn't drink.
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It's an abnegation of the creative spirit to suggest that a drug ever revealed any useful insight,

Crock of shit

Crock of shit

yes, that's what every druggie will tell you 🙁

My wife is sat with me but she doesn't drink.

and is she a real person or an inflatable ?

Dali managed to get his creative insight simply through lack of sleep (at least that was one of his techniques along with opium use). He would go days and into weeks without sleep until he started to become delirious.

and is she a real person or an inflatable ?

You really don't have a clue do you ?

Smug and ignorant, what an intoxicating blend!

Crock of shit

yes, that's what every druggie will tell you

Creative druggies? Or non-creative? I'm just interested to know who your basing your sweeping, ill-informed generalisations on

im more concerned about the general popluations addiction to television than alcohol.

Are you?

simon.. I have seen your vehemently puritanical stance on threads before..
It causes me to wonder if you've ever experimented with any forms of expanding your consciousness yourself..?

I personally agree that creative people may also be inclined to reckless behaviour such as drug taking.. I also believe that you could stuff a broad spectrum of folk full of mind altering chemicals.. and maybe only a handful will benefit creatively from the experience.. the majority will become burping.. farting.. hysterical buffoons..

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I do think it's pretty sad that in this day and age the preferred method of relaxation for many involves sitting on their arses watching other people do the things they'd like to.

I do think it's pretty sad that in this day and age the preferred method of relaxation for many involves sitting on their arses watching other people do the things they'd like to.

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simon.. I have seen your vehemently puritanical stance on threads before..

you mistake me - if people want to poison themselves, that's their business - I'd just prefer them not to come up with spurious rationalisations, or to insist that their drug is relatively benign while supporting the pointless prosecution of the use of others. I'm all in favour of fun, but observation would seem to suggest that derived from drugs is largely delusional. Chocolate now...

of course, the best drug is sex and that is highly dangerous :o)

mf, yes, with alcohol the users tend to acknoledge there is a problem, or that there is the potential for a problem to arise.

So what is the concern about someone watching television?

Instead you sit at a computer typing furiously about how it is so sad. Why not go out and do one of those things you would like to do?

No, no I do it too! I'm not sfb for god sake!

Although actually I'm out in the garden playing with my kids and posting from my phone at the mo. 8)

My concern (if that's what it is) is just that tv doesn't require people to do anything. It seems that fewer people read books, draw/paint, play music, go out etc when the box in corner is available. Probably just getting old 😉

Good god I am confused now. You are complaining about yourself?

I do wish I was in my garden playing with my kids though - it is a lovely day and I am stuck in the office.

I wish I was drunk.

Plenty problem drinkers offshore who go without for a fortnight at a time. 5 days off means nothing really. I'd be trying 6 weeks off.

Good god I am confused now. You are complaining about yourself?

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I think if you're trying to take time off then you've got a problem!
I'll happily have a drink almost every night 😀

You really don't have a clue do you ?
Smug and ignorant, what an intoxicating blend!

and taking drugs gives one a clue ? I wonder. One might almost think they tend to render people clueless. In fact, that may be why they do it 🙁

I prefer to remain smugly in control of what meagre faculties I possess.

In the same way I see no reason to sample rape or murder to see if they're nice too.

Rape? Murder? Having a spliff? S'all the same innit?

Well done Mr Barnes. You've surpassed yourself. Possibly the stupidest comment I've ever read on here. Even from you

*stands and applauds*

and taking drugs gives one a clue ?

Read any books by druggies?

Oh so it's a question of morality and legality then?

I prefer to remain smugly in control of what meagre faculties I possess.

I can see how if you were burdened with particularly weak mental faculty then the dangers of being an imbiber would be multiplied somewhat. Personally I am in the try everything once camp, with a caveat that if it is enjoyable, you should indulge it as often as you see fit.

*resists the urge to make a very bad joke in bad taste about rape being an upper or a downer, or both*

I had hoped that this thread might have died away in the same way that I wish my internet over-ride breathalyser was more effective.

I started drinking last summer as self-medicating relief from anxiety attacks. Long story of break up/depression and going through difficult times that I won't repeat here. Alcohol works as a fairly fast way of numbing.

I'm still in a difficult situation and still drinking every evening. Last night I casually drank three pints of beer and a bottle of wine. That's not a casual amount and I certainly can't sustain it and have a good outcome. In lots of ways.

I'm seeking to replace drinking with cycling but so far that hasn't been going too well.

I think I should refrain from getting involved in the creativity debate. Well, at least until after I've had a drink and and fashioned some constructive thought.

Ah, Kunstler, I feel for you mate, been through similar in the past and it is a difficult cycle to break.

You've just got to think about the situation you're in - is it really that difficult to get out of?

I sort of agree with Simon. I think people are confusing a mental state for creating with alcohol numbing. A fair amount of artists tend to suffer from insecurities, anxieties and stresses which can reduce their creativeness, alcohol can to be used to loosen these, a bit like dutch courage. If they didn't have the anxieties in the first place they could get to that state readily without a drink. The problem with using drink to get there is it will start to damage that state and make it more dependable.

Some artists have used other ways of getting there like meditation, putting themselves in danger and risk taking too. Others completely dry.

Imagine what the world would like like if the 20th Century's most infamous teetotaler had got half cut (and a bit more chilled) on a few occasions....

Can't say that total abstinence has got a particularly good press - can lead to dangerously obsessive behaviours elsewhere.

Imagine what the world would like like if the 20th Century's most infamous teetotaler had got half cut (and a bit more chilled) on a few occasions....

Can't say that total abstinence has got a particularly good press - can lead to dangerously obsessive behaviours elsewhere.

Yay! Godwin!

Stalin like vodka, imagine how the world would have been if he hadn't been drunk all the time...

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Wasn't Winston Churchill almost constantly leathered? He used to drink Champagne with breakfast.

That's class for you, that is

So what is the concern about someone watching television?

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Just before my divorce I was buying two bottles of wine on the way home and drinking one before he got home just to 'numb it' then drinking the rest pretending it was my first..... when I got the point I was doing that even if he wasn't coming home and not feelign like I had a hangover I realsied I needed to do something.

Fact is it makes you more depressed the next day doesn't it 🙁

Even now I still have diffcultly not just using it as a crutch when I'm feeling rubbish about stuff.

Sending big hugs and hoping you find somethign else to occupy you now its coming lighter at night

OP, knock it on the head for a bit like others have suggested. Send all the booze in your house to SFB.

Blimey. You really think a pissed up Hitler would have been a good thing?

S'all the same innit?

no, I meant that there's no need to sample a behaviour in order to determine if it's a good idea.

no, I meant that there's no need to sample a behaviour in order to determine if it's a good idea.

Still a totally spurious and ridiculous thing to say, I'm afraid. In fact, its utter twoddle

I think about 99.99999999999999999999999999999999999% of the population would agree that rape and murder probably aren't that good an idea?

The figures would suggest no such consensus on drug use

Still a totally spurious and ridiculous thing to say

I wasn't comparing drinking and murder, only suggesting that you can often tell if something might be a bad idea without doing it.

I'm going to just start adding more alcohol to my cooking to make me feel better about the whole thing, some of the alcohol evaporates when you add it to food, right?

What wine for muesli?

suggesting that you can often tell if something might be a bad idea without doing it

Yes, often you can. However, often you can't.

Blimey. You really think a pissed up Hitler would have been a good thing?

Nope...

Teetotal was catastrophic. Hitler was an easy / lazy example.

What wine for muesli?

Now there's a thought - has to be amaretto surely??

For Muesli, peach or apple schnapps, gets one of y' five a day in as well.

Sorry Mr B. Its still a completely stupid analogy. Mainly as it doesn't work as one.

My ever-growing collection of scars and injuries would suggest that throwing myself down steep hills on a mountain bike wouldn't tend to be up there with the best ideas I've ever had. I still do it. Mainly because my life is richer and more fulfilling as a result of it. You're just going to have to accept that a lot of people feel that way about using various substances. No matter what your own personal opinion is

Back on the original topic (sorry, someone had to do it), I decided that I was probably drinking a bit too much, so I stopped drinking [i]at all[/i] during the week.

That still means I can drink on a Friday or Saturday night, and frequently I do. Thing is though, I don't really want to; I'm sleeping so much better without the booze that although I'm happy on the weekend to have a glass of wine or maybe a beer, that's about my limit now.

Makes taking the recycling bins out [i]much[/i] easier now, let me tell you.

I suppose Hitler would probably have been killed in a bar brawl if he'd been on the booze before he could get up to no good.

I regularly drink on my own, I finished work last night and really fancied a pint, so I want and had a few don't see what the big deal is pub was rammed with Celtic supporters anyway. Oh and I do this regular on my own and with mates.

According to some on here Ringo, you need drastic help.

I know yeah its so laughable, for the record I don't drink at home but I like being in a boozer and probly go in one 4-5 times a week 😀

I came on here a couple of months ago asking for the opinion of the forum on much the same thing, not about drinking on my own but regarding a habitual drink or two most evenings.

I was told that I was 10 years from death and that I had a very serious problem. To be honest I kind of regretted asking, lots of effort went into in fighting and petty squabbling and you have to remember this is a forum full of healthy types and puritanical arses.

If you suspect that you are getting into trouble, you quite possibly are but it also displays a degree of self awareness that may serve to act as a regulator. As AA say, the hardest bit is admitting you have a problem, if you are not averse to admitting that you [i]might[/i] have a problem I would suggest you are in a strong position to act in a way that improves your life and your helps you do the things you want to do, not just the things that habits draws you towards.

FWIW, I have stopped drinking altogether on school nights, it has been relatively easy and I have lost some weight and saved some money but only a modest amount of each. I do look forward to letting my hair down on the weekends which I am sure some people will interpret as me having a serious drinking problem but I stay sobre more often so I am in good shape to ride my bike, apparently I have a serious biking problem too!

Good luck in whatever you do, if it gets too bad I can put you in touch with some very good people who can help depending on where you live. Email is in the profile.

Back on the original topic (sorry, someone had to do it), I decided that I was probably drinking a bit too much, so I stopped drinking at all during the week

That's been pretty much my tactic - particularly after Christmas when it's easy to find yourself drinking pretty heavily nearly every day of the week.

There's a great Horizon documentary about drinking (Do I Drink Too Much?), well worth watching, quite thought-provoking and definitely not puritanical.

My father-in-law told me once that he has had a drink every day for the last thirty years. He often goes to worh with empty beer cans hidden in his briefcase and one time we were down for dinner and my missus went to get a bottle of wine out of the rack and the bottle was empty. He'd arsed it and put the lid back on the bottle and into the rack. That's a drink problem, right? He also used to habitually drink-drive and on occasion drunk-drive. He stopped that since I told him I'd knock him out if he ever had my kids in the car and he had a drink.