[Closed] Do real men cry?

So if I want to become a real man, do I need to have my tear ducts epoxied?

FFS, the Dogs' Trust ads make me cry!

Try explaining to your brother that you Father only has hours to live...

i have/do cry. have no problem with it anymore than laughing

Of course they do!
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I just have that effect sometimes. 🙄

it's all down to personal choice, or even DNA....and what IS a ReaL Man ....in my head i'm still 15 and invincible, however i'm 40 with a prolapsed disc, 2 kids, a big job and a beautiful wife so either i'm a real man or a 40 yr old boy....i'm going for the latter...and crying is totally allowed.

Surely it's just a physiological reaction?

I cry more readily at happy things than sad things.

you're a student, you haven't lived

maybe one day, you might know what a real man is but right now, you clearly have no idea

When your your parent or dog dies. Or if you're drunk.

now then sam, as you well know, i am a REAL man...

and yes, i have been known to shed a tear at opportunistic moments.

let it all out son.

err I dont really get this question. Is it possible to stop yourself crying, seems a pretty involutary response to me.

I suppose my answer would be real men dont cry if nothing bad ever happens to them. Which is highly unlikely

To me its like asking do really men never sneeze. Mind I have to say its never really occured to me I might be able to stop myself crying but then again I cant stop ****ing mid flow no matter what were as some of my mates reckon this is deffinetly possible.

so you view tears as weakness? just another emotion triggered easier in some than others
I see nothing wrong in it

nope not in public.. maybe in a quiet corner very discreet...?

you're a student, you haven't lived

I think that's pretty much it, really.

Crying at films is for pussies, though.

Crying at films is for pussies, though.

Except when a dog dies, obviously.

Real men have kids. If you have kids you'll cry*.

Andy

*Even if it's because you've been head-butted in the happy sack.

Being able to hide your emotions from others for their benefit is part of being a man. stiff upper lip, strength in adversity, or at least the illusion of it, is part of the manly skill set.

Denying yourself the expression of emotions in any circumstance isn't even healthy, let alone manly.

Heal and grow.

Define a "real man".

Crying at films is for pussies, though

c'mon - you've never seen Shane, have you ?!

John terry? 🙂

There was a great big ugly power lifter at my gym who's wife's sister I knew well. She told me her sister told her that he cried after sex; not sure what a real man is but I guess he thought he was.

For a few years, I couldn't. Then one day, I could again and I have been happier ever since.

It's a good thing to do when necessary.

Cry only if you mean it otherwise keep calm and carry on.

😐

There are some situations where you need to hold back, but let it out later. For the sake of others like. So a real man can control this I think

if you don't cry, you're an automaton, not a man

Yes we do.
If you've been present at a birth, a death, a conception, then you do.

I cried at my son's birth but I'm pretty bloody sure I didn't cry at his conception.

Did you mean constipation?

Wot rapier said

Real men do cry, but they cry tears of petrol and beer. HTH

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of course they do

but they don't eat quiche

but they don't eat quiche

should read "but they don't eat cock" - except the gayers, obviously...

Oh blimey, here we go ... STW plummets 🙄

Oh blimey, here we go ... STW plummets

usually at [b]your[/b] instigation 🙂

I cry at Hollyoaks... And my Mum always tells me that I'm 'her brave little soldier'... which I think means that I am a real man..

So yeah... crying = real man for sure..

Cried the other weekend, as we bid farewell to our 16yo three-legged cat and he was put to sleep.

You only need to have seen the display put on by Patrick Kielty who, over several hours, sobbed himself to sleep on the first night on the Sport Relief's £1,330, 000 sponsored bike ride to know that the answer is NO.

He proceeded to sob after every little ride he did thereafter (between bouts of drinking alcohol).

I am very uncomfortable with men sobbing unless there's a very good reason for it, which would typically involve personal loss or some tremendous achievemnet / high.

I was very surprised by the out-pouring of grief after Princess Di died.

I'm sorry, my tongue was so far in my cheek there that nobody noticed. 🙄

I haven't cried for, well I can't remember so must be nearly 30 years.

(Luckily I haven't had reason to so far....)

I make no claim to any particular masculinity, but I often find myself moved to tears by great beauty

If you think you;re a real man because you don;t cry, you need help

as long as its sincere it fine. nothing worse than watching folk greet at the x-factor etc.

I don't tend to cry on the usual "sad" occasions but I can get a bit emotional (choked up, rather than crying) watching or looking at something that particularly impresses me - it can be impressive landscapes, watching a race of some sort or even (strangely) watching a Greek bus driver turning a huge brand spanking new Mercedes bus in a really confined village square, as easily as most people park outside their house.

Define crying though - blubbing like a girl with snot bubbling out of your nose like a 5yr old?

Or red eyed, tears steadily streaming down? Im in the last camp and did this in the delivery suite last week. I also do this in certain films. In the English Patient etc etc.

blubbing like a girl with snot bubbling out of your nose like a 5yr old?

I can imagine why you might evoke this response is women 🙁

It's nothing to do with being a "real" "man", but I dislike crying enormously and go to a lot of effort to avoid doing it when anyone can see or hear. I find the actual physical sensation uncomfortable and humiliating and hate the idea that someone can see that they're messing me up. 😐

I can imagine why you might evoke this response is women

Don't you have derrières somewhere that need photographing? 🙄 🙂

Oooh. Handbags. 😉

Folk not crying is ****ed up IMO, male or female, any age.

Real people are comfortable with their emotions trying to stop yourself crying, or worse , not having the emotional literature to be able to do so makes you a less than complete human being IMHO.

Crying in front of your boss because he's being a real meanie doesn't seem the most manly of things to do though 😉

Real men do cry- just not in public.

I think a seismic shift in people's ideas about what being a "real man" involved was well under way by the time people were saying things like "emotional literature". Within my lifetime, "real men" will:

- cry at weddings
- watch Gossip Girl
- use moisturiser regularly
- have no body hair at all
- wee sitting down

The world is changing. 🙂

Don't you have derrières somewhere that need photographing?

by all means - the difference being that they laugh when I'm doing it 🙂

PS Does this count as "Hora bashing" ?

I have been known to shed a tear. The only time I regret doing so was my a certain girl broke up with me.

PS Does this count as "Hora bashing" ?

Runs out, slams door crying

Bit af a silly question really, as others have said, it's often an involuntary response.

I've found myself to be more emotional as I've got older - kids, tiredness, stress, less bothered about being buttoned up....

... and sometimes at the strangest of things, much to the amusement of my wife!!

Memories triggered by scent and sound being particularly powerful.

And for anger and joy as well as for sorrow.

+1 to Big Dummy.

Real men do whatever the **** they like..

-Wear pink
-Cry
-Pee sitting down
-Moisturise
-Watch Desperate Housewives (maybe no Sex and The City tho!)
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etc

With one exception real men don't disrespect women. That is for pussies.

I think a seismic shift in people's ideas about what being a "real man" involved was well under way by the time people were saying things like "emotional literature".

Hangs head in shame realises what he has said ...yes a fair point actually but I dont do anything on your list ....yet. My dads emotional literature consists of morose and a bit happier when drunk.

I cried when dad died, my girls were born and watching Dead Poet's Society. 😮

I almost cried last night watching 'one Born Every Minute' too - it brought back memories of being in a Special Care Unit for a week with the girls last summer.

With one exception real men don't disrespect women

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I recently found that describing your new-born grandson and dry eyes are mutually incompatible.

I don't have kids. I'll never understand.

but I often find myself moved to tears by great beauty

Crying is a good emotional release but really should be in private if at all possible. You never saw real sportsmen cry until comparatively recently - Gazza appears to have opened the floodgates so to speak. Can't stand celebrity bubbling, especially reality tv bollox. MTFU in public at least.

never mind the crying bit.

WTF is a 'real man'?! ❓

I can really stub my toe hard against the corner of a table and merely let out a silent scream along with a flood of invective aimed at the skies.. (think a footballer kneeling and looking upset why is ball didnt go into the goal)..

If I have white wine though- the next day I will cry like a baby.

Hora... is the Don backing me up on that one, or will I shortly be sleeping with the fishes?

Kisses Southern Yeti on both cheeks and hugs.

Define real man? For me, a 'real man' is someone who can admit he has made a mistake and learns from it. Humility.

you must have lots of experience in that department Hora 😆

My nan use to say 'A strong man should never be afraid to cry...'

So I guess I am strong. 🙂

[i]blubbing like a girl with snot bubbling out of your nose like a 5yr old[/i]

Due to one thing and another over the last few years, yep, I have.

Not so much recently, which is good. But then I know that the X-Factor final is going to roll around again at some point...

I was too, when the Duck won the K Factor!

Crying and weakness aren't the same thing, although people used to think they were.

I tend to cry when films tv books etc remind me of the love in my life. I also cry when I think about sandwiches made by my mum. Almost every day, 18 years, she made sandwiches so I'd not go hungry.. the simplest gesture of care and love in something so mundane... nothing will ever taste so good as cheese sandwiches from my mum.. even now I have a tear in my eye.. 🙂 (and she's not even dead yet).

hora - Member
did this in the delivery suite last week.

I defie anyone (who acctual cares about there ofspring) to not cry at this point.

mastiles_fanylion - Member
I almost cried last night watching 'one Born Every Minute' too - it brought back memories of being in a Special Care Unit for a week with the girls last summer.

I did to this as it also brough back memories of being in that very unit ( though strangly it doesn't effect me when i go in for work).

I defie anyone (who acctual cares about there ofspring) to not cry at this point.

I didn't cry.. I grinned a lot though 🙂

My two brothers and I shed a tear or two yesterday afternoon, but we were burying our father at the time. Not sure if we can be classed as real men or not now...

In the past, I had better general relationships with boyfriends who cried sometimes. They tended to be more emotionally assessable, and more open and caring. All things I found positives. My dad was of the 'old school' and would not let himself cry even when his mum died. I found him generally a remote person and I never really knew what he felt about anything much, or if indeed he felt much at all in the way of emotions. It was a bleak relationship in many ways. Certainly not an attitude I would wish to find in a friend or lover. Its better to have a complete person than someone who lives behind an icy wall.

What makes me weep most is: people not knowing the difference between there & their, but the worst culprit, people not knowing the difference between they're & there.

Sincere commiserations salad – I personally still have all that to go through.

The last two occasions I cried were four and 15 years ago respectively.

Sometimes I feel like crying, and sometimes I ahve wanted to cry, but it feels likel such a personal act I can't even manage to do it alone.

I wonder if that means I am more emotionally stunted than I thought I was. Maybe I am. After all, I am struggling to commit to the leg shaving I need to do for the road racing season....