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Obviously circumstances some into it, but I believe that real men don't cry, whereas many of my crybaby friends think it's actually a pretty manly thing to let yourself cry.

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Posted : 23/03/2010 11:25 pm
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So if I want to become a real man, do I need to have my tear ducts epoxied?

FFS, the Dogs' Trust ads make me cry!


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:27 pm
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Try explaining to your brother that you Father only has hours to live...


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:28 pm
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i have/do cry. have no problem with it anymore than laughing


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:28 pm
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Of course they do!
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I just have that effect sometimes. 🙄


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:29 pm
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it's all down to personal choice, or even DNA....and what IS a ReaL Man ....in my head i'm still 15 and invincible, however i'm 40 with a prolapsed disc, 2 kids, a big job and a beautiful wife so either i'm a real man or a 40 yr old boy....i'm going for the latter...and crying is totally allowed.


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:29 pm
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Surely it's just a physiological reaction?

I cry more readily at happy things than sad things.


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:30 pm
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you're a student, you haven't lived

maybe one day, you might know what a real man is but right now, you clearly have no idea


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:30 pm
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When your your parent or dog dies. Or if you're drunk.


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:33 pm
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now then sam, as you well know, i am a REAL man...

and yes, i have been known to shed a tear at opportunistic moments.

let it all out son.


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:33 pm
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err I dont really get this question. Is it possible to stop yourself crying, seems a pretty involutary response to me.

I suppose my answer would be real men dont cry if nothing bad ever happens to them. Which is highly unlikely

To me its like asking do really men never sneeze. Mind I have to say its never really occured to me I might be able to stop myself crying but then again I cant stop ****ing mid flow no matter what were as some of my mates reckon this is deffinetly possible.


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:34 pm
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so you view tears as weakness? just another emotion triggered easier in some than others
I see nothing wrong in it


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:36 pm
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nope not in public.. maybe in a quiet corner very discreet...?


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:38 pm
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you're a student, you haven't lived

I think that's pretty much it, really.

Crying at films is for pussies, though.


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:40 pm
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Crying at films is for pussies, though.

Except when a dog dies, obviously.


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:42 pm
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Real men have kids. If you have kids you'll cry*.

Andy

*Even if it's because you've been head-butted in the happy sack.


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:44 pm
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Being able to hide your emotions from others for their benefit is part of being a man. stiff upper lip, strength in adversity, or at least the illusion of it, is part of the manly skill set.

Denying yourself the expression of emotions in any circumstance isn't even healthy, let alone manly.

Heal and grow.


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:45 pm
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Define a "real man".


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:45 pm
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Crying at films is for pussies, though

c'mon - you've never seen Shane, have you ?!


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:51 pm
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John terry? 🙂


 
Posted : 23/03/2010 11:54 pm
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There was a great big ugly power lifter at my gym who's wife's sister I knew well. She told me her sister told her that he cried after sex; not sure what a real man is but I guess he thought he was.


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:04 am
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For a few years, I couldn't. Then one day, I could again and I have been happier ever since.

It's a good thing to do when necessary.


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:08 am
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Cry only if you mean it otherwise keep calm and carry on.

😐


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:11 am
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There are some situations where you need to hold back, but let it out later. For the sake of others like. So a real man can control this I think


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:11 am
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if you don't cry, you're an automaton, not a man


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:21 am
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Yes we do.
If you've been present at a birth, a death, a conception, then you do.


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:21 am
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I cried at my son's birth but I'm pretty bloody sure I didn't cry at his conception.

Did you mean constipation?


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:24 am
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Wot rapier said


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:25 am
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Real men do cry, but they cry tears of petrol and beer. HTH

🙄


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:29 am
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of course they do

but they don't eat quiche


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:36 am
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but they don't eat quiche

should read "but they don't eat cock" - except the gayers, obviously...


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:39 am
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Oh blimey, here we go ... STW plummets 🙄


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:40 am
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Oh blimey, here we go ... STW plummets

usually at [b]your[/b] instigation 🙂


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 12:51 am
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I cry at Hollyoaks... And my Mum always tells me that I'm 'her brave little soldier'... which I think means that I am a real man..

So yeah... crying = real man for sure..


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 7:45 am
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Cried the other weekend, as we bid farewell to our 16yo three-legged cat and he was put to sleep.


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 7:47 am
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You only need to have seen the display put on by Patrick Kielty who, over several hours, sobbed himself to sleep on the first night on the Sport Relief's £1,330, 000 sponsored bike ride to know that the answer is NO.

He proceeded to sob after every little ride he did thereafter (between bouts of drinking alcohol).

I am very uncomfortable with men sobbing unless there's a very good reason for it, which would typically involve personal loss or some tremendous achievemnet / high.

I was very surprised by the out-pouring of grief after Princess Di died.


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 8:02 am
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I'm sorry, my tongue was so far in my cheek there that nobody noticed. 🙄


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 8:22 am
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I haven't cried for, well I can't remember so must be nearly 30 years.

(Luckily I haven't had reason to so far....)


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 8:45 am
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I make no claim to any particular masculinity, but I often find myself moved to tears by great beauty


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 9:12 am
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If you think you;re a real man because you don;t cry, you need help


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 9:12 am
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as long as its sincere it fine. nothing worse than watching folk greet at the x-factor etc.


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 9:26 am
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I don't tend to cry on the usual "sad" occasions but I can get a bit emotional (choked up, rather than crying) watching or looking at something that particularly impresses me - it can be impressive landscapes, watching a race of some sort or even (strangely) watching a Greek bus driver turning a huge brand spanking new Mercedes bus in a really confined village square, as easily as most people park outside their house.


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 9:29 am
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Define crying though - blubbing like a girl with snot bubbling out of your nose like a 5yr old?

Or red eyed, tears steadily streaming down? Im in the last camp and did this in the delivery suite last week. I also do this in certain films. In the English Patient etc etc.


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 9:48 am
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blubbing like a girl with snot bubbling out of your nose like a 5yr old?

I can imagine why you might evoke this response is women 🙁


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 9:55 am
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It's nothing to do with being a "real" "man", but I dislike crying enormously and go to a lot of effort to avoid doing it when anyone can see or hear. I find the actual physical sensation uncomfortable and humiliating and hate the idea that someone can see that they're messing me up. 😐


 
Posted : 24/03/2010 9:57 am
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