[Closed] dating your first cousin?

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Unhealthy imo. And only suitable for royalty or squirrel-eating folk living on the Appalachian Mountains.

Your parents were siblings ffs. And your siblings are your closest relatives - even most closely related to you than your parents. You share identical parents with your siblings, not something which you share even with your parents.

The world is full of women who aren't related to you, why don't you try dating one of those

Hmm, this bridge looks safe to cross, said the first Billy Goat Gruff...

My aunt and uncle are cousins just as the OP is describing. There never was any approbation in the family regarding the relationship. They have fantastic sons and now grandchildren too. Not a problem in my eyes at all.

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I would not mine are all ugly IGMC
It is legal I can see why the family are upset but really it is your choice whatever the ribbing you get from people may be.

!Apparntly 80% of all historic marriages have been between seconds cousins and closer, and 10% of all worldwide current marriages are 1st cousins.

Your call.

Dueling banjo's...

this one's got a real purty mouth

Do you want children with webbed feet and gills?

There's a big tradition of endogamous marriage between first cousins amongst one particular ethnic group in Birmingham and I know a paediatric neurologist who has to work with the sad outcomes of such unions. Even though such genetic disorders are the result of generations of such marriages it's still not something to be recommended.

Yep it's fine. You live in Alabama, right?

Yep it's fine. You live in Alabama, right?

Nah, I'm pretty sure he's from the Fens... Low population density, very flat land, not much to do... All the typical symptoms that would lead to somebody wanting to...
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TROLL ON THE INTERNET!

What did you think I was going to say? 😉

What did you think I was going to say?

Squeal little piggy?

"come on in the house, I'd like you to meet my sister and my wife...here she is."

I married my step sister - but there was obviously no blood relationship (and we'd only known each other as adults). And yes, we do come from Norfolk. You've got to be prepared for a LOT of ridicule.

Your only here once...

But up here in Bradford it happens a lot and the BRI has a lot of medical issues relating to it so hold the children!

As long as you ride an On One you'll be fine.

It's your life not your parent's.

It's how Ireland got its folk, you don't sleep with/shag outside your family (or is it just Drogheda?). Almost.

I did read something recently about marriage between first cousins greatly increases the risk of birth defects. I guess the OP did say she already had kids so that might not be a problem. Course I understand marriage between first cousins can also greatly increase the risk of trolls.

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its a no no ! its alittle bit wrong ! 😉

You're only here once - troll like there's no tomorrow!

Why not? She has children already, if you like each other go for it and have a happy relationship.

Don't think the OP is real, just a wind up. I don't care who you marry, shag, or date. If it is real then be sure that she feels the same, if you take her to the cinema and then put a move on her, she could slap you, tell you that you got the signs wrong and brand you a pervert. Your family will disown you, brand you an outcast and burn you.

My wife is from a first cousin marriage, she is beautiful, intelligent, has the correct number of digits etc, but.. her brother is schizophrenic, her sister has bi polar, her other sister depression and her other brother was still born. Maybe these things are not related, but the odd's aren't good.

I'm sensing some unresolved issues with your mother.

OP are you from Todmorden? First Cousin is practically another species over there.

Whereas in Oldham they fetch over their first cousins from overseas routinely.

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This thread would be better on mumsnet, they would have a right old time on this subject.

My mum met my dad at her cousin's and his brother's wedding, so they are not blood related but it means I have a slightly smaller christmas card list than I would do otherwise.

and despite the genetic safety and normalness of my parents' marriage, I still get a lot of duelluing banjos when people hear about it!

And yes OP if you aren't trolling you will too, though I suppose if you are in your 40's and she has 2 already, you may not be having children and loading the mental illness/learning difficulty/chromosonal disorder dice....

Mumsnet is full of divorced/men walked out of the home. Disfunctional women who seem to think they are they always right.

STW is full of men who would like to have a woman.

Surely we should do some matching?

OP. Less than 24hours since you introduced yourself on this forum, and already you're coming up with gems like this. I can't wait to see what you have in store for us. 🙂

Its legal, and (hopefully) you are not planning children - so, where's the problem.

The 1st cousin ****stani 'problem' is less about one marriage, and more about a chain of first cousin marriages.

Personally - if our son dated my wife's niece I'd not be happy.

why date your cousin when there is so many pretty sheep around??????

If you were a Yeti I'd say yes. There are very of us about so unless I wanted to sleep with a horrible hairless lady, and risk the chance of mixed folicular children then it's often the only option.

However, there are loads of trolls about these days.

It's a big problem in Asian communities with arranged marriages between cousins. It creates a disproportionate amount of birth defects in all newborns.

It's a big problem in Asian communities with arranged marriages between cousins. It creates a disproportionate amount of birth defects in all newborns

This is a serious/growing problem in the Greater Manchester area. Only recently has a program actually been made about this problem. Should be more far-reaching though.

You'd have to be abit simple though to marry someone THAT closely related though in the first place.

Thats not a racial insult. Its a comment directed against a sub-section within a nationality/region.

In my mother's family, it used to be quite normal for double first cousins to marry.

They are Welsh, mind you.

The village mentality. That was prevalent in parts of the UK throughout all classes in Victorian times (and England) up until the early part of the 20th century.

Mobility helped change/modernise things huh.

[i]It's a big problem in Asian communities with arranged marriages between cousins. It creates a disproportionate amount of birth defects in all newborns[/i]
& in Leeds/Bradford. Mrs Futtock works on a kids ward in LGI & sees a lot more birth defect related problems in Asian families. I'm not syaing there ARE any more problems than in other races but she comes across them more often.

New and unseen issues as well.

These new and unseen issues will have been seen a couple of centuries back I bet just forgotten/not documents as well now due to medical infancy.

[i]The village mentality. That was prevalent in parts of the UK throughout all classes in Victorian times (and England) up until the early part of the 20th century.

Mobility helped change/modernise things huh.[/i]

I think the bicycle has been cited as one of the greatest assets to the countries gene pool for that reason.

I dated a girl with webbed toes once.... she was crap at wearing flip-flops but a ****ing good swimmer.

you'll be able to point at planes together - wonderful

I could have sworn that the bicycle was instrumental in the broadening of the gene pool.

The village I grew up in had a 'local bicycle', she didn't help broaden the gene pool.

I bet we all knew a girl like that. 😆

I surprised so many people have talked about possible genetic problems given the ready availabilty of contraceptive methods. Having children together might not be a good idea but otherwise it shouldn't be anyone else's business!

Define dating - sounds like you enjoy your first cousins company, and I'd see no problem with that. I'd argue taking it to "knowing" her is wrong, as is a relationship that produces offspring. No contraception can be 100% effective, so in response to SFB the risks of a sexual relationship take things a step too far.

There was a recent Channel 4 documentary on first cousin marriages, concentrated on the asian populations in the bigger cities, and as someone above has already said part of the issue within the asian families is recurrent first cousin marriages producing very close genetic cousins, and the problem of extremely rare recessive conditions coming to the fore. It was a sad programme to watch, one of the saddest cases was a 17 year old with a progressive neurological condition, was blind & going deaf, but all he knew was he was 17 and 17 year olds are allowed to drive. He couldn't process mentally that his condition would never allow that. The programme infered that within asian communities cousin marriages are so common to keep property & money within a family.

But it isn't just isolated to asian populations, two of the most handicapped children I've ever looked after came from a caucasian cousin marriage.

No contraception can be 100% effective, so in response to SFB the risks of a sexual relationship take things a step too far.

after having the snip I have had zero further children despite my best endeavours...

SFB prefers to splash it around now, old spice-style

[i]old spice-style[/i]

In the shower with Kevin Keegan?

Question. What if your first Cousin is seriously hot?

In the shower with Kevin Keegan?

well, he would be unlikely to become impregnated :o)

How about in the shower with Sven and Keagan? You could have a grey-off

Question. What if your first Cousin is seriously hot?

wouldn't Kevin get jealous ??

Its legal to marry a cousin. That's all that matters.
Go for it. Be happy.

Many many royal and/or moneyed families have over the century's, though for cash and land rather than happiness.

Well in Shameless one character slept with his half-brother knowing he was his half-brother

Move to Burnley. Good local mountain biking and that sort of caper is socially acceptable.

As long as you're not planning to breed, crack on.

two of the most handicapped children I've ever looked after came from a caucasian cousin marriage.

And that was down to the fact that the parents were Cousins was it? Out of intrest, how were they disabled?

I'm pretty sure you get disabled Children born of parents who are not related as well.

I'm not suggesting it's favourable to have children if your related, but to imply that it was the cause of their severe disablement in that case is a bit of a stretch.

60 Million people in the UK just over half are women allowing that only 1% of them are available that's still 300,000 thousand women that aren't your sodding cousin.

Sweet jesus christ on a bicycle.