You’ll have to forgive me for this but; if you and your other half mis-understand each other to that extent then you’ve got to question your relationship, and not just that she thinks she can, and you’re prepared to let her, tell you what to do!
Surely two people who are going to share their lives together have to be the same kind of people? Like be into the same stuff, you know, people who can enjoy themselves together, doing what they really love, together, as a couple of mates, as well as partners.
My (shortly to be) wife and I met on a mountian biking holiday. We ride together all the time, we’ve been on holiday to Morocco, The Sierra Nevada, The Alps, all over the place, riding together. We’ve got a dozen or so, XC, DH, road, pub, messing about, bikes between us.
Honestly, do you even speak the same language?
Why would you settle for second best? You only get one life. Do it right or not at all.