I'll open this thread by saying this is not a dig at anybody who's engaged, recently married or recently separated/divorced. It is not my intention to belittle or pass judgement on anybody's experiences or views. Everyone is different, every couple is different and if marriage is or isn't your thang... awesome
Now to the point... what does marriage mean to you?
I know people who won't consider a couple to be committed unless they're married, I know people who have been married for 45+ years, I know people who have been married for 20 years then divorced the moment both kids left home, I know people blah blah blah etc etc etc. Basically everyone sees it differently, has their own opinion on its validity, what it means, what it proves...
So, for the married people... What does it mean to you? Was it religious, are you religious? Has it added a strength to something that might have fizzed out if it wasn't for that piece of paper? Tell me about it
And, for the unmarried... Will/would you ever get married? If not, why not? Religious? Been married before? As above... I'm interested in your opinion and experience
Personally I'm in the 'shouldn't need a piece of paper to prove your commitment to each other' camp. Mrsconsequence and I have been together for years and have in the words of our friends/families... 'a much healthier relationship' than those around us who have gone down the marriage route so the only reason we'd be getting a certificate of marriage is if we found out one of us was terminally unwell to make the legal stuff easier. We've considered our friends and families though and at some point we'll have a big party in which we 'celebrate our relationship and future together'. Can't explain in words how much I love her, even when she's a complete nightmare... if marriage was still the norm in society then we'd have been married years ago... but seeing as we live in enlightened times I'm quite happy that we don't need to get a certificate of completing a religious ceremony to prove that to people we don't know