I weight a measly 56kg’s and have ahd the same issues, not sure what forks your running but heres a few things that help me out…
I’m running a few different det ups
– Hardtail w. RS Reba’s the negative air chamber is by far the best way of getting the sag / plushness dialed. I’m running positive air as RS suggest negative air = positive air chamber + 5psi
– all mountain rig Fox Talas 36’s & Fox DHX 5 both run slightly lower than ‘Fox suggested’ air pressure, rebound set faster than normal, then higher air preassure in the bottom out bumper on the DHX
– 4X bike Fox Van R front & Rear – run with lighter springs [still to stiff for my weight] and slower rebound
Ben