OP,
You pay. Woman does not pay unless you are a pimp. However, if you are married then do whatever you wish i.e. sometimes you pay sometimes she pay but try not to be petty.
In the meantime I suggest you start humping her silly to get your money worth and if she refuses then make a quick exit.
Many years ago I went out with a very fit Canadian Chinese girl, ya very fit, with expensive taste … after many dates with no humping in sight I legged it as fast as I could no matter how fit she looked. I felt used … 😮