Well?
She’s really nice, get on really well and talk for hours.
But no fireworks in the fancying dept…
Give it time or give it up?

over to the STW agony uncles and aunts….

PICTURES!!!

We need pics to help us decide.

Give up… you risk getting a stalker.

Edit: does she put out?

you think you’re better looking than her! lol

(you probably are)

If you’re after settling down, is it mandatory to fancy them? At least if you don’t fancy them one bit it can never wear off! 😉

You’re not both girls are you?

+1 pictures

What are you looking for? A girlfriend? or just a good friend? D’you know how she feels about it?

Edit: does she put out?

😐

Do the decent thing and free her for someone more desperate.

Stop being so bloody picky. You’re not exactly gods gift yerself. 😉

It’s rather shallow to decide on the relationship based on her looks.
They will go with time anyhoo.

Must remember to come back to this one after everyone’s hit the beer….

Why not keep seeing her and see what develops.

I knew it was pointless expecting any kind of sensible answer from STW after 5pm on a Friday 🙁

what like a baby?

That’s unreal!!! I’ve just been on another forum site and there’s this girl on it who’s just stated she’s been out with a guy 4 times, says he talks for hours and bores her to death. She then says he isn’t good looking and she’s definitely not got wet in the knicker area about him! Oh dear………

I knew it was pointless expecting any kind of sensible answer from STW after 5pm on a Friday

FTFY

Figured I’d get a comment in before I go off for a post work beer in approximately 8 mins ……

Have a state of the union type chat and decide what it is you both want and take it from there. May turn out that you’ve found yourself a great friend who can help you make future 4th date decisions!

She’s really nice, you get on well.

Sounds pretty good to me.

Wait a while, see what happens. Enjoy what you have.

SB

Now I’ll admit, I’ve not done any dating for a year or two

But ……….. I’ve tried as best as I can to remember how it all worked and I can’t for the life of me ever remember going out with anyone that I didn’t fancy in the first place

Has the internet done this?

If you don’t fancy her, she doesn’t ride a bike or doesn’t put out you might as well walk away unless there’s something else on offer that I didn’t consider.

Have you met her in person or has it all been via webcam so far?

Have you met her in person or has it all been via webcam so far?

😉

If you don’t fancy her now you never will. Move on

Don’t, whatever you do, have a ‘state of the union’ chat with her. “hey love, we’ve been on a grand total of 4 dates, and I’m not certain yet whether I want us to be together long term”. You won’t even see her move, she’ll just be gone, like that.

Questions:
– have you got jiggy wid it?
– do you enjoy her company?
– have you got many other offers on the table?

Answer those, and I reckon you’ll have your answer.

Sounds to me like the physical attraction isn’t there, which is a pretty big thing to try and circumvent. I’d swerve it as you’ll be thinking about other possibilities and what could have been…

Has she got a (better-looking) sister?

*Opens bar*

Is she a BOBFOC?

If so you could still, well you know

Any ‘guest’ beers this evening? – fancy something light, none of those vulgar 6% brews

Err, aren’t you moving to the other end of the country shortly?
Have you told her?

Scotch please Captain

Bottle of Trashy Blonde please barman

Uplink,

Dave, Japanese OK?

Perfect, get yourself one while you’re there

Butty Bach for me please

**** it then get rid!

There’s a real skill in picking the right beer for the occasion.

Perfect Captain, good choice.

So, who in their right mind keeps going out with someone if they don’t fancy them? What’s that about?