5lab – He’s basically set the will up to share everything up to IHT threshold between his 6 kids. His wife gets house, car etc plus a figure equal to the total sum his kids get. She can then sort her own kids out. The rest, he really wants to go to charity. She is already well looked after with annuity and ISA (though she’s probably emptied this to her scroungers kids).
He has effectively gifted the wife £50k, which I think might be ok for IHT purposes
this is what I’m hoping
but has still reduced the inheritance available to you by £50k
Would have gone to charity, not us. If his wife wishes to disregard his wishes about charitable giving, that would be up to her. For context, she has cancer and is having chemo and her kids, to my knowledge, haven’t been in touch for weeks and have offered no help to look after a dependent, immobile 90 yr old (my Dad). We’re only to happy to look after him and luckily are near enough to share his care.
What are you actually trying to achieve?
As executor, I’m trying to achieve what his will wishes – for the loans/gifts/scrounging not to reduce his kids inheritance or his charity giving.