O Louise Louise, where art thou

Been single on my lonesome last 7 months.

Liking the drama free life though tough in new area away from friends to distract my ever wondering thoughts.

Tell me it gets easier though if you know Louise, whisper a message that their appears to be a sucker incoming

🤗🐒

Or tell me your cures for lonesomeitis

Spose I could regrease my axle keep me busy

Have a **** and then a beer with a few tunes. Less trouble than a Louise.

Been single on my lonesome last 7 months.

Been single for 16 odd years…….suits me perfectly fine as I can’t live with someone else around all the time, last serious gf of 5 years was in the late 90s/2000’s when we were both in our mid/late 20’s…..clubbing, parties, holidays etc but we mutually decided to split as we turned into best friends. Still my bf to this day.

single life ftw (for myself anyway, you may think different)

single for 3 years after 41 years together with Mrs TJ  Yes sometimes its lonely but I do also enjoy aspects of being on my own.

How old are you?  the older you are the harder it is to meet new folk.  at my age ( 63) really it means internet dating.  I just cannot be arsed with all the drama.  So it looks like a single life for me.

Lean on your friends – I chat with a good few of mine online / via social media.  It helps.

Spose I could regrease my axle keep me busy

That’s a euphemism, right?

Yes, but if you’re single how are you supposed to know you’re wrong?

But as @piemonster said, have beer and rough up the prime suspect

How old are you? the older you are the harder it is to meet new folk.

My eighty three year old aunt met her ninety year old boyfriend at a speed dating evening a couple of years ago.

I met my wife at a speed dating event.

That was an awkward conversation.  “What the hell are you doing here?”

I can’t comment – nearly hitting 30 years (happily married fortunately) after getting married at 26. If some shit happened, I very much think I could not be going through all the faff for any long term relationship given all the baggage we all carry at our age. I’m gearing up for retirement already in ‘my head’.

Well I do need check on Mr 20mm bolt thru ;D

tj – is that your stealth lonely hearts ad up there^^^

For clarity, I’m not interested.

As a marketing/money making suggestion…Mark could set up a dedicated STW dating forum; annual membership fee, names anonymised, bonus payment for successful matches. None of these cycling types talking about torque settings, crank lengths, dropper posts, what lycra etc – sounds a bit fetishistic.

What could possibly go wrong? 🤔

What could possibly go wrong?

Surely regardless of intended use, it would just be a few grumpy old gits arguing about politics.

I wonder what the man’s  name is on the equivalent thread on the women’s forum?

*Currently single (by choice) for more years than number of bikes I own.

I wonder what the man’s  name is on the equivalent thread on the women’s forum?

Maybe you’ve just nominated yourself

What could possibly go wrong?

Surely regardless of intended use, it would just be a few grumpy old gits arguing about politics.

I’m still single and it’s all Starmer’s/Corbyn’s/Thatchers fault!

I’ve been very active with the dating in recent months, and my experience is that Carolines are by far the most trouble.

Louises are weirdly rare TBH.

There should be loads of them born between the late 70’s and early 80’s. Or maybe they’re all taken…

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Well I do need check on Mr 20mm bolt thru ;D

Bah, old tech. mines Ti cored, screw through and tool-less removable as long as surgeon is on hand.

There should be loads of them born between the late 70’s and early 80’s. Or maybe they’re all taken…

Sarahs are the most numerous in the 40-50 range IME, lot of Rachels, a surprising number of Karens.

Not so many Claires or Louises as I’d expect.

Maybe there’s a regional cluster of Louises down south or something?

tj – is that your stealth lonely hearts ad up there^^^

If you want it to be Frank *flutters eyelashes*

Or tell me your cures for lonesomeitis

Online dating.

Been playing around at it for 5 years. Have had 3 longer relationships, 5 or 6 shorter ones and a couple of dozen dates.  Only a couple of bad ones, thankfully.

LOTS of other experiences that i can’t mention without getting a ban.

And down to the baseline, I’m, short, fat, not particularly attractive, don’t speak the local language, have a boring job (apparently, personally i quite enjoy it) a massive geek AND a nerd (depending on subject).

And down to the baseline, I’m, short, fat, not particularly attractive, don’t speak the local language, have a boring job (apparently, personally i quite enjoy it) a massive geek AND a nerd (depending on subject).

Well, hellooooo!

*smooths eyebrows*

*smooths eyebrows*

If it were *licks eyebrows* you’d be beating them off with a dirty stick!

One problem apparently is that the money raised is for Biden/Harris and can’t just be given to sober other candidate. So they would start with nothing

Is that all monies from online dating sites? That is going to be a very lucrative market!
Or more likely, that has been posted in the wrong forum thread.

Or tell me your cures for lonesomeitis

25 replies and not one mention of coke and hookers yet.

Dear me, STW, standards are slipping.

Or more likely, that has been posted in the wrong forum thread.

Biden and Harris is certainly an unexpected solution to the problem of loneliness

A threesome with Biden and Harrris?  Thats an image I am going to find it hard to forget.

I’m back to enjoying my own company and free time, just over 3 years after my wife died I had a very intense relationship for 4 months but we would have probably both killed each other in the end (still friends and keep in touch)

Just finished an 11 month stint with a very kind but ultimately not really compatible woman (also still friends)

I think after years of being a primary carer and putting myself second I’ve enjoyed being a bit selfish and doing what I want?

Not going to be out looking for anyone for a good while if ever, I also realise I neglected some of my friends while in these relationships & that makes me cross with myself.

Well I got stood up last night which is a first though the toilet is now clean because of expecting lady guest

Three and a half years after losing my partner, who I had nearly five years with, when she popped up on Fb around twenty years after I lost contact with her, and I honestly don’t think I could handle starting over again with someone else. I’m at an age where I’m not sure I could adjust to adapting to another person’s situation or ways of doing things.
On the other hand, I really miss her company because she was a sweet and very gentle person. But not without certain issues and challenges. 🤷🏼

I think after years of being a primary carer and putting myself second I’ve enjoyed being a bit selfish and doing what I want?

To be perfectly honest, i think anyone coming out of any relationship for *any* reason, be that divorce/death/infidelity/incompatibility/boredom/excessive nose picking, should spend a good chunk of time doing *exactly* what they want, on their own, ride your bike, build scale models of GSVs, do a frame building course, throw milkshakes at prominent fascists. Whatever.

And then *think* about getting back on the dating merry go round (and i mean dating, not “searching for the next long term relationship”). Maybe decide to spend another year being *you* before involving someone else.

I did a year or so completely single, then started dating casually, with the intent of meeting people and having fun. Few dates, less second dates, doing the “drive of shame” a few times…

Got my first longer term partner after 18 months or so.

My current girlfriend (who i will be sticking with long term!) has just left to take her daughter to football training. Yesterday we did mountain biking, jumping in a lake and the kids all played lego Jurassic park and fortnite while we cooked. Life is good.

I was single for a while, it has its benefits fo’shure, but I missed the companionship, and I knew I’d be personally happier in a relationship, so as the only real dating game is the Internet these days, you’ve really got to make a choice to either “do Dating” with all the attendant drama that it entails, or decide that in reality pornhub is free and the regret lasts just a fleeting moment of the time it takes to slam shut the lid of your laptop.

dartdude, mert, nickc, what dating apps do you use? or did you meet them in real life? :-0 Asking for a friend …..

Maybe there’s a regional cluster of Louises down south or something?

Funnily enough mine was from Essex, although I’m now in Cheshire and have 2 Louises living nextdoor to eachother across the road and a third about to move in nextdoor-but-one to me.

Unfortunately I have no recommendations on how to get in touch with them though, sorry.

Praps the 💯% proof way is to download plenty of fishfingers

My two pennies for what it’s worth.

Separated after 16years, a very protracted divorce process, divorce finally came through this month.

I was on the apps too soon, mainly as a reason not to be home alone. Had some good dates, very few bad ones. About 18months ago I was getting fed up with it and was enjoying a new bike, so eased off. Went to the mega last year decided to go cold turkey and quit the apps.

Lasted about two weeks, matched and met my current partner who I’m in the process of buying a house with.  The last twelve months have been really good, genuinely didn’t expect this, I thought a relationship like this wasn’t possible at this stage in my life.

Bumble for the win, Hinge worth an honorable mention.  Tinder wasn’t for me and Plenty of Fish was like a thousand voices screaming out in pain at once 😀

Bon chance!

what dating apps do you use?

Match, FB Dating, Tinder, Happy Pancake (Don’t think you get that in the UK), Hinge, Feeld.

Got good dates from all of them. Also a couple of IRL dates, one of which turned into a ~6 month relationship.

 I’m now in Cheshire and have 2 Louises living nextdoor to eachother across the road and a third about to move in nextdoor-but-one to me.

Haha, the Footballers’ Wives bit of Cheshire is in my range. Maybe they’ll pop up.

what dating apps do you use?

Hinge and Bumble work well for me.

Tinder I get far fewer matches but they can work out well.