Ladies – your advice please!
Is asking someone out on a date over the phone a no-no? Its someone I know quite well (ex neighbour), rather than being an acquaintance. I know its better in person but I'm struggling with being chronicly shy and never seem to find the right time to ask her out on a date when we're just hanging out 🙁 Asking her out on the phone might be a little easier! I guess if I really thought she'd say yes it wouldn't be a problem, but I think she'll say no and I'd be gutted, frankly!
Yours soppily,Posted 8 years ago
Well if she's an ex-neighbour you presumably have already spoken to her (or at least seen her) face-to-face….
Give her a bell, even just to leave her your number just in case she ever fancies a drink sometime and a catch-up. Sure that'll be 'code' enough for a subtle woman to realise she was been asked out for a date!Posted 8 years agoReluctantMember
Do it by whatever means you feel comforable with. If she's as lovely as you say, it's worth the risk. She can only say no – nothing worse. I remember being rejected by someone I really fancied – but I still felt "brave" about having tried! Go for it, you've nowt to loose!Posted 8 years agomeehajaMember
best piece of advice I ever got was off a scary barnsley lass, who told me of her friend "She'll never sleep with you if sit there looking miserable, so dance like a loon, at least then someone will sleep with you. or punch you."
nice place barnsley, but she had a point, doing nothing gets nothing done, put your balls on the line and ask her face to face (its harder for her to turn down). If she says no, say "fair do's, wanna go for a pint and gossip about the best way to ask you out?"Posted 8 years agojoolsburgerMember
I'd say be direct and honest, tell her you'd like to take her out for dinner or somesuch and make it clear you like her, phone is fine. Don't add any caveats either confidence is attractive in people.
Something like I've been wanting to ask for ages if you'd like to go out for a drink or dinner sometime.
Simple and to the point!Posted 8 years agosmell_itMember
Good work fella, shame about the result, but don't take it too hard. Yesterday morning whilst hunting around looking for the room I was supposed to be getting some training in, I happened upon a lass I'd worked with with about 2 years ago, we got on well at the time but I'd been her boss then so never let things get beyond the professional. But in a moment of rashness (it helps that my shame gland is under developed), I decided to have a bit of a 'chat' as I don't run into her that often nowadays, turns out she has just started seeing a chap last week so it was no to a drink, but 'it's very new' and she asked for my number. So you never know, there is never no shame in asking 😉Posted 8 years ago
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