Ask yourself if there’s something worth saving there, if there is, you have to make each other see how you feel and try to work it out, and meet each other’s needs. If you are not prepared to live without sex, and she won’t have sex, there is nothing wrong with saying that you won’t put up with it and leaving, otherwise you’ll be miserbale, and so will everyone around you. For Christ’s sake don’t stay together for the sake of the children. My daughter and step-kids used to have one miserable home, they now have two happy ones.
I was in Freddy G’s situation – 10 years rather than 7. In my case there was plenty else wrong with the relationship. I left. I am now married to someone else, I’ve never been happier, we’ve been together 5 year and the smartie jar was empty a long time ago.