Incident at School

I’m guessing there are more details there. Was the something a reasonable something or a highly inflammatory (to a 6 year old) something?

I’ve been told they were all playing a game where everyone gets a role, he didn’t like his and was playing up.  He was then told it was his turn to be what ever it was and tough luck  – this was the catalyst.

I’ve been told they were all playing a game where everyone gets a role, he didn’t like his and was playing up. He was then told it was his turn to be what ever it was and tough luck – this was the catalyst.

Plenty of teachers and people who work or volunteer with young people will tell you that a lot of kids missed the opportunity to learn to play nicely and take turns through lockdown

same sort of thing happened with our boy, repeatedly. most around rules and him telling the bad uns they are not following the rules, which then resulted in an altercation

the answer was dont play with those kids. learn that whilst you maybe right some kids (and adults) are special and do not react in the right way.

im bascially trying to get him to make adult decisions about engaging with ****.

if he cant learn that lesson he coukd well end up saying the wrong thing to a kid with a knife.

so i would focus not on bollocking the other kid but on your kid and how they respond to situations. like i said up there the key is they learn to assess the situation before an incident happens and either deescalate or avoid

I have 2 kids – one the same age as your son.

It’s not unusual for him to come home with talk of “X hit me”.  After a chat they all turn out to be games that got a bit out-of-hand that end in a bit of pushing etc.  No action required.

However, 5-6 year old’s do not usually go around punching each other in the face (in my experience) – what’s being described needs does need some follow up IMO.

I think all I’d do is have a chat with the teacher and make sure they are aware of the incident – if they are, no action required.  If not, I would let them know, as it may be part of a wider (or escalating) pattern.  We are friends with one of the kids in my son’s class who has had a few incidents of angrily lashing out.  The school have had multiple constructive conversations with them about what might be causing it, what they can do etc.

Other than that – the usual advice applies:  “oh, he/she doesn’t sound like somebody that you would want to be playing with” and “let me know if anything like that happens again”

I think all I’d do is have a chat with the teacher and make sure they are aware of the incident

If you read it through….the school rang the OP’s wife. That’s how the OP knows about it.

If it is a one off let it go. A primary school won’t rip the offenders kids head off as our cuddly little society we live in doesn’t let it happen but he will get a bollocking. If its repeated start to be mildly concerned. Speaking as someone who has 30+ years in primary schools and is now avoiding spending my lunch time writing accident reports.

No pudding for a week.

I came here for this!

When my kid’s friends (6 and 7) decided to slap each other in the face, the school started a ‘keeping hands to ourselves’ group with the school counselor. The group had an hour a week for around half the year. The parents were asked if they would let their kids participate and were told why. This happened before the parents heard anything about it from the kids. The school actively nipped it in the bud across the 1st-grade classes. I think there were around 8 kids in it. It has worked well from what we heard from the parents. The kids are young and driven by their emotions; they don’t know a lot better, really.

The kids are young and driven by their emotions; they don’t know a lot better, really.

Quite, and as also said further up, they are unreliable witnesses, which is why: “give your son a pair of bombers and let him rip”; “Hold the little **** arms behind his back and tell you son to let rip”; “Drop kick the kid, next time it coukd be a dog’s face”; and “walk over and punch one or both of them in face” etc aren’t exactly a good way to respond in this century.

Sorry, I found this type of language quite disturbing when referring to a 6 year old.

I could be going out on a limb here but, regardless of what century it is, a sense of humour in these situations is never a bad thing. I don’t think anyone is seriously suggesting any of these things take place.

I’d just have a chat with the teacher and ask  that they monitor the situation. Six year olds aren’t in control of their emotions and these things unfortunately happen. Repeated behaviour of this nature isn’t good and the kid clearly needs some guidance or the OP needs to wee in his parents shoes.

I don’t think anyone is seriously suggesting any of these things take place

I know I see that, I just found it too aggressive in this context.