I'm going to lose my best canine mate tomorrow…
Wanted to respond yesterday but couldn’t.
We had to put both our Springers to sleep last year. Molly, the youngest was 7. She had liver failure. She died the day after my 40th. My wife was convinced she held on till after my birthday. It was totally unexpected and so quick as Oscar, who was 15 when he was put to sleep was every bit his age in his body but not in his mind and we thought he’d go first. The poor old sod was incontinent of urine which we treat with a home made cumberbund and Boots urinary incontinence pads (highly recommend). He could only walk a few steps in the end, couldn’t poo without one of us holding him up (otherwise he would sit in it).
We were being selfish as we lost Molly unexpectedly, we kept him going. I used to look at him and feel so shit for doing it to him, he just looked so tired sometimes. We knew the time was right and we were just being selfish, he loved nothing more than going for a walk and he couldn’t even do that.
What I wanted to say is, just as many others have, you’ve done the kindest thing for your dog, it’s being a good RESPONSIBLE owner. As also mentioned, you will feel a sense of relief. It won’t make you feel any better but there will be that sense of relief that your best friend isn’t suffering any more.
😥Posted 5 years agoHadgeMember
Sitting here reading this and my eyes are a bit full. Also sitting next to me is my Jack Russell which I rescued and she’s 7 and I look at her and so wish I’d had those 7 years with her as she’s just my best friend ever and I love her to bits. Really don’t want think of the day she goes from our lives here but i truly hope it’s a long long way off form today. Hope everything went well today and chin up and remember all the good times like those before have said.Posted 5 years agobullheartMember
Our vet came around today and sent him on his way. The vet, myself and my wife stroked and chatted to him as he went. And then all three of us wept. Graeme (vet) has known all about Sumo and his role in my recovery, and was just wonderful. We then put him in the back of my van and drove him to a lovely crematorium near Ashford; I hope to collect his ashes tomorrow, and then I’ll scatter them at the woods in Wadhurst where we used to live.
I’m numb really. I made up food for the bastardspaniel tonight, and nearly sorted two portions by accident. The house is subdued without him, and Max just sits there, looking at Sumo’s rug. But my overwhelming feeling is that of relief, knowing the big lad is at peace. And as he lay on the table at the crematorium, I pushed my face up against his fur and took a deep breath – all the time we had him, he smelt beautiful; just like straw. I’ll never forget that wonderful smell.
Thank you all for your kind words.
Sumo my friend, we’ll run and play together again. I promise.
Posted 5 years agospacemonkeyMember
Thoughts are with you BH.
Just wanted to add something that may or may not be relevant depending on how much you’ve thought ahead … Our beloved Bert passed away 2.5 yrs ago (had a stroke during the night – one of the most distressing things I’ve ever encountered). Wasn’t sure what to do re burial/cremation so I did some research (again, not the easiest thing to do) and called the local pet crem. They were great and couldn’t have been more warm and understanding. Invited me down to get a feel for the place etc. They even included a chapel and service! All in all, those few minutes made my mind up for me – Bert would have a little box and be with us always. Prior to that I just didn’t get the “keeping your pet’s ashes” thing. If I hadn’t done the legwork I reckon I’d have regretted my original choice (scattering). So all I’m saying is you might like to take some time to figure out your next steps …
Big hug from the furry fella (Springer) sitting next to me.
EDIT: just noticed you’ve posted while I was writing the above, so please don’t take my words (re scattering) the wrong way.Posted 5 years agoOnzadogSubscriber
I agree with spacemonkey. Don’t be in a rush to scatter those ashes. I planned to do the same when I lost Onza 7 years ago. The advice I was given was that there’s plenty of time. He’s still sat on the table in the corner of the lounge with us now. Life has moved on and I’m no longer near the place I was going to scatter him so I wouldn’t have been able to go and see him all these years.Posted 5 years agoredwoodsMember
So very sorry the time came to say goodbye to your boy 🙁 Am totally dreading that day with ours (he’s 11 and is currently licking my hands as I’m typing because I’ve got tears running down my face)
Not much anyone can say at a time like this, but I do remember finding the words of this poem to be some sort of comfort when my mum died.
You can shed tears that he is gone,
Or you can smile because he lived,
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared,
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on,
You can cry and close your mind be empty and turn your back,
Or you can do what he would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
Hugs to you and Mrs BH.Posted 5 years agotheotherjonvSubscriber
I’m so sorry BH. But rest assured, that you gave him a great life and when the time came, you helped him in the way he’d have wanted you to.
We faced this with our old cat a few months ago. Because I’m crap at dealing with this sort of stuff, the night before he made his last journey I sat downstairs with him and wrote a letter from him to my girls. I said it was to my girls, really it was to me as much as anything. I hope you don’t find it self indulgent, but it puts in words what i think Sumo would say to you now if he could.
Dear Polly.Posted 5 years ago
I know you will feel sad today. I know a lot of people will be sad because I made a lot of friends in my life. That’s OK, I hope you will remember me and talk about me with them.
But I don’t want you be too sad. I want you to know that when it was time to go, Mummy stroked me gently and the kind Vet helped me so that I didn’t feel anything.
Although I am not there any more, I thought you might like to know that I am in a very happy place. Where I am now it is always warm, but not too hot. I don’t feel old, or poorly, or hungry or tired. I feel just like I used to when we were first friends; I can run fast, and climb trees, or if I want to I can sit on soft grass and think about all my friends. I am allowed to sleep on the beds if I want, and I have chicken every day. If I close my eyes and imagine I can hear you and Elsa playing and laughing. And best of all – NO DOGS ALLOWED!
Please tell Elsa that although I miss you both, I am very happy now. Thank you for being my friends and for letting me go when I needed to. That was very kind, even though it has made you feel sad. I will miss you.
there’s not much in this world that causes me to succumb to visible emotion so readily as to be obvious to others, than the thought of what must come for mine, that you’ve been through today.
The Horrible Dog has tonight been thrown, unwillingly, in to the canal ( not a swimmer through choice ), for getting up on tables at the pub, again.
for all that and more, I fear terribly that day that i know must one day come.
i clipped the following from a paper, when i did not know whether or not i was going to get to hang on to my hound, during the break up of my relationship:
‘Only A Dog’ by David Prowse:
A spaniel dog can’t change the world
Or lend it harmony or grace
And yet, within one humble home
He makes it seem a better place
The fiscal clouds don’t disappear
When eager strides ignore the rain
But a glance upon that bobbing head
Would make it churlish to complain.
Just when the gloomy skies pervade,
From drizzled boughs, a bird will sing
And hazel eyes will share a smile
To make the common man a king.
Once this was you, a zealous child
Whose youthful bones would yearn for play
And know this sprite has stirred again
That passion for the newborn day.
The way it is without dissent,
To eat, to run, to sleep, to dream
And, with those blessings, be content.
And then to love, not on a whim
But from the moment he awakes
Without condition or restraint,
To love with every breath he takes.
He doesn’t lie or cheat or steal,
Nor does he bend upon the breeze
And, of the passions he pursues,
His greatest pleasure is to please.
The trust with which he’s been endowed
Is based on understandings learned
As day by day and stage by stage,
We found we had that trust returned.
A spaniel dog can’t change the world
Though, oftentimes, I wish he could
But were he human flesh and blood,
I swear it, I believe he would.
the Mangy Hound is upstairs asleep right now, completely unaware, the git. she smells a bit at the mo. rolled in something last week and it seemed like we’d got rid of it, but she found it again this weekend.Posted 5 years ago
suppose it makes me smell better by comparison.
all the best.
D and Meg.The Wrong TrousersSubscriber
So sad Bullheart, all the best mate, terribly sad …Posted 5 years ago
One positive to come from your tale, makes me appreciate my pooch all the more. Will go home after work and give him a big hug and let him get up on the sofa, just cos he won’t around for ever and I miss him already.igrfMember
Sorry to read of this chum, lost my old boy last year, and the dappy vet girls couldn’t lift him to take him ‘away’ so i had to hold him while they administered the injection, him looking ever trusting at me as the light went out, absolutely the worse moment in my recent life, so know exactly what your going through, well not exactly i haven’t had your other recent trauma for which you have my continued respect.Posted 5 years agospacemonkeyMember
Posting on here helped & if theres one subject that binds this whole place together its the passing of a loyal hound.
Unfortunately not. IIRC Chipps posted here (a year or two ago) re his hound’s passing and received a few bang-out-of-order comments. Others have experienced the same.Posted 5 years ago
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