Chances are the OP’s ‘fast as he likes’ isn’t fast enough to require heavy duty rims, at least according to his description.
I’m 90kg and I ride very light rims quite fast down hills, and I have never broken or bent a rim on a trail in 20 years. But then I’m not attacking the likes of Ft Bill balls-out.
I’d agree with this, I’m about the same wieght as the OP, clumsy as hell and I ride on DT240 hubs, DT4.1 rims with DT Aero spokes week in week out and I’ve broken 1 spoke in 5 years. I don’t think tacoing a wheen would make me up the weight /strength either to be honest, sometimes it just happens.
I think most people are nowhere near as hardcore as they might think, and a well built wheel is pretty damn strong regardless of components.