Cough cough – Sex education – How to approach!!!

So I have two boys aged 10 and 11 and wonder what the protocol / best way is to go about bringing up the facts of life.
Its obviously different from when I was a young teenager in the respect that we are in the digital age when people can access most stuff on line and you don’t have magazines stuffed under the mattress.
So. Has anyone had these conversations of late or do you just let your kids find out for themselves through playground chat and banter?

They’ll already have done it at school so I wouldn’t worry too much if I were you.

Where’s the thread started by the flasher Dad?

I’ll definitely be having “The Chat”.

School may cover the physicality of it but I wouldn’t want the t’interweb to be their only guide to what a loving shag looks like in a healthy relationship!

“when a mummy and a daddy love each other very much, they sometimes ……..”

Or do you have to be more inclusive these days?

Or do you have to be more inclusive these days?

If they are watching stuff on the internet then DEFINITELY:

“When a mummy, a daddy, daddy’s friend, mummy’s friend, a midget in a Mexican wrestling mask, and a Doberman, love each other very much…” 😯

School may cover the physicality of it but I wouldn’t want the t’interweb to be their only guide to what a loving shag looks like in a healthy relationship!

Speaking to a GP in our skiing chalet over Xmas, it seems that PornHub is the main source of sex education for our young and as a result he sees an endless stream of young girls with skin infections from shaving too much…..

Tell them they can ask you any questions they like; that you won’t judge them in any way on their questions and that you will answer them honestly. (that last one is the hardest bit!)

Sitting them down for “the talk” kind of puts the pressure on – let them know they can approach you over the next, say, week when they are ready, not you.

Rachel

when they are ready, not you.

Which will undoubtedly be in a busy queue at ASDA 😀

My seven year old daughter informed me the other day that I was going to be a great-granddad…

Puzzled, I asked how. She explained that one of her teddies was going to have a baby and, as she was it’s mother, that she would be a granny and I would be a great-granddad.

I foolishly asked how the teddie got the baby in there and was told that “she had done sex” with one of her brother’s teddies.

Further enquiries enlightened me further – “doing sex” is just a case of getting naked and french kissing.

Our four year old daughter told us the other day that God puts a baby in a mummy’s tummy. 😯

That’ll be good old “secular” state schooling then.

Blunt, factual, honest. Treat the subject as naturally as it really is. Never mind squirming, they’ll do enough of that when they realise you aren’t going to pull any punches. It really helps if they ask you the questions. Be prepared, know how you’re going to answer. My boy/girl twins asked the right questions at the right times, fortunately, and as the child brain is merely curious and not fettered by the sort of coy, inhibited bollocks that we oldies suffer from, we all found it easy to deal with. I seem to remember they started asking around 7 or 8 years of age.

My Mrs is a doc and she talked it all through with my daughters at quite an early age – when the sessions started at school they’d already told all their mates and then started “correcting” the teacher 😳

Get Hora to do it

A small amount as appropriate from as young as possible. My folks never did “a talk”. We just picked it up as we went along.

Was aware aged 11 or 12 of some incredible ignorance amongst pals with religious/conservative/paranoid parents.

Our Daughter asked us where babies came from at the age of six, got a good kids book about it from Waterstones, not anything to stress about.

We’ve done it bit by bit as they asked questions about where babies are from etc… No embarrassment and straightforward because their awareness has grown gradually and as they are ready. Aged 7, 7 and 9 they have a solid idea of sex based on facts and their awareness of relationships is growing as they mature.

You need this man to do it

This might help: a study on penis size reported by the Guardian today. Possibly a few “phews” expressed across the land today!

Which will undoubtedly be in a busy queue at ASDA

Indeed

We had fun with what swear words mean ..bugger was a fun one to explain to them

Both aged under 10 but they had heard them so I explained them

School may cover the physicality of it but I wouldn’t want the t’interweb to be their only guide to what a loving shag looks like in a healthy relationship!

It’s called Sex and Relationship Education (SRE) now and covers the emotional aspects as well as what-bit-goes-where. If your kids have got to the end of primary school without any SRE, I’d be surprised – it started in Reception at our kids’ primary school.

Kids got shown the naff 80’s video at school aged about 11 or 12. (This was about 5 years ago)

Everyone knew it was being shown at school that day so the parents were awaiting the comments, but one kid was the funniest. His Mother was stood waiting with her younger kid, after being asked how school had gone, he then declared, in a very loud voice, “Yuk, you’ve done that twice!”

“Yuk, you’ve done that twice!”

Same as my parents then.

miketually – Member

it started in Reception at our kids’ primary school

That does seem weird, at least do it somewhere quieter