Another one of those have I over reacted threads
giving your six year old daughter small ‘snifters’ of whiskey, playfully called ‘gobbledeygooks’
Sorry. I misread that and thought the OP said that after the whiskey, they ‘played gobbledygooks’. You can understand why I suggested it would be a police matter!
That said, now I know it is only a euphemism for the whiskey, I would still be pissed off.Posted 4 years ago
Yes the person concerned died three years ago. You’re right it’s probably not a good thing to discuss on the Internet. It’s about whether you as a parent would find that acceptable or not. There may be huge skeletons in the closet with this story but we don’t need to go there. The incidents are known to the parents in question but one at least seems to think that it was perfectly harmless and went on to say how great this guy was even knowing what he knew.
My reaction towards him was to be very angry that he could defend some one who did that (and only that) to his six year old daughter even if the amounts were small and his daughter never came back intoxicated. I walked away from the conversation because I was pretty angry and sensed that an argument was about to blow up (instigated by me) but that was taken as a slight and its been suggested that I’ve over reacted.
The daughter in question is someone I love, trust and care for very much hence my sense of protectionism has kicked in.Posted 4 years ago
…….seems to think that it was perfectly harmless and went on to say how great this guy was even knowing what he knew.
Well it probably was perfectly harmless then, specially as you say “the amounts were small and his daughter never came back intoxicated”.
On the face of it, it doesn’t sound good, but if the amount involved was tiny, and it had no negative effect, and the parents are cool about it now, then I reckon you might be overacting a bit by getting “very angry” with them. It sounds to me that they are probably in a better position to pass judgement than you.Posted 4 years agov8ninetySubscriber
It kind of depends a lot on what the motives for giving the whiskey were really, doesn’t it? And that could range from the most innocuous outdated belief of health benefits, all the way through to an attempt to make the child compliant to enable abuse. This is information we do not have, so cannot really judge. Interesting though.Posted 4 years ago
Lets say you as a parent found out that your next door neighbour, whom you thought extremely highly of and in all other respects you’d trusted implicitly had been giving your six year old daughter small ‘snifters’ of whiskey, playfully called ‘gobbledeygooks’, without your knowledge, how do you think you would react?
For context lets assume this was still the early 80s, your next door neighbour was in their 60s and both your daughters routinely play at his and his (female) partner’s house.Posted 4 years agospooky_b329Member
If the daughter is your wife/gf and therefore you’re on the cusp of causing a rift with the in-laws, I suspect you be about to cause yourself a whole heap of hassle.
If you ‘win’ thisPosted 4 years ago
argumentsituation, from what I’ve read, all you’ll have achieved is getting her parents all upset about it and wishing they’d never been friends with the neighbour, but there is still nothing that can be done so you will still be in the same position as you are now, on the other hand they may stick their ground and they may not talk to you for the next five years…
Thank for the perspectives guys. I may have over reacted. My reaction was in defence and support of the daughter in question who does feel let down and upset by her fathers reaction. There’s lots of complicated family stuff tied up in it but we can leave it here. Thanks again.Posted 4 years agofizzicistMember
Is the daughter in question a well balanced and healthy person? If so, then calm down and move on. All you will succeed in doing is worsening things.
We all have things from our childhood where we feel our parents should have behaved differently. That said, now I’m on the other side of that relationship and have two kids, I understand better the moments my parents didn’t get overprotective and appreciate their judgement more.
However if an aged neighbour fed my kid whisky, I would not be cool about it. To be fair, my son would spit it out and tell him exactly what he thinks. The boy has his father’s intolerance for things which are not on his terms.Posted 4 years ago
I’m privy to more insight than they are at least as far as how the daughter feels anyway.
Well if you are withholding vital information on which your attitude is based, then it’s difficult for anyone to express an opinion on whether you are over reacting or not.
I based my comments on the very limited information you provided, and the fact that I myself, was allowed occasional access to small quantities of alcohol throughout my childhood. Something which did me no harm at all, although I do recall getting a little pissed on my ninth birthday ! 🙂 In fact I’m sure that early access to alcohol in the presence of responsible adults contributed to a healthy attitude towards drinking in my later teens. I rarely drink at all these days.Posted 4 years ago
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