[Closed] Wedding - gift giving etiquette

Spend what you want/can afford. I'd get in and order the tea cups quick before anybody else does and the only left is the 53" plasma.

If you're a bit skint, then I'm sure the groom's brother wouldn't expect you to fork out lots. If there's something nice there, and you know they'd really like it, then you can go halves with someone else on gifts too.

And yeah, what Harry says, get in early before you're left buying pillow cases and sheets - at least the tea cup set is something they'll remember you by.

[EDIT] FFS, a garden chair for £95??? WTF!![/EDIT]

In all fairness, the garden chair looks mighty comfy:
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And this sounds terrible, but almost everything on the list is really boring (It's all plain white crockery or birch photo frames!) Nothing as interesting as a TV. I think I might buy them the wall clock and a basting brush...

£95 for that??

Yeah, the wall clock and basting brush might be an idea - trying to think of how they could be used together but failing miserably.

Sod *that* for a bunch of monkeys.

When given wedding lists I take a look and if there is nothing on there that I want to buy I get something I think is a appropriate at the price that is appropriate. While I can see a wedding list is a useful thing to stop getting a hundred toasters, some people do tend to take the p1ss and treat it as a fantasy shopping system.

Buy a gift from both of you. You were invited as a couple, gift as a couple. And never feel you have to do something because someone decided to click a lot on John Lewis's website! 🙂

just give what you can afford,
nobody remembers wedding gifts anyway, especialy off a gift list,

for me its always cold hard cash in a hand made card, usually around £50
it always goes down a treat,

or in chinese tradition put the money in a red envelope
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it does help to be chinese though 😀

I detest wedding lists. Will you **** tell me what I'm going to buy you! 👿
As has been mentioned cash or vouchers for John Lewis if that's where they're going.
Undoubtedly people will wonder what to get you. [i]If asked[/i], we said we would prefer not to get anything as we'd been together so long and had set up a home already however if people felt compelled to give us a gift then a donation towards our honeymoon would be gratefully received but we'd take whatever came our way. As it happened people were very generous indeed which was very nice of them however without sounding too ungrateful I'd have been equally happy leaving with nothing as everyone had a good time and to me that's what it was about.

As Harry_the_Spider says. The Bride and Groom will understand that you are skint, also buy as a couple. Have a great time.

Barney - although I agree with you. We did go down the John Lewis gift route, due to so many relatives and friends asking about and wanting to give us gifts.
Ours however had teeny weeny things on it e.g. a pastry brush. Our largest item was a park tool work stand, from Tim at sideways cycles. several of our biking friends gave a donation towards that.

Reason we used Wedding list is because we'd set up a good few years before I didn't want people to buy us gifts we'd never use as already had the item.

Just buy what you can afford and that's that if they make judgement on what you bought then hit them over the head with it.

That garden chair could certainly give you a big bump on the nogin.

She mentioned a turkey baster. Isn't that for further along in the marriage?

IGMC

Thanks for all the advice guys,

Colande, I'm actually half chinese (have been given many a redpacket myself)

Just buy what you can afford and that's that if they make judgement on what you bought then hit them over the head with it.

[i]That'll be us buying the wok then[/i]

Yes the comedy effect of that hitting someone on the head will take a long time to forget.

Sod the list. Buy what you can afford and is appropriate