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Been on 2 dates and its not going to work. I REALLY don't want to upset her? Any advice, never had to do this before.
Is this the best place to ask?
Probably not.....
Maybe just don't call her when you say you will! Or nicer just say to her I don't think it's working out for us. You're never going to know if you will upset her or not, you never know she may be feeling exactly the same way as you!!! But hey better to say "no" now as it won't take much for her to "get over it" and move on!!!
DO you want ot speak to her in the future?
If not turn your phone off for a few days and avoid places where you might see her, simples. 😆
*Pulls up a chair.*
This could run and run!
I've got a few of the Meantime IPA (the greatest REAL India Pale Ale on the market today, IMHO)
Anyone bring any nibbles?
"Your sister/mum looks dirty".
"I only like it in the council"
Where do you start (the question should really be where do I stop 🙂
Or just say that you don't want to go out with her any more, and you are saying now so no-one can get hurt. Honesty is the best policy, but not too honest, trust me I know 🙂
Well, you've nothing to lose, so try anything you want....
Tell her you have the bad Aids
Nice one houns.
Tell her you´re gay.
Just tell her you think she should see other people......and only other people.
Might be dull and say honesty is the best policy although making something up may save her feelings, really depends on why it's not working and how she feels.
It's possible she's on another internet forum asking people the very same question.
And this is a dreadful place to ask.
tell her you're starting a cult and ask her if shes up for intensive "pig" farming
In the words of the great H J Simpson
'Welcome to dumpsville. Popualation, you'
That should do it
She definitely doesn't feel the same. Do I want to stay friends? Probably.
I am most concerned about upsetting her. I have to say something not replying to texts is not an option.
HELP!
Ask her if her dead *insert female relative here* was a cute as her as you are into munging
Tell her to read STW.
Well, if your mugshot is anything to go by, she will be devastated! 8)
Tell her you´re gay.
That might work,
Have you had all available entries before you dump her?
Just tell her you only started to see her to get closer to her Dad. You've been having a relationship with him but he's now refusing to answer your calls and this was the last resort.
That might work.
If you dont want to see her again, why does it matter if you upset her?
Basically, you're ****ed.
Is she a psycho hose beast?
If you dont want to see her again, why does it matter if you upset her?
I'm have morals!
Arrange another date and turn up wearing lederhosen, nothing else
CaptainFlashheart
Have you had all available entries before you dump her?
Very good point.
Does she like you because you're have morals?
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Get her to dump you. That's been my tactic for, well, ever. And you get sympathy.
Does she like you because you're have morals?
No idea why she likes me.
Get her to dump you.
Not an option.
2 dates and your worried?
Sorry luv, you ain't doin' nowt for me.
Bosh, simple.
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dave_aber - Member
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wrote a short email.
Is that a cowards way out?
not the best place to ask loads of "hilarious macho toss"
let her know how you would want to be told if the situation was reversed that is nicely and with sensitivity etc. If she really digs you then there is no real way of doing this without upsetting her. Rejection is never nice but you can handle it better than most of the suggestions above .. i dont think I needed to say that last bit did I?
Good luck it is never nice to do
yes the e-mail is cowardice as is text
Junkyard - Member
not the best place to ask loads of "hilarious macho toss"
let her know how you would want to be told if the situation was reversed that is nicely and with sensitivity etc. If she really digs you then there is no real way of doing this without upsetting her. Rejection is never nice but you can handle it better than most of the suggestions above .. i dont think I needed to say that last bit did I?
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Yes it is....
Just tell her you don't feel its working out, you like her but you don't get a boner when you see her. Don't want to hurt her etc.
You know what I mean
Does she have a good looking friend you could sleep with?
Oi!
50, well 75% toss, and the rest sound advice. 🙂
Cheeky!
Do it Terminator Style!
"I don't want to see you any more!" with your best poker face and arnie/cameron accent! then walk away with a slow stair...
or
Jedi style
"You dont want to see me any more" wave your hand...
"you can go about your business, move along..."
then run just in case...
basically tell the truth, dont elaborate.. and get the hell out of there
Tell her that you ask for relationship advice on here.
Well its done. She took it well.
Thank you. I am surprised you guys all must be sober as there was some good advice.
go on admit it, you dumped her by text didnt you? 😉
now you going to get stalked hardcore!!
nope a little email.
soma_rich - Member
nope a little email.
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Leave a message on her mums answerphone.
CHICKEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Remember the last time I dumped someone, made sure it was the morning after I'd put some extra effort into the mokey business.
Result? 6 more months of no strings monkey business, well I say no strings.....................
Should've said, "It's not me, it's you".
Best advice is to do the Homer Simpson way - write a letter -
"Dear X,
Welcome to Dumpsville...population YOU!"
Puts the message across in a firm and definite way...
Cool-honesty can have its place!
Surprised no -ones tagged this yet.
pulls up chair
Maybe a text and sign off with a sad face :'(
I've got a few of the Meantime IPA (the greatest REAL India Pale Ale on the market today, IMHO)
Been meaning to try that for ages. S'actually brewed just a few miles from where the first ever India Pale Ale was brewed.
I'll be in the Union pub in Greenwich on Saturday night, the tap for Meantime. Will sample some then.
Well tell her on the phone you want to o for a coffee as "I need to tlk to you".
Then during said coffee: I am sorry "insert female name" but this doesn't feel right for me and I'd rather be honest with you than lie. I am sorry I think I need time. But if you want we could be friends.
You'll probably have to pay for the drinks...
Hope it helps.
lol @ juan
I wish I'd been online for this! The problem with the letter is you don't get to shake her hand after the conversation. There's alwasy that weird moment where you don't know how to end the conversation after you've told her. Give her a hug? A peck on the cheek? Or the forehead? Nope, shake her hand, there's no way she'll misunderstand that gesture and she'll still remember you forever.
"did you know you haqve chlamydia?"
"I haven't"
"You have now!"
what is so funny RD?
Waves to rich and foxy boy 8)
IMO anyone that can't say anything to my face and has to resort to text/e-mail is weak and not worthy of me.
But respect to Rich, cos he's a decent bloke, for asking for advice and wanting to do the right thing. There's not many gentlemen around these days.
foxy - the STW guys just don't have your Gallic charm. How are you?
Right, I'm off to my bunker to escape the ammo from the STW Massiv 🙄
short text?.........
**** off weirdo
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the greatest REAL India Pale Ale on the market today, IMHO
Marstons Empire is better, Meantime beers are overpriced trendy fashion ales, imo 🙂
You'll probably have to pay for the drinks...
Tee hee....
Ask her how she usually dumps someone then use that method.
Awaits new thread on another bike forum, "my biking boyfreind has just dumped me and i dont know why".
oh and beer may well have been brewed for export to India in London initially, but IPA's are very hoppy and the water in London isn't good for hoppy beers, it was only when the Burton Breweries started making a strong, hoppy pale ale that the style took off.
Of course they probably treat the water in London today with gypsum to make it similar to Burton water, but it's not the same is is.
IMO anyone that can't say anything to my face and has to resort to text/e-mail is weak and not worthy of me.
Very true, we did talk alot over email so it was natural to end that way. And I was a big girl.
Awaits new thread on another bike forum, "my biking boyfreind has just dumped me and i dont know why".
I didnt leave it like that and gave reasons that I hope she understood.
[i] Mackem - Member
Tell her you´re gay. [/i]
..but point out you weren't till you met [b]her[/b]
FFS - two dates ?? Like she cares, prolly doing it with your best mate, you are just cover.
Be honest. Not brutally honest of course, complimentary and say you dont think it would work. Anyway, its only the second date- shes hardly going to be cut up is she? Do it, dont hide from her calls. Just say its not the right time for you.
Blummin 'eck, this thread has cheered me up, despite being full of a cold & feeling hanging!
Cheers y'all! 😀
Rich - you did the right thing. I really don't see the point in getting involved with someone if it's not right! I mean, you could have ended up in a dead end relationship all because you didn't have the guts to say she wasn't really quite right for you.
Good for you 🙂
Similar situ here... give her one more chance, then after the date tell her either way. Easy.
2 dates!??!
you dont need a way out, just tell her the truth!
"ure a loverly lass, but its not going anywhere, sorry, toodles"
why do you want to dump her,tell her your in training to be a monk ,also dont burn them bridges.
simples
Beergut.
getting rid of them is far easier than getting them in the first place....tell me how you get them i'll tell you how to lose them.
Blimey, reading this thread has cheered me up no end, made me realise there ARE people out there with even less clue about the dating game than me!
Soma_Rich, for future reference mate, spoken word is the way to do it. Over the phone, or face to face, email/text is generally way too impersonal. Fair enough if it worked this time and you remain friends, but I wouldn't remain friends with anyone that dumped me via text or email!
Anyway, it was 2 dates. No issues. "Sorry, I think you're nice, but I just don't fancy you enough to start a relationship, I would love to be friends though" is all it requires.
Meeting nice girls is FAR more of a problem than dumping the unsuitable ones, even if it's not a nice thing to have to do anyway.
no - you men are just too choosey 😉
i`ve never been choosy.
a simple 'i cant be arsed' seemed to work for me in the past to deter unwanted attention.
aleigh - Memberno - you men are just too choosey [:wink:]
Hahaha! Ironic statement of the year!!
aleigh - Memberno - you men are just too choosey [:wink:]
Aleigh, DO NOT say things like that when we know what you're like! Maybe I am choosy, but it's cos ultimately I want to be happy and know I couldn't settle for anything that doesn't feel right.