[Closed] Sothe girlfreind has been made redundant

Out there i know but has he tried talking to her?

has he considered outsourcing a new girlfriend from the private sector? Maybe someone from the Big Society can be charitable?

titusrider - thats just crazy talk 🙂

He cant recycle (dump)her as they have a joint mortgage on the house

His happiness is surely more important than owning a house!?

Tell him to get a grip. She has just been dumped by work, is having a bad and confusing time and he wants rid of her because she doesn't make dinner. Redundancy is tough and if they see each other as partners rather than just an in house shag then this is when they both should be around for each other

Steps away from the keyboard

Sounds like she's now doing at home what she used to do at work 🙂

Lol @ Stoner.

I agree with leffeboy. Redundancy is tough and effects everyone differently - if they cant get through this problem together and cut each other some slack and offer support etc then it doesnt bode well for the future. Give her a break. And stop her spending!

Hmmmm

Looking at this from the other side... I've just been made redundant (for the 4th time in 2 and a bit years!), spend most of my days loafing, not doing much positive (though have got more job interviews lined up to be fair) mainly sat on STW or watching TV. And the GF comes round, shouts odds at me, asks why I've done nothing etc... And why isn't her tea ready too!

When life has dealt you a shitter in terms of job loss, it is VERY VERY hard to be positive about things, until positive things actually start happening! I know that's a bit of a catch 22 situation, my GF doesn't understand it at all either (which is why we're having a really tough time, she just expects me to snap out of it!), but it's a situation you'll have to deal with.

I know I'll be fine again in a few weeks (got 2 2nd interviews next week, another the week after, so I should land at least one of the jobs), but certainly for a few weeks after being made redundant, all you feel like doing is vegging out, watching TV, and being a bit selfish! Sorry, that's what happens...

I'd say after about 4-6 weeks though, a natural desire to actually do something creeps back in (even if she's still not got a new job), and she'll probably start being more positive naturally. Let her mope for a bit...

Oh, and as the crazy man up there pointed out... Talk to her FFS! 😉

😯

Print out this thread and post it to her.

he's best off having an affair, can say he's working late every evening because he's the only bread winner.

worked for the council you say, seems like she is carrying on as she was... 😯

I'd like to think that if I was ever made redundant I'd get round to buying a decent pedal bin. I mean, at the moment I just use a plastic bag, on the floor. It's sad and slobbish, it makes a mess, it smells and it looks crap. Whereas if I was given a chunky sum of money and had plenty of free time I'd be able to select and source a really nice bin.

Sounds like she's now doing at home what she used to do at work

Harsh, but probably true, otherwise she probably wouldn't have been laid off.

Being unemployed is very tough though.

Harsh, but probably true, otherwise she probably wouldn't have been laid off.

LOL

Tongue firmly in cheek I hope?

Harsh, but probably true, otherwise she probably wouldn't have been laid off.

Come and say that to any of the hundreds we are having to lay off. Try dealing with 30% cuts in your business.

Having worked alongside a local authority for years I'd say good luck to her finding a new job. [b]Many[/b] of the council workers are lazy fat cows who eat and drink all day stopping only to go to a meeting where they talk about having to have another meeting to discuss the agenda. They don't abuse their systems with work or thought, X-Factor's result matter more than some useless client most of the time.
Your mate going out with such a girl? Guilty as hell!

Did anyone else catch the BBC News [i]faux horreur[/i] at the recent survey results from business that found over 60% of private SME's wouldnt consider hiring ex-public sector employees 😉

The larger plc's though were all terribly PC saying how that they would never stoop so low as to judge a candidate on whether they had come from the public sector.

LOL @

Not mine, but a chap i know

Sounds like she's having an affair and trying to drive him out. She's lost her job, her days are empty, she likes her lovers arms round her between 9 - 5. She does like riding.

No excuse for the s****y bin though, thats unforgivable. Lover may have bought it for her?

A £40 pedal bin? Has she gone mad! If she'd been any good at all at the council, she'd have paid £100 for it and made damn sure that the supplier had ridiculously favourable terms and a contract to supply replacements every year. No wonder they got rid of her! 😉

40 quid on a new pedal bin

That ain't going to buy you a Brabantia is it?

I was in a similar situation about ten years ago. The GF got binned by work and set about spending her redundancy like it was burning a hole in her pocket. And when I say spend - I mean on her, not on the mortgage or the house.

Then when it was all gone I got it in the ear constantly about not giving her money, buying her a car etc.

I dumped her, sold the house, gave her her share, and started again.

Redundancy is tough. But people should not take it out on those that care for them, nor should they just squander the cash. She needs to grow up.

This thread just doesn't work without pictures of the pedal bin.

There's a potential job opening over here...

http://www.singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/going-off-work-with-stress