[Closed] So, another marriage up the swanny then......

Hora - cant believe you posted the bit about paternity testing. Don't you think the poor sods got enough stress and misery at present without adding that to the mix? As to the Op's original post, there's not that much of use I can add. I went through a bloody awful divorce twenty years ago, and for me at least, the fact that my wife at the time was having sex with someone else wasn't what destroyed things (don't get me wrong, I didn't particularly enjoy the thought, but it was just sex, which to me, is only one aspect of a relationship). I think what finally did for me was the fact that she told me she had fallen out of love with me and fallen in love with someone else. Prior to this, we had gone through all the 'it's not you it's me' and 'I just need some space' nonsense, which, let's face it, is complete arse gravy and a way of not having to face up to or admit what's really going on. I think ultimately, it was the lying that did me. Whilst not entirely agreeing with some of the posts on here, I have to agree with a) putting the kids first, and b) ending it whilst you still have your sanity and self respect. I hope you get through this without too much damage, and above all, I hope the kids are ok. Cheers, Mitch.