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To be fair to your wife, she may not spend as much time browsing online as you and is therefore not familiar with the plethora of Nigerian scams (a door to door one is certainly a first!)

Plus, it's a pretty rubbish scam if all he did was get your wife's first name and handed out his mobile number 🙂

Honestly, I think your wife did the right thing. A strange man on her doorstep enquiring about the van and she took his number, told you and left it there.

you are angry but focusing on the wrong person - sounds like your Mrs was put on the spot.
Go speak to this person then see if there is anything to be angry about

Could be completely legit.

I have seen loads of older vehicles at Tilbury docks, all waiting to be exported to West Africa. There is quite a busy trade by all accounts.

Sounds like you're in the habit of getting angry with your wife. I'd hate my partner to be afraid of me. I presume that you have control issues?

Let's see;

[i]Man knocks on door and asks if van for sale.

Partner says "I'll get my bloke to call you"

Bloke calls door knocker and says it's not for sale.

Bloke gets upset with partner.[/i]

Let's hope she never does anything actually bad, eh.

Is the wife going to make a thread - what to do when your partner massively overreacts?

so is your campervan for sale?

Could be completely legit.

I have seen loads of older vehicles at Tilbury docks, all waiting to be exported to West Africa. There is quite a busy trade by all accounts.

My parents have a friend originating in the Cameroon who does a pretty decent trade in buying older stuff here for shipping back over to Africa.

[i]so is your campervan for sale? [/i]

[womans voice]

It might be, leave me your phone number.

[/womans voice]

It's my campervan now, Dave...

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lets be honest, that van is an eyesore

Three_Fish - Member

Sounds like you're in the habit of getting angry with your wife. I'd hate my partner to be afraid of me. I presume that you have control issues?

oh dear...actually very rude comment...

If you worked where I worked and saw some of the scams I see you'd probably change your minds...

grum - Member

Is the wife going to make a thread - what to do when your partner massively overreacts?

maybe 👿

[i]If you worked where I worked and saw some of the scams I see[/i]

but you never thought to talk to your partner about the possibility before she was the 'victim' of a man handing over his phone number in exchange for a call explaining the van wasn't for sale?

[edit] is this going the way you expected?

over reaction if she didn't give out any other info than her name.

I can see this thread escalating quickly.

oh dear...actually very rude comment...

Is it true, though?

Youd best show me how to do it...

but you never thought to talk to your partner about the possibility before she was the 'victim' of a man handing over his phone number in exchange for a call explaining the van wasn't for sale?

we have an intercom fitted so we don't have to open the door...we don't do business/selling or buying on the door no matter what it is...and she should have said no its not...that's all...

and she should have said no its not...that's all...

I find telling my other half what to say always goes well.

[i]we don't[/i]

She does, you don't?

Three_Fish - Member

oh dear...actually very rude comment...

Is it true, though?

No ! so do one

edit] is this going the way you expected?

not really maybe I see the worst in people sometimes and specially when they knock at my door...

[i] I see the worst in people sometimes and specially when they knock at my door[/i]

I think the reaction is more about how you're talking about your partner, not about whoever she answered the door to?

She really did no harm and you seem to be disproportionately angry with her for doing no more than taking a message for you.

No ! so do one

Oh dear. Are you getting cross?

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If you worked where I worked and saw some of the scams I see you'd probably change your minds...

I don't see how that justifies being angry at your partner?

My wife once let TalkTalk in and nearly signed over all our phone and broadband because of their pressure selling.
I wasn't angry with her, but them... luckily, they returned to the door step a few days later... 😈

the maddest I ever get with the wife is, frowning whilst shaking my head. 😀

[i]frowning whilst shaking my head[/i]

Multi-tasking, I'm impressed.

I tend to frown [i]and then[/i] shake my head 😉

the maddest I ever get with the wife is, frowning whilst shaking my head.

so ultimately you are saying what she did wrong was answer the door and speak to someone....

which in addition to many relevant comments above about it possibly being legitimate and the way you are planning to turn it into an argument makes me think uhuh.......best get the biscuits in for this one.

problem with internet and writing down things comes across the wrong way doesn't it...

She really did no harm and you seem to be disproportionately angry with her for doing no more than taking a message for you.

point taken on that but if the intercom was used then there is no possibility of anything bad ever happening...most important things in my house are my family not the possessions...and bad stuff happens you have to be naïve to think it doesn't... so if I get angry or peed off its because the most valuable things are my family...

Me too - but sometimes she catches me and then I am in the shit.

snap....... 😆

oh and did I mention that mother in laws best friend had her throat slit at the door by a [s]door to door sales[/s] man nutter...no...so that's why I get a bit funny...

So you've told your wife not to answer the door to anyone?

I live in one of the dodgier parts of Glasgow, there have been murders at both ends of our road, but we still leave our front door unlocked when we're home. I think you're massively over-reacting and more than a little controlling.

I am still not sure how it could be a scam?

If any sale was done in a sensible manner, in the same way you would sell a car through Autotrader or similar?

If he was really up to no good, surely he wouldn't of knocked on but waited until you were both out and nicked it?

the maddest I ever get with the wife is, frowning whilst shaking my head.

I enjoy trying to frown and smile at the same time!

So you've told your wife not to answer the door to anyone?

of course not but to use the INTERCOM...rather than actually open the door...

Give you £50 for the Van..
Take it off yer hands like..
Since you're not using it like..
Seems a bit untidy in a few places..
Ok, let me revise that figure £40 tops..

Should I ask your Wife first? 😉

aside from the mrandmrstrackworld debate...

I'd call his bluff and see if what the scam is perhaps contact the local police/trading standards, theres vunerable people getting conned all the time, if he's scum help remove him from the streets.

I can't see how an intercom would have made any difference,
Bzzzzzzzz, 'hello'
'is your camper van for sale?'
'It might be'
'can I leave my number in case it is'
A bottle of wine and some flowers might be in order..
(For your wife, not the man)

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Ok, my offers back up to £50.. 😆

im gonna knock on your doors you seem like an easy gullible lot to con !

and then I can have a row with the mrs...

im gonna knock on your doors you seem like an easy gullible lot to con !

Certainly, any time you want to scam me by giving me your phone number, go right ahead 😉

For Roper

Sometimes people can get carried away 😉

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A bottle of wine and some flowers might be in order

Why not buy a nice bunch of flowers and tell her you love her, better than spending the evening having a pointless argument!

On a related note I once had a Nigerian try and scam me on ebay but then I also has a really nice one buy a gearbox off me to export to Nigeria ... Don't tar everyone with the same brush??

Would never have this problem with my wife.She's far too [s]lazy [/s] busy to get up and answer the front door.

[i]Just for the record, that's how most gangbang porn starts.[/i]

I think it's good that this place attracts connoisseurs of all types.

Unfitgeezer once he's calmed down and made his way home...

Get her under the patio, only rational response.

This--or you might end up sleeping in the camper van

Unless she's sold it...

If he's got £8000 he's welcome to it...

She's done nothing wrong. She answered the door. She's an adult, that's her choice not yours.

She probably keeps quiet about the fact that she thinks you wasted your time and money installing and intercom, and she never uses the stupid thing unless you are there.
But she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, so keeps it to herself.

You do sound like you want to control what she does (sorry but that's I she you come across)

You need to apologise.

She answered the door and took a message.

You acted like a complete tool.

For my tuppence worth, tell the you don't to sell the van and let her sort it out. Or maybe you do then she could sort that instead. Few quid for her to spend some new bike stuff for you.

So what you're really angry at is that your wife isn't using the intercom system that you've installed?

Did you have a family meeting and agree to the intercom or was this a unilateral decision on your part during a more severe bout of paranoia? 😀

i'm surprised you even leave her at home on her own the way you talk about her.

I can't really see the issue - she opened the door when you have an intercom, and then someone offered to buy the van. you've said no. no more needs to be said...

So the van [i]is [/i]for sale?

So what you're really angry at is that your wife isn't using the intercom system that you've installed?

Did you have a family meeting and agree to the intercom or was this a unilateral decision on your part during a more severe bout of paranoia?

actually it was her idea...

[i]actually it was her idea...[/i]

I think you'll find that if it turned out to be a bad idea then it was one of yours 😉

actually it was her idea...

I reckon if you think about it really hard.

And try and remember what really happened.

It probably wasn't her idea 😉

So none of you guys or gals ever get p 1ssed with your partners ? and no one ever airs it on here...no ?

Its good you have all built a picture of me being some sort of power crazy husband...far from it

Im outa my own thread...I don't need to justify my actions

If some of you believe that everyone is nice that knocks on your door then you may want to wise up a little...

Sell your camper and take your wife on a lovely holiday, you both need it.

Later this evening

So none of you guys or gals ever get p 1ssed with your partners ? and no one ever airs it on here...no ?

I'm sure everyone does from time to time yes.

But you derailed your own thread in the first post !

Your title mentioned a partner "doing something totally stupid"

But you then went on to tell a story about a woman who answered the door when the doorbell rang.

Can you see how that has confused the thread somewhat.

Im lost how did she answer the front door?

Mine cant as shes not allowed out of the kitchen. 😈

sorry double post

Yeah, really stupid is accidentally posting one disc from your Firefly box set back to Lovefilm, who then refuse to give it back so you have to buy a whole new box set.

I may have shook my head sadly, didn't dare react further.

I once knocked on a womans door, she answered it and I offered to buy her house.
She said yes.
So I did.

Lived there for 5 years so far.... What a stupid woman.

But you then went on to tell a story about a woman who answered the door when the doorbell rang.

If you worked where I worked and saw some of the scams I see

So [s]call me dave[/s] Mr cameron....how long have you been a member on singletrack

If he's got £8000 he's welcome to it...

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I think all negotiations have to be conducted via the intercom lilchris.

Maybe you could contact the would-be camper van-exporter man to ask him if he'd be interested in buying a second-hand (hardly used) intercom instead?

"Please don't go, noooo, don't go away, please please don't go" 😆

My offer stands at £50..

Maybe you could contact the would-be camper van-exporter man to ask him if he'd be interested in buying a second-hand (hardly used) intercom instead?

"One unreasonable ranty owner"

When I make a mistake all I have to do is to wait to notice the shadow. Of the ten tonnes of bricks dropping on me from a great height.

When MrAdamW makes a mistake there is a sheepish grin and an 'oh well, never mind, eh?'. 😕

Maybe you could contact the would-be camper van-exporter man to ask him if he'd be interested in buying a second-hand (hardly used) intercom instead?

Will it work in Nigeria?

This may be the strangest thread on the Internet. Other people eh?