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I've just found out that I will be working on a boat somewhere in the Bismark Sea this christmas. Work need me to go to cover something that wasn't expected, there is no one else to go, it's the nature of the job and my boss genuinely feels bad about sending me.
Problem is that my son was born in August and I'll be missing the first family Christmas. Not a lot I can do about it, so if you could all post replies saying that at 4-5 months my son really doesn't know what Christmas is anyway, and the extra money and time off later will more than make up for it that would be great! Thanks in advance!
Ishouldbeworking shouldn't be working 🙁
Son was born last september and I didn't think last christmas was extra special or magical, I'm looking forward to this christmas more but think it will probably when he's 2 that he (and therefore I) will think it's special. Lets face it <6months babies are a bit boring, gorgeous, cute, make your insides melt etc but not much interaction.
Maybe I'm just a curmudgeoning old git tho.
Tell your boss you will [b]not[/b] be working next chrimbo.
Your son won't really know what is going on and definately can't read a calender yet so just move the day to one before or when you are back. After all most people that celebrate Christmas are not particulaly religous. Friends of ours have chosen to work over Christmas in the NHS because they get a good amount of time off and they celebrate on winter solstice.
It will also give Farther Christmas a chance to get his breath and deliver a much higher quality of present.
Definately a good tip to bargain on not working next Christmas.
Perfect, thanks for that, I'm looking forward to helping to open the train set and Islabikes Rothan next year already....
They prefer the boxes to the presents inside at that age anyway
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Definately a good tip to bargain on not working next Christmas.
Yes, agreed!
Better to miss this Christmas rather than next if you have to miss one at all.
yeah the toys he'll get this year will be all baby stuff and no selection boxes to raid.
at 4-5 months my son really doesn't know what Christmas is anyway
This.
My eldest's first Christmas (he was about 11 months) came as a big disappointment to my mum, sister etc when he just sat there looking faintly bemused by the whole thing while they all clucked madly around him waving all sorts of junk at him.
lobby dosser - That presumes that you actually buy appropriate presents, my 20 month old daughter is getting a new mig welder. I have been assured it comes in a really ace box.
remember your first xmas.... or do you remember your first bike?
definitely too young to notice what's going on other than flashy lights and more visitors than normal, use it as a bargaining chip for next year!
that is truly crap but he wont notice and will likely be massively confused and more interested in where his next meal is rather than the presents etc.
I wouldn't worry too much about next year either - mine still liked the wrapping more than anything. You can still have a family celebration when you all together when you get back - its the people that make it special not the date IMO.
yup as above really , the first xmas not a problem but the following xmas you must NOT miss! Brought all the excitement back seeing my little un getting stupidly excited. 🙂
Without sounding cold-hearted he wont have a clue you're not there for christmas, he'll be too busy playing with empty boxes and discarded wrapping paper and not touching the boxes contents. He'll realise you're not there but wont realise its xmas.
It's a crap position to be in but will affect you far more than your son. Our childrens first Christmas' were more about the cards and the first present / wrappings. It actually got a bit frustrating wanting them to move on to the next present when all they wanted to do was play with the wrapping paper or clothes hanger that the cute little jumper came with.
Ours were both between 9 and 10 months at this point so being just 6 months will be even less of an issue.
Doesn't make it any easier for you I guess.
even at 2, which our twins will be, they don't understand it properly . The point and shout at Santa but the whole concept of him coming down the chimney in a months time with presents is far too complicated and abstract for a 23 month old.
Your son won't really know what is going on and definately can't read a calender yet so just move the day to one before or when you are back.
^this. lots of friends & family move christmas to other more convenient days due to work. the neice is having her first christmas on december 23rd as her dad is on the wards 24/25th.
Dont worry too much mate, just be there for his 2nd one!
My nephews 1st Christmas was disappointing, like others said he just lay there and played with the paper rather than presents.
His 2nd Christmas was awesome, he saw a picture of what we got him on the box and was jumping all over until we got it up and running 🙂 so thats the one to be there for!
I missed my daughters first Christmas, I was in hospital recovering from a severe spinal injury, I got a visit during the day, but I missed the presents meal etc, from what I was told she didn't take any of it in, and we made up for it when I got out of hospital.
Wait till you get home and organise a day then, have the meal and all the trimmings
Chris
takes till the yare at least able to open presents themsleves before it feels anything like a proper christamas - 3- 5 ish IMHO- as you have imagined it. Wont be nice for you but you are just missing a small bundle being blissfully unaware of what the day means to everyone else and not even being able to pull the wrapping paper off
Seriously not missing much there will be plemnty more when they cant sleep and then whoop with dleight at the sight of the favourite toy etc
As all the others. Sam was 9 months last Christmas and really couldn't care less, with the exception of all his favourite people coming to see him (Nanny, cousins etc). This year should be much better.
I'll be number 1 son's third christmas this year and he's only just old enough to have any conception of it at all. I reckon it'll be at least next year and probably the year after before he really gets excited about at.
Being miserable old gits, his mother & I aren't too upset by this!
Bah! Humbug!
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[i]Your son's first Christmas[/i]
The first day of your house being filled to the brim with toys, gifts and cute things most of which he'll play with once, twice or maybe never. All bought by well meaning friends and relatives who think you live in a Tardis. Be prepared for the shock when you get back..........