[Closed] My missus is pissed off

Its something you did. In a dream she had.

Like cougar says don't play mind games, shrug stuff off, point out the situation is silly if it is, apologise if you're in the wrong and maybe even if you're not (if it's something trivial). Point scoring in relationships is not a good move, sometimes your OH will be tired/stressed/in a funny mood and logic need not apply, sometimes it'll be you. Don't exacerbate the situation needlessly just to prove you're right/they're wrong

[i]your OH will be [s]tired/stressed/in a funny mood[/s] [b]female[/b] and logic need not apply[/i]

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Legal Notice: not you dear, of course.

Have you neglected your husbandly duties, and failed to take the bins out on the right day ?

Share your problem with me, or don't, but don't be sitting there sulking at me like a child who can't have any sweets just because I've not yet evolved telepathy.

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I'm guessing you don't hide the passwords to anything and shes had a snoop and become either paranoid or thinks you are upto something but can't prove it.

Either that or she resents you over her life so far.

I don't understand why my GF (and women in general). Can't just leave work issues at work. I hate my missus supervisor and I've never even met her. I keep threatening to take a s**t in her desk drawer. That usually raises half a smile. I waste about an hour every day listening to non-dramas about people I've never met. Like a crap version of the Archers.

There are so many things I could say about this.

But then I'd be just like Mrs North. "And when he said that to me, I turned to him and I said...."

Ask her how she is. If she says 'I'm fine', then run! Seriously... RUN!!! As fast as your legs will carry you.

Is there another word in the English language that can strike fear into the (male) human heart to such a degree?

Whereas a man, knowing that he is about to live his wife's working day in real time (and possibly with different voices for each of the parts), will always say, when asked how his days was, "fine".

Well indeed. BF I had once would ask how my day was at work. So I would tell him. He would then proceed to dissect everything I told him, how I had handled it extremely badly and what a right-thinking person such as him would have done. Then moaned when he asked how my day was and I replied "fine".

Mines happy at the moment. She got a new iron last night. Well i 'think' she's happy, she was speechless. She wont be that happy when she see's the CR delivery, mind you............or the On One rear mech.........Luckily CR take a couple of moon phases to appear, so will spread the delivery and costs.........

I tell my GF she wouldn't care about or understand what I do at work. That makes 2 of us.

If you don't know, I'm not going to tell you. Huff etc.

Never a truer word spoken......

Well you've two balls I expect, neither of which are crystal so you're on a loser here. If it's not a period drama then I'd be at a loss too. Best bet is to completely ignore it and when she decides to grow up she might tell you.

In the meantime just do your own thing.

Its something you did. In a dream she had.

This happens to me once or twice a month and she's in a mood for a good 48 hours each time, I wouldn't mind if I'd had the coresponding infidelity based dream, but mine are normally of me running from My missus who'sbrandishing a kitchen knife...

Not only this but when I pointed out the other day that the amount of 'Display crockery' on our plate rack has now increased to the point where I am only "allowed" to use about 25% of the items on it and I'd appreciate a bit of rationalisation she started crying and accused me of Hating her mother for some reason....

I have to make the case for me getting a rather competitively priced Tablet at the minute while she's burning our savings on Yet more Cath Kidson stuff and Visiting an expensive Spa next weekend...

OP I feel your pain....

I do. Orf out on the bike in 2 hours with a mate who tells it like it is. Im shit on my bike, my bike's shit and all is well with the world.

Not only this but when I pointed out the other day that the amount of 'Display crockery' on our plate rack has now increased to the point where I am only "allowed" to use about 25% of the items on it and I'd appreciate a bit of rationalisation she started crying and accused me of Hating her mother for some reason....

Thr best cure for this is to make her throw it all at you.

I never understood "saving it for best." You've bought something really nice and expensive, yet persist in using cheap crap day to day.

I know someone with a TAG watch, spends most of its life in a drawer; I think I've seen him wear it twice in his life. If I'd spent that sort of money on a watch I'd have it surgically grafted to my arm.

"well, if you don't know im not going to tell you."
Aaaaagh.

[quote=joolsburger]If it's not a period drama then I'd be at a loss too.

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I never understood "saving it for best." You've bought something really nice and expensive, yet persist in using cheap crap day to day.

The grandparents-in-law were like this. He was a skilled blue collar worker, and she was a housewife. You'd never believe the amount of cash they saved over a lifetime.....

But to what end? It just went to my MIL (who is of the same mindset). And, of course, will end up in the hands of Mrs North and her brother.

Both of whom are spendthrifts like me.

Oh dear.

Best thread ever. This is why I own a dog.

"What's up darling ?"

"Nothing" (yeah, right. I now know that there is no right thing to say, do or be. Only one thing I can do, disappear)

*sigh* " Right, come on then lad, I'll be back in a hour...or so.

Exit stage left with grateful dog.

She probably told you to do something but you weren't listening

MrsBuoy sometimes goes off on one. Most of the time it's due to a lack of under sheet action. She's gorgeous, but sometimes I just want to sleep.
Now't wrong with that..
Then sometimes she goes all random artist on me. Must be the drugs.

This is why I own a dog.

I better get a dog, although she doesn't seem to mind if I pop out on the road bike for an hour 😕

Did the OP ever find out what was wrong?

Mine turned a heated conversation into a full on row yesterday and when I suggested she should follow her own advice and leave me alone, carried on baiting me until i went mental and started shouting at her at the top of my voice.

Did the OP ever find out what was wrong?

He's not been back to the thread in four days. I think we need to send someone round to look for him. I'd suggest starting under the patio.

He's not been back to the thread in four days.

Attention seeking no wonder his missus gets the hump me me me! 😀

My Mrs was pissed at me for almost a week because I've lost 15lbs this summer... She only finally told me what was up once she had already gotten over it. Ironically her mom is a clinical psychologist, but I think I'd truly end up in the shit books if I went up to her and said "your daughter can be mental sometimes" 😯

Preface: Not smug, just curious. For long term together folk...

If man "A" is 25 and has been with girl "B" for 2 + years with every intent of 2 + years being "forever"... What is the best solution for ensuring "together" = "forever"?

Talk, compromise, talk some more.

Do not neglect each other. Make sure yo enjoy your life together. Make time for the little things that matter

32 years together here

32 years together here

Good going that man. And not a wedding in sight. I like your style.

(16 years, one child. No marriage)

Cheers TJ, i've found pride can "git tae'" and admitting fault-whether it actually was one's fault is irrelevant- comes in handy.

Just read alot of unhappiness in togetherness on here and need a bit of assurance some folk still got it good.

Better than ever actually - growing old disgracefully together. I know a few long term couples - communication and compromise from both of you is the key IMO / IME

Communication is fine, she won't shut up.

That's not true.

How about the whole "best friend" adage, is there an advantage to ensuring time apart is as important as time together to avoid "cabin fever" or "familiarity breeds contempt?"

We don't do everything togehter but don't spend a lot of time apart. Time to yourself is important to both of us

Not only this but when I pointed out the other day that the amount of 'Display crockery' on our plate rack has now increased to the point where I am only "allowed" to use about 25% of the items on it and I'd appreciate a bit of rationalisation she started crying and accused me of Hating her mother for some reason....

i lol'd

I agree with the above. Is she sleeping with her Eyes wide shut? Blame Kubrick!

It's because women can't just let it go - they have to carry on, like pulling at a loose thread, pulling and pulling til it all unravels and your shirt is just a pile of threads on the ground.

TJ's a woman?

We don't do everything togehter but don't spend a lot of time apart.

this works for us (13 yrs so far, 10 married). Outside of going to work, I play volleyball and occasionally go climbing. We MTB together.

'ITS A TRAP!' (in my best Ackbar accent), she is using an old female mind trick on you, you have done nothing, hold your nerve, her aim is for you to crack and confess to something you think she knows.

The worrying thing is that it appears to be genetic.

My daughter seemed to have all of the, errm, qualities that her mother exhibits in this area from the moment she could give me a hard stare.

She's 10 now and, frankly, any boy who wants to go out with her later in life will have my sympathy and probably experience the almost permanent state of bemused incomprehension at what's going on in her head that I do.

My son, when smaller, used to work on the principle that if he was pee'd off he'd try and punch you and then it was all forgotten about. He's 15 now and seems to have resorted to the 'perma-sulk' approach to dealing with his parents.

My daughter seemed to have all of the, errm, qualities that her mother exhibits in this area from the moment she could give me a hard stare.

My Dad told me a few months ago that he actually feels sorry for my sister's fiancé.

Currently on day five of a big argument. Up until last night, she'd only spoke five words to me and those were not nice. Luckily I was sleeping in the spare room, so she had lots of space that we could use to avoid each other.

Last night though, more words spoken. Unfortunately not the sort that brings this to an end and makes us happy again. Looks like I will have plenty of time for phys and dog walking in the immediate future...

Preface: Not smug, just curious. For long term together folk...

If man "A" is 25 and has been with girl "B" for 2 + years with every intent of 2 + years being "forever"... What is the best solution for ensuring "together" = "forever"?

sorry don;t know how to quote. Listening and talking and doing the little things without asking (when you have worked out what these are) goes a long way. Presents and treats work as well but i've discovered that hoovering without being asked, toching up the skiring boards etc are often more appreciated. Doing things together is good as well as a little time apart. A dog is also very useful. MIne gets used to mull things over when on walks and to distinguish between me being utterly p' off with myself or something totally unrelated to Mrs K and therefore not taking it out on her. Biting your tongue and counting to 10 is sometimes quite useful as well. Oh and remember why you love her now and all the little things she does that make you love her as they can be easy to forget.

I can't remember the last time me and the mrs argued, i can leave stuff lying about, nothing. I buy things without her questioning or moaning at me. Somethings not right...