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You been talking in your sleep again? Just explain to her than "Jane" is just someone that does stuff that you couldn't possibly ask you wife to do, she'll understand. 😯
Do you spend too much time on forums?
Oooh...half an hour and not a post from Bwaarp...imagine...right now there could be the most amazing barney going on...
Joking asides I hope it gets sorted mate.
A man's place is in the wrong.
Get used to it. 😀
She's been reading 50 Shades and realised that you're not Christian Grey in stature, bedroom prowess, wit or wealth.
I'm guessing you bought a 29er and looking at moving to singlespeed
She's found out about you sharing relationship details with geeky strangers on a bike forum?
she's up the duff
Well what's happened? its been an hour now.
My mrs was in a right mood with me for a day and kept saying that nothing was wrong. I was getting severely annoyed that there clearly was and had it out with her. Turned out to be a bloody dream, flipping women!
I usually get to a point like that with my mrs where I just act completely normal and at some point she'll lose the plot, shout for a bit then calm down after a bit.
Think it helps in her case, although I appreciate that just acting normal when she's in a mood might cause her to blow her top..
Not very helpful I guess but at least you know it happens to all of us!
I'm revising for an exam I missed after being ill. That's where I've been and why I've been popping on here at all hours, meanies. Plus where I am living at the moment is quiet, no one to ride with round here.
I have no clue what's up with her, I'm staying away and buying my problems with textbooks. My Spaniel seems happy I'm downstairs later anyway.
Enjoying getting some head space, if she doesn't want to talk, fine. Then I'll act as if she's not around, crack open a beer, walk around in my underwear, watch porn on the tv, tell the Spaniel it can sit on the sofa. Etc.
Sorry Fellah, just suck it up. Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. FWIW I always agree with Mrs A, always tell her I support her, always let her know that I'll do what needs doing.
But I'm an independant sort of bloke, so I'm happy to make my own decisions and happily modify hers to suit the peace and harmony of the family unit.
Tonight she's announced that she wants to blow our money on a new laptop for work! I explained repeatedly that work should pay for a work laptop. To no avail, she tells me work is skint and if she has it it will make her life easier, i.e. family life more harmonious. Ha Ha- £600:00 down the sewer so she can write worksheets and reports for her school. Plus the price of new software as well I suppose.
Brownie points for me though- Dropper post here I come.
Its something you did. In a dream she had.
Laughed my tits off at that. Mrs SS gave me the silent treatment for almost a day for that.
Woah..£600 on a laptop for work? no need to fork out that much for something that's going to get used for word processing and spreadsheets. half that should get you a machine with a reasonable spec. Have a look on Tesco's site (down atm)
acid is quite right - I spent £800 on an unbranded laptop four years ago from PC Specialist and it could probably take over the world if I asked it to.
bwaarp - where TF did you find that curious video on the other thread (the I'm gonna FYM one). It's nuts. Who sits down and decides they're going to make a 10 minute revenge film based on bitterness?!
Reddit, as usual. I'm not quite sure, web - further down the rabbit hole - etc etc etc
Although I think the version of the video that was on reddit had gone viral. The first part sat at the cafe gave me a wry smile after a breakup.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/significant-results/201106/revenge-is-good-you-part-1
It may be that revenge fantasies serve to buffer people against the negative feelings associated with victimization
I'm afraid we have now digressed into psychology, lol.
Well, hope it works itself out without recourse to your MIL. Revenge lived out vicariously IS quite satisfying. So much of our best literature is based upon this premise (not to mention lots of crappy novels, a-la-Stephen King). When dished out in person though, it often leaves us feeling a bit grotty IME.
Bit confused now - am I posting on the right thread? 😀
I agree, mostly. However I think some people bottle things that have hurt them and over time as they never let it out they become increasingly passive aggressive. They mistake this for letting go and forgiving. Forgiving someone is a long process and a part of that process is anger and the quicker you let it out the better.
When other halves have been in the process of breaking up with me, I'd get the last word/action in and then leave them as annoyed as possible. That way, if you've had a bit of mischief on the way out that you can laugh about later, then you don't bottle up rage with things like "I wished I'd done this or said that". Etc
If you can have fun when breaking up, like when your ex has moved back to her rents....then accidently marking a package full her sex toys with an obscure recipient so that it goes to her mother instead....then why not. The hysterically funny abusive phone calls you get back are worth it alone.
After a few years of marriage, some of them difficult, I have come to the conclusion that men take too much shit in this sort of situation. Nowadays I generally know what I am supposed to have done (if and when I've done something wrong). If I have done something to apologise for (i.e. not just something that she perceives as being wrong), I apologise and mean it. If I don't believe I have done something wrong I explain why and will happily discuss, but won't take any notice of silent treatment. On the odd occasion that there is silence and I don't know why, I ask, allow some time for her to build up to saying something, ask again if she stills says nothing and then tell her that I will assume that there is nothing wrong if she is not going to explain and then carry on as normal.
I should clarify that we have a great marriage that has gone from strength to strength over the years and I love her to bits, but I just don't agree that men are always in the wrong just because women state that to be the case. I refuse to go along with that.
I should also add that there are times where I didn't believe I was wrong but then accepted I was after we talked it out - her simmering in silence wouldn't have taught me that though.
She probably spoke to my wife.
Either that or she's not getting enough and resents it.
Excessive cheeriness is the correct course of action in this situation.
scaredypants - Member
she's up the duff
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The two biggest barneys I've had with my wife had this as the end result a week or so later.
Do you want a boy or a girl?
Tonight she's announced that she wants to blow our money on a new laptop for work! I explained repeatedly that work should pay for a work laptop. To no avail, she tells me work is skint and if she has it it will make her life easier, i.e. family life more harmonious. Ha Ha- £600:00 down the sewer so she can write worksheets and reports for her school. Plus the price of new software as well I suppose.
If it is for her work you're morally obliged to run pirate software.
I don't understand why my GF (and women in general). Can't just leave work issues at work. I hate my missus supervisor and I've never even met her. I keep threatening to take a s**t in her desk drawer. That usually raises half a smile. I waste about an hour every day listening to non-dramas about people I've never met. Like a crap version of the Archers.
If I get the silent treatment I just leave a packet of chocolate hob-nobs in arms reach and go to shed for a bit.
Mumsnet is probably at the root of Bwaarps problem.
It's a useful place to see how some female psyches work. Scarey too.
Don't forget the old saying.
Men are from Mars
Women are from Broadmoor
Don't apologise in the hope this will placate her.
She'll ask you why you're sorry.
And not knowing what you're even apologising for (beyond "irritating breathing') leads to further problems.
Make her a nice drink with some valium in it.
A wise man on her once said "go out and get slammin" Whatever that means
Go on give her something to be pissed off about.
I waste about an hour every day listening to non-dramas about people I've never met. Like a crap version of the Archers.
😆 STW really is amazing. bwaarp, I suppose there's not much you can do other than keep on keeping on.
"Women. Can't live with 'em, pass the beer nuts."
Norm from Cheers.
Miss CD has been watching True Love on V+ for the past 2 days. I have now been quized about my likelyhood of having an affair in any of the scenarios shown 😕 Because of course all men are exactly the same.
A wise man on [b]her[/b] once said ...
On who? Bwaarp's missus? Maybe that's the problem 😉
cheers_drive - Member
Miss CD has been watching True Love on V+ for the past 2 days. I have now been quized about my likelyhood of having an affair in any of the scenarios shown Because of course all men are exactly the same.
Oh bloody hell I noticed the wife has the whole series on our PVR to watch!
Should I just delete them and claim I did it by accident whilst cleaning off the TDF stuff?
We've been together for nearly 30 years and I still get caught out by her "logic" sometimes
After a while you'll learn that no matter what..you're wrong! and the words 'yes dear' and 'sorry dear' are all you have left..
There is no arguing or reasoning with [i]Emotions[/i] ...and to be fair, most men are emotionally crippled...
I'm baned from using "darling" around my wife. She knows that when I use it I am being overly nice in an attempt to make her feel happy, so she gets angrier at me for trying to make her feel better.
Thinking about it, she had a go at me last night for not locking the back door of the house that I lived in when we first met. Before we started living together. Over six years ago.
Get used to it.
you are Tom Cruise and I claim my £5
Never marry a woman.
Or in more sensible advice: Yep, it's normal. Just get on with enjoying yourself (i.e. go for a ride, crack a beer open, crack one out) as you might as well, because you'll get moaned at either way.
It'll come out in the wash soon enough.
Ask her how she is. If she says 'I'm fine', then run! Seriously... [b]RUN!!![/b] As fast as your legs will carry you.
Is there another word in the English language that can strike fear into the (male) human heart to such a degree? When you hear that word, its the end. You're going to be smothered in your sleep
I hate my missus supervisor and I've never even met her. I keep threatening to take a s**t in her desk drawer. That usually raises half a smile. I waste about an hour every day listening to non-dramas about people I've never met.
I can sooo relate to that!
I waste about an hour every day listening to non-dramas about people I've never met.
The reason why my previous 2 long term relationships failed, i got so bloody bored of listening to drivel.
New wife is ace, thinks like a bloke..
Mine turned a heated conversation into a full on row yesterday and when I suggested she should follow her own advice and leave me alone, carried on baiting me until i went mental and started shouting at her at the top of my voice.
Then we had to have a talk so I could apologise and inform her of the error of her ways.
All of this is just one of those things. What's really annoying is that I missed my evening ride cos of the damned chat!!!!! Grrrrr
As a wise mainframe once said, the only winning move is not to play.
If she's walking round with a face like a slapped arse, you ask her what's wrong and she goes "fine," react as though everything's fine and get on with your day. Your relentless cheeriness will then either a) cheer her up too or b) piss her off so hard that she'll tell(*) you what's wrong anyway.
Life's too short to be playing bloody mind games, the "well, if you don't know what I'm thinking then I'm not telling you" game has no place in a grown adult's brain. Share your problem with me, or don't, but don't be sitting there sulking at me like a child who can't have any sweets just because I've not yet evolved telepathy.
The tricky bit is remembering that and sticking with it. It's far easier to succumb to "aw honey, don't be upset, I'm sure we can work something out, would you like a cup of tea?" (which is, after all, the purpose of the exercise), rather than "cool, if nothing's wrong then I'm going to play Call of Duty for a bit."
(* - scream)
binners - Member
Ask her how she is. If she says 'I'm fine', then run! Seriously... RUN!!! As fast as your legs will carry you.Is there another word in the English language that can strike fear into the (male) human heart to such a degree? When you hear that word, its the end. You're going to be smothered in your sleep
I think the phrase "I've been thinking" scares me more, but I know what you mean.
Im in trouble. Mrs yinn is pissed off at me because she couldn't go to the doctors this morning, because I din't take little yinn to school this morning, she couldn' phone the doctors to make her appt. She mentioned it briefly last night, said nothing about it this morning, despite talking in the kitchen whilst I was doing last nights washing up (which I "should have done last night"). Apparently I should have remembered this. So rather than say something to remind me, she intentionally chose not to, didnt get an appt and its all my fault. 🙄