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We've got 3 lads, 7,4 and 18 months. Love them to bits, but for past couple of weeks the oldest 2 have been narking at each other constantly. We have moved house in the past month and both have started new school & nursery. They seem to be doing well settling in in that respect. We've done all we can to make the move a good thing. They've got a bedroom each for the first time, lots of trips out, summer of camping planned etc. but they just can't be around each other without behaviour starting with griping and snarling, descending into pushing, shoving hitting and screaming! Reached a bit of head whilst out with their Mum this morning. I've threatened to put them back in bunk beds until they can learn to get on again!
I know that some of this is par for the course with lads - my brother and I didn't get on at all until we left home. I'm just surprised at how quickly this has kicked off and can't accept that we're going to have another 10-15 years of this! Any experiences or pointers for dealing with sibling strife!
Get them some boxing gloves and let them get on with it.
Leave them in the woods with a compass and a flint.
IANAP.
How about a getting along t shirt.
Keep your favourite, give up the other.
Some useful responses there!
I would say its a phase...and not to be taken too seriously, however I would put my foot down and say enough is enough and if it carries on, then you'll be taking action. Remove treats, tv time etc until they learn to treat each other nicely.
Some useful responses there!
I would say its a phase...and not to be taken too seriously, however I would put my foot down and say enough is enough and if it carries on, then you'll be taking action. Remove treats, tv time etc until they learn to treat each other nicely.
rene59 - Member
Keep your favourite, give up the other.
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Like the t shirt idea - going to threaten that at least!
If me and my brothers are anything to go by you're screwed, we fought for as long as I remember right up until about 16! Just let them knock **** out of each other, bad feeling between brothers only lasts until the tears start, punish 'em both after that. We always got on way better after a right good scrap!
Hi,
You write "moved house.. new school", in a young persons life those are both pretty big changes..
Young people cannot communicate the same way adults do so if theyre unsettled behaviours can vary a lot...
From what you write I'm not surprised they're unsettled - only advice I'd give is talk to them (seperately and informally as possible) to ask how they're feeling etc and see what comes out....
I've got 3 boys of similar age, imo you're as well giving them some time to thrash it out and intervene only when absolutely necessary. A pecking order needs to be established 🙂
Seperate cellars is the answer
stick them in a room with some marvel movies, crisps and a bottle of tequila
Get divorced, take one of the annoying ones each and share the other one.
Tough love?...
CRUSH THEM. SEE THEM DRIVEN BEFORE YOU. HEAR THE LAMENTATIONS OF THEIR MOTHER...
54 months to late for an abortion which would cure the problem ?
Hi,You write "moved house.. new school", in a young persons life those are both pretty big changes..
Young people cannot communicate the same way adults do so if theyre unsettled behaviours can vary a lot...
From what you write I'm not surprised they're unsettled - only advice I'd give is talk to them (seperately and informally as possible) to ask how they're feeling etc and see what comes out....
This +1
We moved to another County last year. My 2 lads were 4 and 3 at the time. We thought they would be ok........ Errr, how wrong we were!! Change like this does really affect the little scamps. It gets better if that helps?
got a 9 and 6.5 yr old. The young one is now at the point where he is threatening to kill the eldest in his sleep (and quite serious about it).
I'm hoping it's a phase - or at the very least he makes it look like an accident so the social aren't called in and we can pretend to not be afraid!