MegaSack DRAW - This year's winner is user - rgwb
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I never saw myself as having children. Been with the missus for two years now and we're trying for our first. She's desperate for them and I've come round to the idea. I think spending time looking after her godchildren and this helped alot in me changing my mind, can't wait now to start a family.
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Dez B, the only option you give with a positive outcome is have the kid and love it
I think you missed the [i]some[/i], "..." and [i]the possibilities are endless[/i] parts.
Going back on topic, the original poster shouldn't be bludgeoned with advice like "Go on, have kids. I love mine".
Why not? Especially if it's coming from people who felt the same as he did in their twenties? It's just the polar opposite from the "Yep no chance. Delete her number and run a mile" type posts. And if that's worked for you, no reason not to share your experiences either. The best way forward for the OP has to be to think incredibly deeply about what he wants. Input from all sides is valuable.
I think iDave's comment about seeing her in 5 years with a small child is a good one. You'd want to weigh up lots of those kinds of scenarios in your mind. Examine the reasons why you don't want children and think whether any of them would be altered by the relationship you have to give up on. Or maybe just roll a dice?