[Closed] if you sleep with a good friend, will it ruin the frienship in the future?

go out for a bike ride, its the romantic way.

[i] dont want to loose her as a friend.[/i]

You missed the 'n' off

We can all afford to lose 1 friend 🙂

Yes, ****ing your friend will fundamentally alter the relationship. It's not a difficult one to fathom out is it?

It will ruin the friendship (the question is would it be worth it)

Trust me, it will change everything!

😆 at Dez.

And your relationships with both your ex's may be a factor...

philconsequence - Member
go out for a bike ride, its the romantic way.

😀

If she's a looker get stuck in. If she's not too hot, probably better keep her as a friend.

Depends how good or rubbish you are! 😆

Very difficult to make a judgement on this quandary without a pic

In the words of Mrs Doyle.......

Go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on,go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on,go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on, go on......

"it would probaly be a "one off""

Sounds like she doesn't know about this difficult quandry you find yourself in. Rape is illegal you know...

Better to regret the stuff you have done than the stuff you haven't.

Get stuck in and enjoy!

why not settle for a bit of fingering?

If you're that good friends just ask her, she might be thinking the same too. Just do it, could become a regular event, nsa sex, what more do you want??

Depends, if you are predatory about it, then most likely!

If you value the friendship then don't risk it.

go balls out and take her to an orgy
plenty of swingers clubs about!

Why should it ruin the relationship? If you are truly good friends then there won't be a problem and yes I've been there.
Female friend of some 20+ years, more or less 15 years ago we spent some intimate time together, our lives moved on, and I consider her to be my closest friend.
I don't think we judge each other and are happy when the other is happy.

No problem at all.

go balls [b]deep[/b]

fixed that for you

Don't worry, I'll still be your friend 😉

Don't worry, I'll still be your friend

Even after having your back doors kicked in? 😉

Been there done it. Very similar type situation.
We are still good friends tho she is married to a friend of mine now 😉

It really shouldn't change things if you are both consenting and realise its a one off type event.

If she's a looker get stuck in. If she's not too hot, probably better keep her as a friend.

If she's not too hot, is she even worth having as a friend?

She must realise you are attracted to her, and she may be to you. Perhaps your un-realised relationship was a cause in both your divorces?

Perhaps it could be discussed objectively together. What will you regret more, knowing (and choosing either way) or never knowing?

Back in my single days, I've had a couple of friends who went from "friend" to "friend with extras" and back to "friend" again. I'd say it depends entirely on the friend, it's very difficult to predict what will happen.

One thing I would say though, is to be very clear up front as to whether you're proposing "hey, let's have a spot of horizontal jogging" or "you know, I've always loved you, shall we take our relationship to the next level." If she's expecting one and getting the other, it could be messy.

(Though if it's not messy, you're not doing it right)

As everyone has said, it may be fine, it may not. Only you know how you, she, your ex and her ex might react, and therefore if it's something that would be wise or not.

But, most importantly

[b]THIS THREAD IS USELESS WITHOUT PICS![/B]

If the opportunity arises to spend some romantic time hanging out the back of this mate of yours why are you even asking??

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Change? Yes. Ruin? Not necessarily...

Yes

[i]Don't worry, I'll still be your friend

Even after having your back doors kicked in
[/i]

my doors are always open 😉

Get drunk on a night out together, see what happens.
But not too drunk, or not much will happen if brewer's droop sets in!

Why this never happens to me? Where are my good hot female friends when I need them? 🙄

CharlieMungus - Member
why not settle for a bit of fingering?

PMSL 😆

Go for it! She might even like it up the tea towel holder.

I've 'done' a few friends (although not at the same time unfortunately) in my past and it's never affected our relationships, if you are good enough friends you'll be able to tell them its just for fun anyway.

My of my friends with extras is still one of my best mates and always will be

rOcKeTdOg - Member
my doors are always open

Hmmm - best you be careful about your back door 😉

Go for it. Just be cool about it and everything will be good.

Thought this might be about the love that dare not speak its name (except on forums on that there internet) between geetee and dave.

Get stuck in there - as someone said up there, better to regret the things you did than the things you didn't. Unless she's minging, obviously

Cougar - Member
Back in my single days, I've had a couple of friends who went from "friend" to "friend with extras" and back to "friend" again. I'd say it depends entirely on the friend, it's very difficult to predict what will happen.

One thing I would say though, is to be very clear up front as to whether you're proposing "hey, let's have a spot of horizontal jogging" or "you know, I've always loved you, shall we take our relationship to the next level." If she's expecting one and getting the other, it could be messy.

(Though if it's not messy, you're not doing it right)

+1

"Fukbuddies 'r' Us". 8)

Get some rohypnol in her drink. That way you get the sex and she'll not remember it so will stay friends with you. After all, it's not your perspective on the friendship that will change after you've had sex.

I think you should ride her and then start crying after it. Chicks love that sh!t

For me not doing it ruined a friendship, and I didn't even get a ride out of it.

I didn't sleep with my mates fiance when she asked & now she hates me 🙄

Any Holes a goal 😆

[i]Go for it! She might even like it up the tea towel holder.[/i]

PMSL! I'm 54 & have never heard that one before!! 😆

Dickyboy - Member

I didn't sleep with my mates fiance when she asked & now she hates me

After the engagement 😯 I was supposed to be their best man so thought I held the trump card...till she managed to get him to marry her in secret 😡 mind you the hating me bit is probably more to do with me finally finding the courage to tell him bout 10 months into their marriage...

It entirely depends on your and the friend's attitudes towards each other, friendship and sex. Don't ask us, we don't know any of those things 🙂

only you can make the choice, but when you are on your death bead what will you wish you had done?

on my death bed I'll be mainly wishing I'd take up the kind offer from two 19yo college students - one of them was my slightly ac/dc girlfriend at the time 😯 as they say youth is wasted on the young

Depends on how good a friend your friend is. A girl who worked in my local asked me out for a drink, which is all it was, and we continued like that for several years, until one night we slept together. She backed off a bit but we kept seeing one another for a drink now and then until one night a goodnight kiss turned to full-on sex and we started sleeping together for around a year. Then we felt it wasn't really going anywhere so went back to just drinking friends and that's how it stands around ten years later, and oddly enough I've just got in from a pleasant evening in her company in Bath where she now lives. If sex messes up a friendship then I don't think the person was a real friend in the first place. I'm still really good friends with most of my ex-girlfriends; went to the weddings of three of them.

What happens if one person wants to go back to being "friends" and the other is hooked on the sex?

Do it and spider man her. If she smiles your onto a winner 🙂

Dickyboy, how do you live with yourself? <shakes head>

spider man her

<Thought about it, got it, wished I hadn't thought about it>