Forum menu
if she's so into suprises, how do you know what it was going to be?
Because it is/was next weekend so I was told to keep it free.
I reserve my B'day to be the one day where I revert to being a child, I organised a BBQ last year and my mates got me loads of stuff from the pound shop and we ended up shooting foam darts at each other in my garden wering dinosaur masks whilst getting hammered.
Back to work next day, suit and tie go on, 364 subsequent days of maintaining a dignified mask and never talking about my private life.
Surely I'm allowed one day a year?
I just remembered (still brought on an involuntary shudder) the missus getting 'me' a goat for an african family one christmas. While I can appreciate this as an excellent altruistic gesture, the selfish part of me thought 'this is s**t, I wanted the latest grand theft auto'.
Get her to book you both in to the STW weekender, spending a weekend together but doing something you love instead - your birthday after all 🙂
Donk - that is genius, pure genius!
I am hugging my monitor in gratitude.
Just to really p*ss you off:
It's my wife's 40th next week. To celebrate (this was her idea!) we are going to Spain for 10 days where I will be riding my bike and she will be chilling / doing what she wants. The only rule is I can't ride on her actual birthday!
Sorry if this has already been asked - only read the first page as at work, but how did she get everyone to chip in? Did no-one say "ooo - hang on, that may not be a great gift as Matt's already a carpenter..."?
The only rule is I [s]can't[/s] [b][i]can[/i][/b] ride on her [b][i]on her[/i][/b] actual birthday!
There. Fixed that for you 🙂
"a goat for an african family"
I got one of those. The african family weren't happy as they live in a 1st floor flat in Croydon.
igmc.
Where the **** does does everyone get off in thinking someone who has trained as a carpenter (wears a suit and tie to work, so thinking probably does not actually do it for a living) which (different to a cabinet maker) is all to do with electrical rip saws, planes, jig saws etc and weaving willow? It's about as similar a riding a bike and juggling!
PJ- my guess is that they just followed her lead- she says "he really wants this" they just follow for an easy life.
A policy which I have adheered to for many years on the understanding I get to go out on my bike sporadically.
Convert- ah, the voice of experience. From your previous posts can I come on a course with you instead?
I posted someplace back- yes I trained as a carpenter and joiner as I felt it was important to have a trade skill in life, but make my £s working for the Police. I fill my spare time doing carpentry jobs for free for needy causes and mates. Did I mention I also volunteer with the scouts teaching woodcraft?
In principle I can see her thinking, it's just a years worth of hints, plain old asking and spoonfeeding via links to webpages was hoped to have done the job.
You sound unhappy. 🙁
PM,
I have to say, I'm with your missus - if you're an 'outdoor' kind chap like a lot of mtb'ers seem to be, her train of thought makes total sense. Traditional woodcraft skills like hand hewing that you won't know about - weekend in the woods together round a fire - sounds great.
if she'd booked a weekend shopping somewhere, I'd be gutted for you.
you sound a bit closed minded to me.
Paul
I am with the OP on this - he is a carpenter so why learn how to do carpentry? A bit odd really, especially as he hinted about what he would like.
Think you need to sort things out a bit on the domestic front. Always important to make some compromises in a relationship but also important that you get to do what you enjoy. Think you need to be a lot clearer about your expectations and make sure you understand hers as well.
I am with the OP on this - he is a carpenter so why learn how to do carpentry? A bit odd really, especially as he hinted about what he would like.
Willow chair making is not carpentry. 🙄
it's traditional woodcraft skills in a wood, not carpentry. She's trying to pick something that's totally 'him' and join in. very selfless on her part. the OP says he's into woodcraft but would hate her present of doing it with her.
gutted for her.
More than happy to have you in - just off to the workshop now to veneer up the birds eye maple fascias for the cupboards doors for my new bike mobile /campervan.
If you really do fancy a course in the future though try this place - to declare an interest I've just been added on the board of trustees but it is truly exceptional what they teach. [url= http://www.barnsley-furniture.co.uk ]Barnsley Workshop[/url]. It's a registered charity intended to keep the traditional skills alive, paid for by selling the (very expensive) pieces they make. Whilst most of what they do is teach apprentices on 5-7yr apprenticeships, they do also have some (much shorter) fee paying places.
Willow chair making is not carpentry
Okay, so not directly carpentry but as Matt said in the OP he is a trained carpenter so clearly feels it is a very similar skill.
Very, very funny....... I just spat coffee all over my keyboard..... so sort of thank you!
If you hadn't sorted it out...
I would've suggested playing Dolly Parton - D I V O R C E all the way there in the car.
Okay, so not directly carpentry but as Matt said in the OP he is a trained carpenter so clearly feels it is a very similar skill.
I've just done some pie-charts....
I also kind of get the feeling that he is more disappointed that his wife doesn't understand him as well as he would hope.
A couple of years ago we were sat having a curry and I mentioned to my wife that I would really like to do a curry cooking training course sometime. She almost burst into tears as she had just booked one for me for my birthday some three months later - so she knows and understands what I like without me having to say anything.
I kinda feel that the OP would like his wife to understand him in a similar way.
I've just done some pie-charts....
Lah Lah Lah! I'm not listening!
Practical Matt, the way I see it you've two options.
Either you can speak to her, gently and nicely, saying that you're not sure you want this as a birthday present. BUT you have to have a decent alternative option for her, and it has to involve both of you.
Or you can go along with it, BUT you have to change your attitude towards the gift. Chances are it will be a really nice weekend, and if you go along with an open mind then you'll get lots from it. It might sound crap, but give it a fair go.
One thing I would say - you really [b]have to[/b] tell her how important mountain biking is to you, exactly as you have done to us at the beginning of this post.
Bunch of townies!
Did none of you lot spend your youth whittling with penknives, setting fire to stuff, climbing trees and drinking ale? Can't just be me! No fans of Ray Mears here??
/dispair/
Great thread - lucky no-ones around, they'd think I was mad for laughing so loudly.
I hope you love what's she's got you instead. Please tell me you really do want to learn how to ride a penny farthing.
Think yourself lucky she's given it some thought and got you something, mine doesn't bother unless I draw up a list for her.
A friend of mine told her hubby she wouldn't give him ideas for Christmas presents and that he should use his imagination.
The following year he got a full and detailed list from her 🙂
Think yourself lucky......
Every rule has an exception, the rule in this case being 'something is better than nothing'.
That truly is the most rubbish gift I've ever heard of, I'm thinking you should divorce her anyway now.
[i]I'm thinking you should divorce her anyway now.[/i]
+1 😆
What I'd do - get up really early on your birthday and sneak out on your bike. All day. Sorted.
get the feeling that he is more disappointed that his wife doesn't understand him as well as he would hope.
Got it in one, it's one part infuriating to one part upsetting.
She can second guess why I'm grining at a comment on TV from knowing my chain of thought so well and can suss out what I'm likely to do next when we're messing about. But can't take a hint for my Bday.
That and the most punching the air truly euforic emotions I feel are when I clear a massive drop off or just nail a perfect line on some single track is almost my dirty secret.
My bike will always be that funny heap of tubes in the cellar to her- no different from a model railway or a bonsai tree, but it's what makes me happy and all I want to do is be happy and share that happiness with her.
Well, my wife and I give each other rubbish presents on a regular basis. I buy her lingerie that she never wears (even if she chose it herself, and claimed to like it in the shop) and last birthday she bought be a jigsaw (a puzzle, not a woodworking tool).
Ho hum ...
[i]last birthday she bought me a jigsaw[/i]
What was the picture?
PM, can you really not see why she thought it was a great idea?
pjb, yeah I do whichi s why I bit my lip and vented online, it was a very sweet gesture, but ultimatley an unwelcome busman's holiday.
I give up all my riding time to do woodwork so she gets me the chance to do more with the only time I thought I could garuntee I could spend on my bike. She's no bike widdow- the last time I found time to ride was February and that was during the day using my Flexitime.
I was just stunned at a years worth of hints tips and outright asking went unheeded.
write a list next time.its what i do.prices and shop details also. id like to be "suprised" by the correct size seat clamp that i need in the correct colour of anodizing, but frankly that is never going to happen.
she has asked me to get her a "really romantic gesture" for her birthday!im cacking it already, i struggle with her rough list, but thats just far to open a sugestion... 😯
"really romantic gesture"
Sleep in the damp patch for a change?
odannboy- there's a storm a'comin 🙂
Wow lucky Mr MC was up for my 30th birthday trip to Morocco .. there was no way I was NOT MTBing in a foreign country for my birthday! He didn't pay for it I just told him i was going, thank goodness we are on the same wavelength! After 7 years of birthday ans Christmas' I think I have every bike part/clothing that I could possibly have mmmmm maybe willow chair making it is for his 40th 😉 Thanks goodness I have a man who knows what I like.
Think sometimes he wishes he had a hobby which I didn't like (MTbing, motorbiking) .. however doing shift work he does still get time to disappear out alone.
This thread is brilliant though,makes me think of some cr** presents we have receieved from people over the years.
MrFC is a firefighter, and one xmas there was a Firefighters photo calendar under the tree from his Mum. I grabbed it off him when he opened it, saying it must be for me!
But no...it was for him...his Mum was quite upset! 8)
Apparently she'd traipsed all over town trying to find it!!!
So, like a dutiful son, he took it to work and put it on the outside of his locker!!! 😆
Hey Mr MC got one of these once (similar, scroll down)
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=400103244900
And I got a traffic officer dressed like a s**t in tarty skirt etc!
Thing is I hate dogs (how hideous are they) and I HATE having policey stuff around the house!!! Plus I was concerned that the person who bought these items was implying something about me! I think they are in the attic, but looking at ebay I should look at getting some cash for them.
Oh and we got one of those plastic bike covers for £7 .. thing is we have a garage!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Random!!
Another friend once bought his wife a TomTom for Christmas and she wasn't that impressed.
Never mind he thought, she'll love the next present.
It was a LadyShave.
'Happy Christmas darling - you can't read maps and have hairy legs'
🙂
Munqe-chick...NICE!!! 8)
Do they do firefighter doggies???? 😉 (Glad I'm not the only one who doesn't like dogs, or cats...)
Thing is...MrFC's mum just couldn't work out what was wrong with giving Paul the calendar!!
Topless, pumped up men, with shaved, oiled chests with ridiculously placed hoses??? 😆