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 DT78
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Reading through a massive list doesn't appear to be the most fun of approaches....any other ideas?


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:29 pm
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First pets name with mothers maiden iirc?


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:30 pm
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Our Daughters name is Alexandra, and when we looked at names that if shortened would still sound nice.
Most people call her Alex in which she is very happy with.


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:34 pm
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Sandy Remington.

Works for both boy and girl. Genius.


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:35 pm
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My parents wrote a list each, without conferring. Compared lists, and there were only 2 names on both - mine and my brother's names 🙂


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:36 pm
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Listening to The Cult. But my wife preferred it as Evie. Her twin - we had no idea until after she was born and just decided in the delivery suite.


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:36 pm
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Pick half a dozen or so of varying styles, Wait til child appears then see which one seems to fit. Worked for us


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:37 pm
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Sort of like Duane... we had a white board and each just basically over months jotted down ones we liked. But the other person could strike through ones they didn't like. We ended up with a couple for each sex and then made the final decision after the birth. I'm in Canada though and you legally can't leave the hospital until the child is named where as I think in the UK you get a bit more time?


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:38 pm
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My three sons all have proper solid names, and each have three of them.


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:39 pm
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*hacks DT78's hotmail account*

I remember it being quite hard work coming to any sort of agreement (with the added problem of choosing something pronouncable by speakers of two languages), but when he was born we just knew the right name. So don't sweat it too much.


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:39 pm
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Asked our parents for names that had been used in our families in previous generations.


 
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Ours were ones we liked, no big list looking. They should not be names to be shortened (our Ben corrected his teacher last week when she called him Benjamin - I am Ben, on my birth certificate he informed her... ) last one was not to have odd/sill combination of name or initials.


 
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My parents wrote a list each, without conferring. Compared lists, and there were only 2 names on both - mine and my brother's names

That was a lucky coincidence!


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:41 pm
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son is named after his great grandpa, from iceland via aberdeen.
daughter is named after wifes great granma.


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:45 pm
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We followed a family tradition. My mothers side of the family are Brahmin priests, we consulted the Vedic astrologer that gives the first letter(or sound really) according to their chart. Certainly helped narrow things down!


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:46 pm
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in the UK you get a bit more time

42 days to register the birth, although interestingly you can register as "unnamed" then you have up until their first birthday to re-register with the name.

Wife's parents are Indian and I didn't want months of debating names before the birth so we did the astrology system where you give the date/time and place of birth and you get a couple of letter/sounds (phonetic) to start the name with.

Not entirely sure we got a complying name (after much back and forth with family) but one we're happy with.


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:51 pm
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the alcoholic drink that led to their conception


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:55 pm
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make some noises to keep the wife happy and then just accept whatever name she comes up with.


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 10:57 pm
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Wrote lists then employed four simple tests:

- discard any names that result in dodgy/silly/amusing initials.

- discard any names that could be mistaken for the name of a pet

- discard any names that you can imagine Jeremy Kyle saying.

- The Doorstep Test: shout name in your best regional accent as if standing on the doorstep and calling in your child from the estate e.g. "Hoooow, Shard-Don-aaay! Yer tea's oot!". Discard any names that sound too natural.


 
Posted : 05/03/2015 11:08 pm
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My 2 1/2 year daughter old chose my sons name whilst my wife and I were discussing his name.

She saw our neighbour over the road and said "Tom window".

We dropped the window though.


 
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I set some basic rules for the wife:

1) Must be able to be shortened to one syllable, but have a longer/posher form that they can use when they're arrested.
2) Must be vaguely British and been around for a while.
3) Will be a great name when they're sitting in the corner of the bar of the local when they're 70.

My boys are called Fred, Wilf and Sid.


 
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Format is.. An alcohol, a monarch and another alcohol ..
Middle daughter is Stella Elizabeth Rose


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 12:08 am
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Conor (mc cloud), from the clan mc cloud 😉


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 12:25 am
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My wife and I read through a few books, noting ones we liked and laughing at the ridiculous ones. We enjoyed it.

It [i]was[/i] tricky for us though. Ever heard the expression, 'you don't realise how many people you dislike until you have to name a child'? It's very true and really hard for two teachers.

We didn't want to name them after parents, grand parents etc. as you'll leave someone out / someone'll wonder why you chose one over the other. In the end we got Patrick (boy #1) and Tiernan (boy #2).


 
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I am trying to convince MrsDummy that "Stephen is a good unisex name which is both timeless and classless".

It is also my all-time favourite name for a dog.

If that fails, I am working on the theory that all the best names are already taken by country and western singers.

🙂


 
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Ours is due in 2 weeks. George Thomas.

We lived on Des Voeux Road in Hong Kong, where he was conceived. Sir George William Des Voeux was a former governor of Hong Kong ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Des_Vœux), hence George.

He will be born in Singapore, which was founded by Sir Thomas Stamford Raffles ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stamford_Raffles), hence Thomas.

Made our job a bit easier and fortunately we liked both names. He could have been Des Voeux Raffles of course which sounds like a great name for the best in show at Crufts but might have caused him a few problems at school!


 
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"Raffles" is a magnificent name! 🙂


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 3:41 am
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Name of an ex that you still have a thing for.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 4:42 am
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My next born would be called Thor. Seriously.

My sons middle name is Fox. First name Zachary.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 5:26 am
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For the first child, we had all the books given to us (they are useless) and tried all the websites. Jude made a list, but I couldn't come up with anything.
I downloaded the list of names registered in Scotland in the last year or two. Over a couple of evenings I deleted all of the bad ones and was left with a list of 4. Two were the same name with different spelling, one (I had genuinely forgot) was the name of a very short term ex, and I can't remember the other. Jude had one of the names on her list too (with the better spelling, harder to mispronounce) so we went for that one.
Child 2, we updated the liar and added northern Ireland and English resisters. Only two names this time, and one of them wasn't that great. Fortunately Jude had picked the good name too.
I have no idea how Jude picks names, but we have similar tastes.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 7:40 am
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Took a while narrowing down options with our first. When twins were on the way we handed over responsibility to our then nearly 3 years old Lucy. It wasn't just an abdication of responsibility but an attempt to make sure she felt part of everything.


 
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If that fails, I am working on the theory that all the best names are already taken by country and western singers.

You should go for Waylon then.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 7:46 am
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no books.

first (son) called after my father & grandfather with a good scottish middle name (now his known name)

second (daughter) with good scottish name we both agreed on along with a couple of middle names for my aunt, mother-in-law and my mother's name..


 
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The name is dependent on whether you live in a crappy council estate or nice posh middle class suburbia.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 7:49 am
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the alcoholic drink that led to their conception

How are Mad Dog and 20/20?


 
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The only one of my wife's list that I didn't hate....


 
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We had a few rules...

For me, no Irish names with difficult spellings. Hell, mine isn't even that difficult but with a strange spelling, pronunciation and an accent, it's been a bit of a pain in the arse living in the UK.

No former kings or queens (as first name).

No "everyday" names but with silly spellings.

No "Top Ten Names"...although whether we actually decided that or just didn't like any of them anyway, I can't quite remember.

Whether a diminutive name would be used for everyday use, fair enough, but birth cert would always have full name.


 
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First name my dad second his other grandad .


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 8:00 am
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Wife said a few names she liked.
I said yes or no to them.
Then kept saying 'no'.
Then said 'let's use the first one we both liked'.
Then told the registrar that name.

DrP


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 8:03 am
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I wanted to call our first boy Hercules or Telemachus but fortunately for the child i'm not in charge. Using the books we compiled a short list of 'normal' names and when he was born we employed the native American Indian tradition and named him after the first thing we saw*. He was born with one eye closed so became Jack.

Can't remember naming the second one but suppose we must have.

* Tall Man Crying didn't go with our surname.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 8:08 am
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If you're a traditional Highland Scot, it's dead easy. The list comes from your ancestors.

1st born male gets paternal grandfather's first name, 2nd gets maternal grandfather, then uncles. Ditto for girls/grandmothers.

Makes genealogy dead easy. 🙂


 
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With my boys we chose names that were unusual but don't sound like it and for my daughter we couldn't agree and in the end our oldest son chose a name for her. A tradition in my family is to give the middle name from the grandparents.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 8:30 am
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My sons name is Thomas. We chose this because neither Maddie of myself have ever met a bad Thomas and it can be abbreviated many ways to suit his personality as he grows.
My first daughter Molly was named after Molly from the Enid Blyton books such as the Far Away Tree.
Second daughter is Alice was going to be Sally until I remembered the trout up the road by the same name so we chose Alice purely on a bit of a whim but left registration until the last minute in case it didn't fit. It does.

I find choosing a name more difficult than deciding whether to have another child or not.


 
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First born, we spent absolutely ages crafting a name that we thought sounded lovely, was uncommon, didn't have comedy initials etc. Second born - it was more a case of 'oh that'll do' 😀


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 8:43 am
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We went on a cold wet walk in the lakes and worked through the alphabet. After an 8 hour bimble we had a short list of 3 for a boy & girl. We then spent the next 5 months not giving it much thought and then when it popped out it was a boy and 'Dylan' felt right.


 
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Golden Eye (with Sean Bean) on TV in delivery room, hence Sean.


 
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I thought it was tough actually - you want you kids to have a name which fits whichever pathway they take in life - heart surgeon or hairdresser.
We had a shortlist for girls and boys, then when she arrived took a couple of days to decide that she looked like an Amelia Grace.
We liked Amelia as she could make it either Millie or Amy when she's older (she's always been Millie to us)
When the second one came along, 'he' was always going to be Charles after my grandad, however when 'she' finally arrived she became Charlotte Louisa (Louisa being 2 x Great Grandmothers + one aunties names)


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 8:55 am
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All my friends seem to look at the top 20 baby names for the current year and then pick one from that.

Oliver, Joshua, Jack, Harry, Alfie, Thomas, William...


 
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3 weeks left until our first is due. We agonised over girls names as we were convinced it was going to be a girl. We had a shortlist of 3 - Sophie, Sophia or Autumn. It was all academic, it's a boy which was always going to be George after both of our grandfathers.

Still undecided on a middle name though.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 9:23 am
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Its all "Brant Richards" fault, Our son was named Zachary. In the early years of Mountain biking in the UK, Brant was a colourful Character on the circuit, talking late 80's here. He had an alias "Zak Tempest" The name stuck with us and our only son got that name. Don't think I have ever told Brant this. Its a while since I have seen him.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 9:24 am
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My wife informed me she was pregnant by giving me a book of "Baby names" when I got back from a snowboarding trip... studied the book, we both had originally liked what is probably the first name in the boy list.. but she was a teacher and it reminded her of a kid she didn't like! That almost meant most of the reasonably common names were out! But we did want something a bit out of the ordinary.
So we threw names at each other over time when they popped into our heads.
I was looking at our book shelf and a surname sprung out at me. "What about...?"
And it stuck. Works nicely too, for something a bit different.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 9:38 am
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Its all "Brant Richards" fault, Our son was named Zachary. In the early years of Mountain biking in the UK, Brant was a colourful Character on the circuit, talking late 80's here. He had an alias "Zak Tempest" The name stuck with us and our only son got that name. Don't think I have ever told Brant this. Its a while since I have seen him.

Whereas I looked in the book of Jewish names for 'our kid Zachary 😆


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 9:57 am
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Still undecided on a middle name though.

"Danger"


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 10:18 am
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I nodded and said "yes, whatever you want". As long as my daughter got my surname that was all that mattered to me. As it turns out Juniper was not a bad choice, I like it, it suits her and I don't think it's too "Jeremy Kyle" Feel free to correct me though.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 10:28 am
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Still undecided on a middle name though.

It should be a bit of fun or different.

Mine is dull as ****.

Anyone worried about 'bullying' - a kid will be bulled for having blonde hair, ginger hair, red cheeks, glasses, a big forehead, being the new kid, being weird, being smelly, having a holy jacket etc etc and EVERY boy at my school was known by their surname or a variation of the surname!


 
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my kids names have arabic meanings...
rayan...named after one of the gates of heaven that opens during the month of ramadan...he was born during ramadan
amelia hayah...beautiful life
iman abbas...faith and the name of the prophet mohammed's uncle (also means lion)


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 10:50 am
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I like Amelia 🙂


 
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Really very simple, my twins are named after my favourite film characters. They are called William and Edward.
How my wife never twigged on to Bill and Ted I will never know..... 😀


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 11:11 am
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Whereas I looked in the book of Jewish names for 'our kid Zachary

Yeah yeah! It was after you favourite show really.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 11:17 am
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We wanted somethin that had historical resonance, and because of our mixed European heritage (British, German, Ukrainian), wanted something that could translate easily and be recognised in different cultures.

So, for example, 'Nicholas'.

Growing up in Canada, I always found it funny when kids with interesting, dignified surnames, had first utterly meaningless given names or names that in no way corresponded with their surnames. So, for example, transferred use of Scottish surnames was common for first names, even when the kid's last name was something German like 'Hildebrandt' or Ukrainian like 'Kurelek'. 'Callum Hildebrandt' just sound funny to me.


 
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I have no idea but i scribbled a name down on a post it once from seeing it somewhere. It sat on my office wall for ages, we did a list of boys and girls none of which seemed to fit and I mentioned this one and my wife agreed. Same name as Bullhearts daughter as well strangely. Thats useless trivia.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 11:38 am
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Easy. I'm English, he's a Scot with an Mc in his surname. Traditional Scottish names appealed to me, he agreed so both of them have lovely Scottish names.


 
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got a kids name dictionary and lost the will to live at once we got to I
I sought inspiration from science and mathematics 🙂 and the odd film I liked. and no I didnt chose Debbie or Austin.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 11:45 am
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I looked at my music collection for inspiration and found an album called Isla by the Portico Quartet (good album it is too) and ran the idea past the wife. She really liked it (Isla not Portico Quartet) and it stayed at top of our list until she was born.


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 11:47 am
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I let my wife decide as long as I could pick the middle name. Our lovely daughter is very proud of being called Lily Kona Moran (I didn't get to choose the middle name for the second one).


 
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Wife got to choose first name for first child, I got to choose middle name.


 
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There's a few Islas in my daughter's year at school. I always assumed it was because the dads fancied Isla Fisher when they were younger. I know I did.


 
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I had certain "rules" I wanted to stick to, no ending in the "ey", "ie" sound, must be shortenable, mustn't be on the list of top 10 names, must be a "grown up" name not just a baby name

Mrs-g threw a million names out and we both sort of liked Ella, so to make it a shortenable version I suggested Eloise. Then to make it individual Mrs-g decided we would spell it Ellouise. No one calls her Ella, the Ellouise thing has sort of stuck.

Second one, wife was admanant that he was going to be a Jack, I hated the idea, then one day sat at home watching a certain HBO boxset about a borderline psychotic serial killer....."what do you think of Dexter?" and that was that.

Middle names after royalty


 
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years of debate and re-debate and starting again and flouncing and crying and lists, and arguing why I should have an equal opinion, but ultimately

The only one of my wife's list that I didn't hate....

was certainly true for child no.2


 
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I thought of a few, my wife didn't like. She thought of a few, I didn't like them. We forgot about it for a few months. Then when jr_bandito#1 was born she looked at him and said "he's a Samuel". So he is. Mainly Sam to us and his friends, Samuel to his teachers, Sammy to his brother and cousins

jr_bandito#2, I didn't really think about it, just let my wife have inspiration when he turned up. He's a William. Interestingly everyone calls him William (even himself) except me, I call him Will.

Neither names have any relevance to us as such, but both boys have middle names chosen after people who mean a lot to us.

Incidentally, my middle name is the one thing I hold against my parents. I bloody hate it.


 
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Choose something that can be shortened well and work back from there.


 
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Incidentally, my middle name is the one thing I hold against my parents. I bloody hate it.

crispin? 😉


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 1:57 pm
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Thanks for all the posts, useful stuff to think about

Quite like kona actually. Any other ideas of "acceptable" bike based names?

Based on my current stable,

Rose and Scott also work

Not so sure about gt, charge, genesis or Santa Cruz.....


 
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We went with the only name we both agreed on. Middle name was Mrs Danny's dad's name and I wasn't going to object to that.

We got there by basically just chatting through the various names we both liked until we ended up in agreement.


 
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Simple, my surname has 3 c's and a k so first name had to have none. I have a 10 letter surname so it had to be short. Looked up short girls names and Erin got picked by both me and the mrs.


 
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@dt78 - good idea, Stevens kinda works. But i don't think orange or DMR would go down well with the wife!


 
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Baby 1: Caden-Blake - took 6 weeks, still arguing on the way to reg office, double barrelled the first name, gets called the 2nd part officially, in law influence to blame,

Baby 2 (different mother from 1, 3 and 4): Harry, only retarded name she didn't pick and i ran with it

Baby 3: Fletcher no idea where it came from

Baby 4: Carter she dreamt it, i liked it (unstoppable sex machine ain't he)


 
Posted : 06/03/2015 8:51 pm
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Went on holiday to Germany. Lady that owned the hotel was called Heidi. She was hot.

Wife liked the name, decided we should put all out names into a list & compare the list - anything that matched would succeed.

I put Heidi on the list - that was all

My wife put a dozen down inc Heidi

deal done.

It helped it wasn't in the top 95 names at the time, wasn't a 'family' name and wasn't british origin


 
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my surname has 3 c's and a k.... I have a 10 letter surname

Intriguing. Can we have the cryptic clue?


 
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The first, I had no input with, as wasn't with the current wife when she was born, but Holly is a sensible name My first child was spotted in the scan as 'possibly' a boy, so we had Thomas agreed upon and Edie, I liked for a girl in case the scan was wrong, but that was open to debate, nearer the time. Anyway, we had a boy !! and looked at this shrivelled up beautiful baby ( everyone thinks their babies are beautiful, when actually they aren't really) and decided he wasn't a Thomas, he is actually a Christopher 8O. So, even to the point of birth, things can change. We agreed his name within an hour our his first breath and we never changed it. Holly is now 21 and Christopher is nearly 12. Time is a scary thing...........


 
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