[Closed] He's dying..

one of life's certainties mate.............keep your chin up.

but he IS special to you as my Pa was to me

feel free honestly

feel free

SD

Yeah, I know.
Just thinking out loud.

not a great hero, not rich, not special

Modest you mean?

His Royal Marine Commando tattoos are faded now, his adventures are fading too.

Once a Marine always a Marine.

Chin up fella.

Sorry to hear your news. Been through similar with my old man.

It's a harsh time, so say what you have to say and don't bottle it!

I'm the prop for my dad, his brother, and I have to hold it all in so he can cope. I deal with this stuff for a job, but need to let it out somewhere..

not special

He's obviously quite special to you.

Make the most of the time left now. There'll be plenty time for reflection later.

I deal with this stuff for a job, but need to let it out somewhere..

His Royal Marine Commando tattoos are faded now, his adventures are fading too.

His adventures will never fade...

Crikey - make sure you look after yourself too.

His tattoos just struck a cord, he got them in Malaya, one on each forearm, after being shot in an ambush. The way they have faded just seemed apt, you can only tell what they were if you knew.
Gave me his green beret when I was a little kid.

Crying now. Night.

we are here.

No harm it letting go on here I did with my Dad earlier in the year and the support was great and helped.

It's harder when it's your own but your family will be looking at you for strength, remember the good times and chat to him you know the drill.

My sympathies.

He was a Marine, so he IS very special in my book! 🙂

Marine = hero in my book just for getting through the selection procedure.

As long as he was happy - there will be many memories you don't know about. Just be there for him x

I was also a prop for my father and his brother when my uncle died. He lives on, as will yours.

The Roman poet Horace once said, "I have built a monument more lasting than bronze."
He was saying that his poetry would last far longer than he would himself. As long as a bronze statue.

Your uncle's memory will outlast any statue.

not a great hero, not rich, not special.

His Royal Marine Commando tattoos are faded now, his adventures are fading too.

Hero? Special? Yes, he is. His adventures and stories will only fade if you let them. Tell them to others and publish them if you can. That way he and his memory will never die.

Thank him for us if you can.

And thank you Crikey's uncle for what you have done.

His tattoos just struck a cord, he got them in Malaya, after being shot in an ambush.

Was that during Malaya communist insurgency?

Tell him he is a hero in my book. Thank him for me too.

My father used to tell me his story while serving in Malaya. He too was ambushed with two truck load of his colleagues all perished except him with another injured colleague who tried to fight their way out but both were later captured, however the communists let both of them go because my father was carrying his wounded colleague. (he was also in the Korean war btw)

You have come to the best place imaginable for support. As daft as we often are, when my Dad was fighting for his life and I was in tatters STW folk supported me big time.
If I, somehow, can be of help, just let me know. My email addy is in the profile, feel free.
One last thing, if you want to cry, cry. Don't hold the tears back, cry, howl, whatever, just let your emotions flow. And when he's no longer around raise a proper glass of properly good stuff to him. Just as you are for Him now, just as you are for your Dad, They will be there for you should you need them.
I won't say "Good Luck!", you won't be lucky. I say "Be humane.".

No idea how big a part the booties played in your uncle's life Crikey, but chances are that there are a few Marines who might want to say bye bye so it might be worth letting the RMA know?

Just a thought, like. I'm sure you have enough on your plate without some muppet on a forum offering advice.

Hope you and the rest of the family are coping ok.

Doesn't matter much whether he's special to the rest of us - as long as he's special to those he cares about, that'll do him, I'd guess

Tell him that he is & say your goodbyes. I'm dreading the day I actually have to, though

You loved him, therefore he will live on.

Its a reminder to us all to live for the day and make the most of your loved ones and forget all the hatred. I've been meaning to sort a fishing trip out with my old man for years.... I'm on the phone tomorrow.

Look after yourself, you sound like a great person too. Hope it makes sense soon. I'm wishing you well.

Power to you crikey!

My Dad's take on life and death, before I sadly lost my Mum:

"We are only here for a look around"

Thanks all, kind words..

Chin up fella, spend as much time with him as you can til the end, when my old man was in his last days I sat with him til the end so he wasn't on his own when it happened, keep his memory alive in yourself and he will never truly be gone,

All the best mate.

I feel for you mate. If you have anything to say to your Uncle, then use the time you have. My Dad died suddenly and i didn't get the chance.....

Be there for your family.

Remember the good times once he's gone, but keep the visits up and chat (to him, even if he can't chat back much) when you're there.

Tell him what he's meant to you and all the family. And if it's not been decided already, you'll have to ask the (awful) question about funeral/cremation, what sort of service he'd like. Had to bring this up with my father; I was dreading it, but it was something he wanted to discuss.

Marines are heros always in life and more so in death. Uncles can be heros too. x

Best wishes to you. And thanks, Crikey's uncle.

He served his country and saw action.

In my eyes hes done something with his life.

All the best.

Sad news indeed, would second what has already been said, get in touch with the RMA, he will have mates who will want to say goodbye and stuff so give them a call. He is also entitled to have is coffin draped with the Union flag as he earned that right. Good luck to you and your family.

Crikey, Hope things feel a little better today.

I phoned my dad after pulling some strings with a mate at work to sort some salmon fishing on the Cumbrian Derwent. Dad didn't sound that excited (that's normal), but he will have to sit there having a son-dad day (he's fished all his life and I've no idea) and he will love it. I'll love it more as I'll have him for the day without all his usual distractions and I'll be raising all the things that need to be said.