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As for the emotional side of things, I
think that is partly the consequence of
the internet and electronic
communication in general. We are used
to swift communication via email.
Good point here. I've read so much about the stress caused at both ends of an interaction because of the expectations created by the "always on" culture we now live in. People almost expect that because they are available and online at a given moment, the other party should be too....
edlong - no, no problem with that. I was referring to general rather pointless criticisms that appear out of nowhere on some posts.
Omnipresent on both pages double-post glitch, I see.
joao3v16 - Member
The British are well known for being world-class whiners, and the internet is just another outlet for our national pastime ...
Thing is the Brits are known as not complaining anywhere near as much as they maybe should do either, and nowhere near as much as our European cousins...
Thing is the Brits are known as not complaining anywhere near as much as they maybe should do either, and nowhere near as much as our European cousins...
Ah! I said we were a nation of whiners. We're very good at whining at each other about things, generally moaning and grumbling.
Although as you say, we're rubbish at actually complaining to the appropriate people when it's justified.
The Italians I worked with in Germany were a right set of whingers.
A good laugh though.
Ah! I said we were a nation of whiners. We're very good at whining at each other about things, generally moaning and grumbling.Although as you say, we're rubbish at actually complaining to the appropriate people when it's justified.
Good point! I regularly have to pull the guys up at work for mindless whining among themselves, when the same effort could be put into resolving things......
🙂
I am intrigued by a noisy (small) minority on here who appear to feel that they need to jump on otherwise normal, helpful threads in a quite critical way (Why did you do that / why did you post as you should know the answer / I am right etc) which seems to me to be somewhat rude and unnecessary. I have the feeling that were this conversation going on in say a pub amongst relative strangers, they may not be quite so bolshy (can I use that word?).So my conclusion is that the internet/this forum seems to empower a few people to be quite critical and/or a little full of their own view of themselves that direct contact thankfully inhibits. Probably not an earth-shattering conclusion but I am really quite curious watching it.
Perfectly exemplified in this comment, which was completely unnecessary:
Congratulations all. You've created the snootiest, ****iest, least self-aware, middle class thread ever on STW. And that is pretty bloody fiercely contested!!! Give yourself an additional stroke on the chins, as you cock your head to one side, and thoughtfully put on the Prog Rock of your choice
Such comments are made by those with nothing constructive to offer, but need any attention, so they make a deliberately provocative comment; 'look at me look at me! Give me attention! Me Me Me!'.
It worked, too. 😆
No big deal though. We all have our foibles and flaws. It's Life.
Good point! I regularly have to pull the guys up at work for mindless whining among themselves, when the same effort could be put into resolving things......
If only you practiced what you preached.
Expressing feelings - that is psychologically healthy.
Not coping when others express feelings - that is the issue.
Perspective on what's important in life is a rare thing. Some people are so busy complaining about the little things that they forget they're actually alive...
Years ago I worked in customer services at Bupa - dealing sometimes with some very seriously ill people/relatives of very seriously ill people (e.g. just been diagnosed with cancer)
As a rule, those who were in the most serious situations (like making sure their cancer treatment would be paid for) were the nicest. The whingiest were those who's monthly direct debit had been taken out a day early...
I think t'internet just gives the whingy people the ability to broadcast it to the world instead of just taking it out on some poor customer service bod... so you hear more of their whining...
Expressing feelings - that is psychologically healthy.Not coping when others express feelings - that is the issue.
I think the key thing here is [i]empathy[/i]. Certainly, some people on here are quick to express their own views, but somewhat reticent to accept that others can do similar. They will have a rant about something, but then seem somewhat put out if someone else posts an alternative/opposing view.
The thread about the anti-cyclist car driver demonstrates this beautifully.