[Closed] grown up kids ..... What age should they be out the family home ?

Does she have a job?

davidtaylforth - Member
Does she have a job?

Yep !

If I have kids I shall be evicting them at 18.

I've told my daughter that she'll be out at the age of 18. She'll likely come home one day and find the locks have changed and there are some strangers living in the house.... 😀

I'm seeing lots of older "children" still living at home until they are in their 30's. Generally, the marriage age is rising, mortgage deposits are getting bigger and there seems to be some sort of assumption that one can only move out into bought accommodation. When I were a lad, it was all about flat-sharing.

Start pissing in her shoes once a day, she may get the hint.

My mate has just just bought his first house and is moving out of his folks home for the first time... In 32years

I know people that have given adult children deadlines to be out of the family home by.

getting harder and harder these days for young people - however if youre offering financial help and she has a job then she should be snapping your arm off!

IMHO if you dont make them some will stay.
think how much easier and cheaper it is to stay with you than do all the hard work for herself- someone i know just charged commercial rates to his kids at 23 -
the first one said "but I could get rent my own place for that"
Dad " what a good idea why not run with it"
Good luck i suspect there is no subtle way to do this

When I were a lad, it was all about flat-sharing.

Yeah...don't kids share anymore? I know they share at Uni/college an' all that, but I couldn't bloody wait to get out and slum it for a bit (I did suffer a bit of cabin-fever having had to live at home while at uni though).

shuttup you dont have kids 😉

Yeah...don't kids share anymore?

I share a house. Its dead good.

My cousin has only just moved out of his parents house - he's approaching 50

I walked out when i was 23, after a family row, on christmas day, never went back, and never slept the night there again.

2 people i know, 1 bought a house opposite his mums, and still goes there for his mum to wash his clothes, and watch the tv, the other one, still at home at 29.

12. 👿

😉 @ JY

when can you work a proper job?

16.

Right. Get yer own ****in hoose then. Bye.

And I expect to be invited round for dinner on a regular basis too.

Thanks.

kids are for life just not for 18 years, in most country's familys live together... what a silly idea

Edit: i dont live at home but my family pays the rent..

I walked out when i was 23, after a family row, on christmas day, never went back, and never slept the night there again.

2 people i know, 1 bought a house opposite his mums, and still goes there for his mum to wash his clothes, and watch the tv, the other one, still at home at 29.

I know a guy still at home with his mum at 43!

That's just wrong!

Zedsdead - Member
I walked out when i was 23, after a family row, on christmas day, never went back, and never slept the night there again.
2 people i know, 1 bought a house opposite his mums, and still goes there for his mum to wash his clothes, and watch the tv, the other one, still at home at 29.

I know a guy still at home with his mum at 43!

That's just wrong!

This is how most of the world lives, have you ever been to India??

I moved out at 18 to go to uni, spent most holidays away so didnt dealt live at home during the holidays.

I moved home when i went to work with the company sponsoring my doctorate. I lasted 18 months before i hd to move out. My choice.

I love my parents, but i couldn't move back in, no money saving is worth losing my sanity over!

depends on circumstances i think

in governments eyes your still a dependant through uni when it comes to grants etc - all parental means tested

i stayed at home till i finished uni at 22.

soon as i finished and got a job i moved out .....

i moved back in for a short period between flats as i had no where else to go - i stayed for about 4 days and moved into my van !!!!

parents are fine we get on well - they are for life - but not to live with !

This is how most of the world lives,

They'll be moving out to go to uni at 18 and will not be allowed back.

it depends what your'e parents are like really, miss living at home coz my mum dont buy me weed for cutting the lawn 🙁

there seems to be some sort of assumption that one can only move out into bought accommodation. When I were a lad, it was all about flat-sharing

Yeah, even if they don't expect to move into "bought", they expect not to have to share a rented flat or house. They're spoilt tw*ts.*

*and they expect central heating, washing machines, fridge freezers - we had none of that! Ice on the inside of the windows, I tell thee...

I got booted out by my mum at 17 as she didn't think I'd get on with the bloke she was about to marry! Luckily my dad had a mate on the council and I managed to get a flat. when i turned 18 I got a credit card and royaly screwed my finances up.

Mum came to the rescue and bailed me out and I moved back home on the understanding that I would pay my way , I paid a quarter of everything but the mortgage which at the time (1988) was anywhere between £140 and £210 a month.

I got a 2nd job in a pub and worked all the hours I could and paid mum everything back in 6 months(just short of £5000) 1 month later I'd saved the deposit for a mortgage and moved out.

FWIW I think Junkyards mate has the right idea.

Junkyard - Member
This is how most of the world lives,

and yet your parents pay for you to not live with them.....

I moved out to go to Uni. I was 17. I've never slept in their house since.

Don't get me wrong, I do get on with them very well, but I couldn't [i]live[/i] there.

our boy moved out 3 weeks ago, 23. must say things are very quiet now and there seems to much more room about the house but we would have no issues about him moving back, he's good company and no bother.

Bet some of you would make or are great parents........ 🙄

Yeah, even if they don't expect to move into "bought", they expect not to have to share a rented flat or house. They're spoilt tw*ts.*

would you want youre daughter in the same house as some random male that she dont know, i ****ing well wouldn't... same goes for a cheap flat, as there normally in crappy areas...

Start charging her market rates for everything (inc washing machine, dishwasher etc.) and bolt the doors at 10pm. She'll soon piss off. If that doesn't work, tell her to mtfu and sort herself out - hints have passed (but she'll always be your baby girl won't she).

wow there are some ****ing awful parents on this forum

and some kids still sponging from mummy and daddy

Junkyard - Member
and some kids still sponging from mummy and daddy

and one day all that land will be mine:)

We were charged "lodgings" as soon as we left uni and had jobs. Mum put the money aside (unbeknown to us) and gave it back to us when we both got our own places, for furniture etc. Good way of doing it , IMO.

Hmmm difficult one.

Why can't you have 'quality time on your own' then? Who/what is stopping you?

Are you subsidising your daughter? If you are then don't!

C_G
[s]Mum of adult children who misses them but wouldn't have them living with me, oh no[/s] 😉

then again its a two way street, there is no way in hell id let my parents live in a old peoples home, people that are to busy with there own lives to look after the people that gave you life ant worth pissing on in my opinion..

ilovemygears - Member

then again its a two way street, there is no way in hell id let my parents live in a old peoples home, people that are to busy with there own lives to look after the people that gave you life ant worth pissing on in my opinion..

It's not as simple as that.

 

Mate of mine earns at least double my salary. He texted me today to tell me he was looking at a house.

If he gets it [i]really [/i]quickly, he might have managed to move out of his parents whilst he's still in his 30s. But I doubt it.

Hmm.

I was a 'late leaver' at 24. Been twenty yrs now and i'd never go back even though i love my parents. In that 20yrs i've had £100 of my dad towards the water bill when i was unemployed but thats it, i paid my own rent and later raised my own deposit for a mortgage etc.
Thats the way it should be.

My sister on the other hand (only 3 yrs younger than me) has had handouts all the way, and is now such a spoilt brat my own father has disowned her.

Who would want to share a house with a bunch of selfish, squabbling, smelly, untidy twenty somethings when you can share an all mod cons full fridge one with mature understanding 'housemates'.

Always got on with my parents but left at 16 because they treated me like I was 12. Went back at 20 but could only stand it for long enough to save a deposit.

I know a 53-year-old who's still not moved out.