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How do you deal with supposedly intelligent yet utlimately problematic adults?
You mention that they are not very communicative, they reduce communication further.
You mention that the noise they are making is disrupting your work, they turn up the volume.
Etc..
You basically have two choices
Bombers or maybe wee in thier shoes ??
Bombers or maybe wee in thier shoes ??
Older generation so I think they might have the latter covered themselves. 😕
Treat them like your parents if they are older. Make them feel like parents, only then will you get them to come round to your way of thinking.
And if it is my parent?
Is this about TJ and the bonus thread?
Is this about TJ and the bonus thread?
TJ's a pussycat and hardly to be classed as a problem.
don simon - if they are your parents then you probably already know how to deal with them. With "older" people they think of everyone else as children and it knocks them off kilter when people treat them (the older person) like a child as you may have done in your OP. Get them back on side by asking their advice on things and taking it. Then and only then once you've gained their respect can you start making suggestions in a way that they think they've made them themselves. Learn to do that and you'll be grand.
Maybe take a class in negotiation? Have you stopped to consider how you come across?
Learn to do that and you'll be grand.
Been tried mate, and failed. I am never going to be able to do anything to gain her respect. I'm now just looking to maintain my sanity, I haven't reacted to her, this is her pushing the boundaries and my patience- she knows exactly what she's doing and why- simply to cause damage. Mind you I do have my doubts about her sanity.
Have you stopped to consider how you come across?
Go on, amuse me. 😀
Don Simon - do you want or need her respect?
No.
EDIT: Not anymore.
If it was me I'd be teaching myself to not worry about them or their opinions.
It's not their opinions, it's the actions. I'm getting my head round the opinions stuff as I receive more information and can put things together. It is difficult to understand how someone can be abusive towards you then say, on one hand, that they are heartbroken because of a relationship breakdown, be abusive towards you and in the end try and pin the blame on you.
It's all a bunch of arse mate, cheers for listening... 😀
Go on, amuse me
No, but I'd assert that you are caught in a cycle of passive aggression. You can stop it, as soon as you realise that you have a problem. The other adult may be more passive aggressive, but what have you done to stop the situation escalating?
If it is your parents, I've been there dwelled on it, and there are responses that can stem it
I could do with some pointers with dealing with my MIL. She has to dominate everything and won't stop talking. Ever.
I want to see my parents this weekend, she wants to come too. Last time she came along I wasn't able to get a word in edgeways. Whenever I try and raise any criticism, she just sits there and laughs it off before loudly clattering around the house and ranting a few hours later.
Any ideas, or does anyone want to swap?
could do with some pointers with dealing with my MIL. She has to dominate everything and won't stop talking. Ever.I want to see my parents this weekend, she wants to come too. Last time she came along I wasn't able to get a word in edgeways
Take her batteries out , and replace with the cheap pound shop ones, just make sure you insert them the correct way