[Closed] Dating in your 30s are only mad ones single?

You wait until your 40s: that's when the real mad ones come out.

could be the same person? forget it, block them, move on. If you start worrying about things like that you're basically putty.

The old choose 2 things we have come to love on here applies

"fit, sane, single. Choose any two"

You have obviously gone for fit and single. How on earth can you expect her to be sane then....

Definitely not the same person, and the one I went on the date with definitely lied about her body shape as well, she was not athletic...

The one on the date was sane and single, the one I messaged I think was fit and single...

are only mad ones single

I seem to remember it can feel like that. But then, are *you* mad? And are you single? Furthermore are you mad for being single? Or single for being mad?

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"fit, sane, single. Choose any two"

This makes it easier - ask yourself 'so which two am I'? Then seek similar in a date 😉

So what are you then princejohn, single and.....? 🙂

"PrinceJohn" Trim your beard, sort out your leaky valve and get back on the horse. People are all slightly crazy or very dull, just hope you find your kind of crazy one. Good luck.

Ha ha, a cycling buddy of mine went on that Fitness Singles thing and met up with a woman who certainly turned out to be fit, an obsessively competitive triathlete who lives on carrots and fruit. Unfortunately her attention to the "systems" around her was zero, meaning everything including her bike was permanently broken or worn out, her car absolutely disgusting, worse than a farmer's Land Rover inside, her time-keeping hopeless and her personal habits somewhat odd. He said riding with her was a nightmare because you were always struggling to keep up with her relentless pace - I know because I met them out on the road and got dropped. I think it was when she swam along the beach off Blackpool with him paddling behind in an inflatable dinghy that he realised she wasn't the one and the relationship cooled down and she moved out of his house.

Not sure it's evidence of madness - more ladies protecting their own. Bit mean though. Unless you suggested there was more potential with the first lass than there was, I don't think you've done anything wrong. Perfectly fine to see multiple prospects - and you can bet they will be doing the same.

You are more likely to come across seemingly mad 30 something single women in my experience. Many will either be jaded, and/or keen to settle down and have babies. If you are in your 30s, it might be worth looking for a lass in her mid/late 20s.

Just date younger women

Yes, mad as a box of frogs and judging on my friends efforts it doesn't matter which sex or sexual preference by the time people get into their 30's the old love game takes a turn to the surreal - it's not madness per-se though it's a combination of being mature enough to actually be themselves instead of trying to be who they think people are looking for and baggage, So. Much. Baggage. Most people in thier 30's are wearing the scars of at least one failed long term relationship, and that's before you get into the bitter divorcees with kids - want to be in a constant state of war for the rest of your life? - that's the way to go!

I've no intention of being single again, but if the worst happened id stay single, because as someone else said - 40's single hold up 30's singles as an example of sensible level headed sanity.

"fit, sane, single. Choose any two"

But then, are *you* mad?

It's probably worth just pausing to note that the idea that there's something the matter (psychologically or physically) with any woman who is dating in her 30s is one of the most blatant bits of sexist tosh we all habitually spout. Malvern Rider's corrective question is important to save it from awfulness.

I'm not currently single, but my answer if I were would be that I'm not too shabby, not insane as such, but that For Reasons I'm single in my late 30s because the first long-term relationship of my life ran out of steam after a decade, and another one would be quite nice. Presumably most women could say the same. Except the ones who [i]actually[/i] boil your pets, of course.

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Bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy, I would think...

An associate is back on the market in his late 40s

If you think single women in their 30s are nuts... 😯

Having been married for ten years, I have to say that I rather miss fit, 30something mentalists.

Presumably you are familiar with this:

I stopped that vid after 10s, I make it a rule never to take relationship advice or advice on women from a man wearing a gun.

To answer your question, no.

Online dating is all a bit strange really, strange process, strange behaviour. It is however increasingly the norm.

I remember a woman I worked for on a job: graduate, doctorate, brilliant engineer, then looking for serious company, who said 'single men (of her age) were all wimps, wallies or rejects'.

I wondered if she might justifiably have added 'winos and whiners'.

I stopped that vid after 10s, I make it a rule never to take relationship advice or advice on women from a man wearing a gun.

I've never been sure whether that berk is a piece of performance art or deadly serious. I mean, he's an overweight, bespectacled douchebag wearing a gun with chinos and making a tiresome and deeply misogynistic youtube video about how horrendous women are. Where does he think he scores on the Hot/Crazy matrix? Intuitively, it's about 3/9, which puts him in the zone where you Just Don't Go. No real person can have so little self-awareness, which leads me to believe he must be performance art. Or maybe he's operating on an entirely different matrix of male attractiveness where his gun, his chinos and his marker pens put him in the "drown a toddler in my panties" zone. Who knows...

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wimps, wallies...rejects ... winos and whiners'

Love it.

It's probably not [i]strictly[/i] true either. 🙂

Similar anecdote, have a friend of roughly my age (34), cracking lass, very easy on the eye, has worked her little socks off, owns several properties can hold a well-informed conversation on pretty much any topic you choose, she is an all round brilliant individual, however....

She's been pretty much constantly single for a good 8 years and counting, not for lack of trying. Trouble is she tends to like quite old fashioned blokes with a taste for wooing and chivalrousness and that kind of man tends to get deeply intimidated by women who are both wealthier than them and can run rings round them intellectually, they want a nice placcid little wifey.

The quest continues...

Oh, and no, I'm not going to make any introductions, did that once before and have yet to be entirely forgiven for it.

Damn you Hatter!

From what I've found the pretty ones on internet dating are there because they have very little other than their looks. They have the depth of a teaspoon.

the "drown a toddler in my panties" zone

You wait till you're in yer 50's, that's when all the sexy, wealthy, divorced ladies come looking for some fun n frolics 😆

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Being newly single after 9 years, I encountered a few proper mad ones via online dating.

The one that pulled my mate instead of me on a double date

The one that dumped me literally during sex

The one that asked me if I wanted to have children with her on the first date

etc

Thankfully I've met an absolute cracker now. Completely 100% sane and normal. I think she may be the only one out there.

Clearly all you blokes using internet dating have the looks and body of an adonis and the charm of Bond.

permanently broken or worn out, absolutely disgusting, worse than a farmer's Land Rover inside

So you sampled some goods you'd rather forget about?

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Clearly all you blokes using internet dating have the looks and body of an adonis and the charm of Bond.

and a favourite line from a mate was I could have been her in the pics or shoe could have eaten them

Went on a date with a girl last week and got in fine ...

So you got on well enough, but didn't message her back to tell her you weren't interested, just leaving her hanging.

This to most girls is an insult, girls talk and you found her friend, she's already against you as she wouldn't want to be left hanging.

I've never internet dated, but I have friends who have (who are female) and just knowing where they stand is the thing they are looking for a lot of the time, not really mad - just imagine it's a bike company sending you parts, you want to know the status of your order don't you?

more Clooney meets Bourne

Matt Damon figures.

I mean, he's an overweight, bespectacled douchebag wearing a gun with chinos

lol. What we [s]really[/s] don't really need to know is does he:

1. Remove his glasses (s l o o o o o w w w l y, m a i n t a i n i n g e y e c o n t a c t) before entering the fun zone (sic)?
2. Re-fit the gun-belt after removing his Chinos before entering the fun zone (sic)?

'fun zone'? m'keh.

more Clooney meets Bourne

's a good job I'm married.

I'm more Bourneville than Bourne.

The one that asked me if I wanted to have children with her on the first date

I was warned about this by a female friend who pointed out that a lot of single women are at the point where it's now or never for getting kids booked in, so they prefer to weed out those who won't tick that box early.

The one that asked me if I wanted to have children with her on the first date

Seems fair enough, If she wants kids and you're certain that you don't then that relationship isn't going anywhere. Would have been better to have made that clear before a date but if that was the first opportunity then fair play.

I remember a woman I worked for on a job: graduate, doctorate, brilliant engineer, then looking for serious company, who said 'single men (of her age) were all wimps, wallies or rejects'.

I've found that women who say things like this fall into three categories

A) Have been abused/maltreated and saying things that emasculates men makes them feel empowered.

B) Have been abused/maltreated and generally enjoy still being smacked around and spend the rest of their waking lives in idiotic on/off relationships.

C) All of the above rolled into one giant hilarious ball of various clinically significant personality disorders.

Avoid like the plague.

Have you inadvertantly joined "30-something mad girl dating" ?

Who me? Nahh my wifes just turned 24.

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Have you inadvertantly joined "30-something mad girl dating" ?

[i] PrinceJohn - Member

and the one I went on the date with definitely lied about her body shape as well, she was not athletic...[/i]

Sumo?
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Aye, I've met those who have been, how shall I put it? [i]"Imaginative"[/i] when describing their physique. Others use pictures from >10 years ago and one even openly confessed, after a few messages, the picture in the profile...... Wasn't of her but was actually her friend 😯

As for "mad" they may seem that way to us, but Men are often viewed by Women as being "mad/crazy/weird" also.

My [i]adventures[/i] in online dating seemed to have me constantly under suspicion of being a "player" which was tiresome.

I've had a year out from the dating site merry-go-round, as above, finding reasonable late 30s, early 40s Women isn't easy and most if not all come with "issues". Some issues are quite common, across age groups, ime. The perfectionist is a good example. This strange expectation that everything they and their BF say and do must be perfect, without end? For me that gets real old, real quick.
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Meeting someone you can make an effort with all comes down to chance, so just be yourself and carry on.

Its threads like this that make me determined to hang on to my marriage no matter what, I'm not equipped mentally to be able to socialize with new people, let alone the fairer sex, in my 40's.

hear, hear stewartc.

These threads keep me on the straight and narrow! At least until I'm 60, by when sex will be little more than a memory and once again something that other people do while I watch.

I will also take up pipe smoking again, assuming it hasnt been outlawed. In which case I will move to France, there's no way they'll ban it 🙂

Everyone's a bit insane.

People looking for love in their 30s are likely to be fussier and/or have more baggage and/or a bit quicker to make up their minds about things.

Knowing a couple that split after one wanted kids and the other didn't (I don't think this was the only reason), I can see that asking that (as long as you're not talking about trying straight away!) isn't as mental as it sounds - though it wouldn't be on my first date list of priorities.

Specifically to the OP though, the woman that said you should be texting her friend sounds best avoided. Usually you have to wait a month or two to get that level of vague passive aggression.